Let me try to sort some of this out.
This is a rather large family, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. So when one refers to her "family", there is extended family and immediate family. Yes, they knew DH was being investigated. I cannot tell all of the details that surround the pending cases because I know things that are not being made public. But please do not throw everyone in the family into the same pile. Some people are guilty of actual crimes, some are guilty by association, and some were just unfortunate to be in the same family with them.
I know who runs the facebook pages. I also know BW's immediate family is in shock of the arrests and implications and what it might have to do with BW's disappearance. Please try not to judge how they react. Who knows what advice they've been given by LE about spreading information and commenting about it.
I cannot say what made people in the community at large join in the conversation or not join in. I've never been involved in a missing person's case. What I do know is, because of BW's lifestyle and habits, when she first turned up missing, Mobile LE didn't consider it suspicious. They felt she just left on her own and would come back on her own. When DH shot himself, BW's immediate family (parents) worried about a possible connection. Naturally this created a rift within the family. Some are defensive of DH. Some may have faked concern for BW. At this point, it's speculation, but I have hope the whole story will be coming out soon.
I've been told all along that the Mobile LE was not helping anywhere near as much as Baldwin County. They're hoping to get some answers in the very near future and see where the investigation stands.
I didn't mean to say that the parents were informed about the arrests and charges by KlaasKids--they were told by LE. KlaasKids rep (Brad?) has told them he doesn't think BW is alive. He's said that more than once.
Comparing this case to others is hard for me to do because I am not informed about other cases. I can only guess that people judged BW's lifestyle and deemed her not an innocent victim. That's just a guess. I personally feel that whatever her transgressions were, she didn't deserve to be a victim of a crime, assuming she was.