I'll be honest; I was skeptical of the "heavy-set black men" thing from the start. I didn't come right out and say it because I'm new here and I'm still figuring things out, and I know this is a victim-friendly forum that generally frowns upon questions being asked about the victims' or the witnesses' integrity, but I tried to hint at it with some of my previous comments about how I sure wouldn't like it if someone pointed at me and gave other people reason to think I did something that I didn't do, which I had a feeling might have been what was going on here. Two heavyset black men walking out with a (possibly unwilling?) young white woman in a bar in Alabama just isn't something that is going to go unnoticed by so many people for so long, I felt. It kinda smelled like the Jussie Smollet thing from last year: the villains were too perfectly type-cast to fit the situation to be totally believable.
Agreed. I noticed a flyer of a missing young woman locally the other day and when I read it, she has been missing for three years yet I never heard of her before.
Also, OT but Paighton is a woman, not a girl as many people refer to her, imo. Yes she is young compared to me, but if a female is not an adult woman at 29, what age is she? I don’t think a 29-year old man would be referred to as a boy...anyway, just a pet peeve of mine. When people are old enough to drink, buy property, etc...to me they are adults. Or should be...
Jmo
I've heard this argument a lot over the years. As a student of language, it interests me.
Personally, I usually go with 25 or 26 as the cut-off. I honestly don't believe human minds mature into their "adult" selves until that age. So anyone younger than, say, 27 is a "kid" to me. However, I will admit I'm likelier to call a female of that age a "girl" than I am to call a male of that age a "boy" (if I'm calling a 25-year-old male a boy, it's much more probable that I'm doing it to shame or embarrass him for acting stupid than if I call a 25-year-old female a girl), but I believe that the words "girl" and "boy," while we may think of them as having equivalent dictionary definitions, have taken on slightly different connotations in actual everyday usage. "Boy" tends to be used strictly to describe young, immature human males, whereas "girl," I believe, has taken on a broader overall usage that extends beyond simply referring to young, immature human females (the fact that the word "guy" has emerged over the years to basically mean a young man, while "gal" has not taken off in popularity to describe a young woman, has something to do with this, I'd say. I honestly think people would rather just say "girl" than "gal"; it's just an easier word to say). In addition, I believe that adults, both males and females, tend to be more protective of young women than young men, which is to be expected, since biologically speaking, their safety and security is of higher importance to the family and community. The very fact that we spend so much time on these Missing Women cases is itself evidence that we care on a deep level about what happens to Missing Women, more so, I would argue, than we care about what happens to Missing Men (I know some might argue about this, but think of how many times we hear the "She could be your daughter! Your sister! Your mother! Your wife!" plea when trying to get people to empathize with the victims, and then think about how many times we hear people say stuff like, "He could be your son! Your brother! Your father! Your husband!" There's no way anyone could seriously try to make the claim we hear the latter anywhere near as often as we hear the former. So we have a deeper emotional reaction when women are in danger than we do when men are in danger). So there is more of a tendency in those who are above the 27-year-old mark to use the word "girl" differently than they use the word "boy."
I honestly don't think that older people referring to twentysomething females as "girls" is wrong. Nor do I believe that it's some sort of sinister sexist agenda determined to infantilize females and revert them back to their pre-1950's state in society. I just think it's a word that comes naturally to most people who are above 30. And personally, I don't see anything wrong with it.
Now, I don't like using the word "girl" to refer to females over 30, unless it's something very context-specific, like my aged mother saying she's going "to hang out with the girls," or something. But men talk about "hanging out with the boys," too, so that's fine.