America's underground market for re-housing adopted children

  • #41
thank you Claire. I think this topic needed its own thread :)

I am still just stunned that people area trading children across the internet with people they do not know anything about.

I wouldn't do that to a family pet, let alone a child??

WTF is WRONG with people.

Children are not just toys you give return or donate when they break or don't turn out the way you hope or expect.

I really have no words to fully describe the disgust I feel with this whole idea of "re-homing" unwanted kids.
 
  • #42
A lack of legal oversight allows American parents to get rid of kids adopted overseas with impunity. Roelie Post of the organization Against Child Trafficking told RT about how “the children of the market” remain invisible in the surveillance-obsessed US.

A Reuters investigative report revealed in September that a loose internet network had developed in the US whereby dissatisfied parents used social networks to advertise and often pass off unwanted children adopted abroad with next to no government scrutiny. In the mostly lawless underground marketplace, the children are treated like livestock, with children’s protective services remaining mostly in the dark.

Post explains how commercial agencies have exploited the market in unwanted children.

http://rt.com/op-edge/rehoming-adopted-children-problems-669/

CHICAGO -- U.S. lawmakers called Tuesday for federal action to prevent parents from giving unwanted adopted children to strangers met on the Internet, and the Illinois attorney general urged Facebook and Yahoo to police online groups where children may be advertised.

The demands come as nations whose orphans have been adopted by Americans contend that the U.S. government isn't doing enough to stop the practice, known as "private re-homing."

http://investigations.nbcnews.com/_...-parents-giving-away-adopted-kids-on-internet

A few ads offering free children on the Internet:

“Born in October of 2000 — this handsome boy, ‘Rick,’ was placed from India a year ago and is obedient and eager to please.”

“We adopted an 8-year-old girl from China. … Unfortunately, we are now struggling, having been home for 5 days.”

“Prayerfully seeking a loving and nurturing family for our 14-year-old daughter who has been with us for almost a year. She honestly is almost a model child.”

This is “private re-homing,” something that once meant finding a new home for a dog that barked too much. Now it refers to families recycling their adopted children, often through Internet postings.

http://www.dispatch.com/content/sto...ng-often-ends-badly-for-adopted-children.html

Same info as last link
http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/op-ed/when-children-are-traded/article5376470.ece?homepage=true

If you're desperate for a child or desperate to be rid of one, the Internet is here to help. You can save time, avoid bureaucratic interference and escape the prying eyes of child welfare busybodies. Yes, it's every bit as awful as it sounds. But it's true.

Illinois, we are told, has some of the strongest adoption laws in the nation. But those laws "are not enough to stem the horrible practice of 're-homing' adopted children who are in perilous circumstances," according to state Rep. Sara Feigenholtz, D- Chicago, who chaired a hearing on Internet adoptions this week.

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/...131031_1_child-welfare-adoptions-two-children

Parents who give up their adopted children have been making the news with increasing frequency of late. There’s Torry Ann Hansen, the now-infamous Tennessee nurse who sent her 7-year-old adopted son back to his native Russia on a plane, alone. Then there’s Joyce Maynard, the writer who made headlines last year when she admitted to giving her two adopted Ethiopian daughters to a new family. And many have read the recent Reuters series on parents who send their problematic adoptees to live with online strangers offering free “re-homing.”

As it turns out, broken adoptions are far more common than one might imagine. According to statistics from the federal Children’s Bureau, as many as 10 percent of adoptions are “dissolved,” meaning the parent-child relationship is severed after the adoption is finalized. As countries such as Guatemala and China close their international adoption programs or implement strict new rules, the pool of adoptable babies has shrunk dramatically in recent years, leading to a rise in more challenging types of adoption of older or disabled children that are more likely to end in dissolution.

Read more: Broken Adoptions: When Parents “Re-Home” Adopted Children | TIME.com http://ideas.time.com/2013/09/20/br...rents-re-home-adopted-children/#ixzz2lbaVsvw0

Part 2: A self-proclaimed ‘lil boylover’ and a woman accused of neglect find a child on the Internet – and pick him up hours later in a hotel parking lot.

EDITOR'S NOTE: This story contains language that some readers may find offensive.

APPLETON, Wisconsin – Online, she called herself Big Momma; he went by the name lovethemcute. And in the summer of 2006, housemates Nicole Eason and Randy Winslow were surfing the Internet with a common objective.

Each was looking for children.

Winslow – lovethemcute – was 41, balding and paunchy. He swapped pictures of naked children and would later spend time in a chat room called baby&toddlerlove, where he described himself as a "lil boylover," court documents show. There, he would graphically boast of molesting boys and explain how to keep the abuse quiet: "Just have to raise them to think its fine and not to tell anyone," he wrote in a chat with an undercover federal agent. "What is done in the family stays in the family."

Eason – Big Momma – was about to turn 28. She had moved to Illinois from two states where authorities had taken away her biological children years earlier. In one report, authorities noted that a child she and friends were watching had died in her care.

Living away from her husband, Calvin, and with Winslow in the Illinois town of Tilton, Eason wanted to be a mother again. A few hours on an Internet bulletin board were all she would need to find a new child.

http://www.reuters.com/investigates/adoption/#article/part2
 
  • #43
“Born in October of 2000 — this handsome boy, ‘Rick,’ was placed from India a year ago and is obedient and eager to please.”

This made me feel sick in the pit of my stomach! :(
 
  • #44
This made me feel sick in the pit of my stomach! :(

I know what you mean. Sick, sick, sick! There are so many heartbreaking stories.

If you go to the Reuter's article, on the first page there is a section called "Interactive- Explore an online child market" Click on the graph of boys and girls and you can read what has been posted for each child. http://www.reuters.com/investigates/adoption/#article/part1

Here is another example of what you reacted to. To me it sounds like a posting on a dating site.:
[name redacted] is our 12 year old blonde hair/blue eyed adopted son. He is an extremely bright young man with a lot of energy and a great sense of humor.
 
  • #45
HICKORY, North Carolina – When Megan Exon began moderating an Internet bulletin board in 2007, she viewed her effort as a way to help kids find better homes.

The group was called adoption_disruption, and it drew parents who were struggling to raise children they had adopted.

The North Carolina woman wasn't a licensed social worker or an adoption specialist. She was a 41-year-old mother who had taken in a child herself less than two years before. Her husband had noticed a Taiwanese boy advertised on the Internet, in one of the online forums that support America's underground market for unwanted adopted children.

The parents who were giving up the boy told Exon that the 4-year-old's feet were too big and his ears looked funny. If parents could discard their adopted kids so callously, she reasoned, maybe she could help children find new families by moderating one of the Internet sites.

"We were just introducing people," Exon says of the online group, where parents sought new homes for unwanted children in a practice known as "private re-homing."

"The only thing we facilitated," she says, "was bringing people together."

Well-intentioned as that seemed, Exon would come to regret her role in the re-homing network, a collection of Internet forums where people seeking children can find one quickly. They are able to do so without involving the government and sometimes with the help of middlemen whose activities can be naïve, reckless or illegal, a Reuters investigation has found.

http://www.reuters.com/investigates/adoption/#article/part3

This must stop.

I am sickened. Physically sickened.

How deep and well populated of all types is this "underground" we are discussing. How many.
 
  • #46
I read through all 5 parts of the series last night. It is just heartbreaking!

While I can understand situations where you adopt a child with RAD and they are a threat to other children in the home, but some of these parents just come across as selfish ^$#*&*!

One ad said something about a little girl that didn't have behavioral problems, but had some neurological problems and that "wasn't acceptable" to the parents. Really? What if they had a bio child with neurological problems? Maybe it's true that some people just shouldn't be parents. But to hand a child off to a stranger on the internet is frightening!

Something has to be done. . .both in giving support to adoptive parents that are struggling with some of these very difficult kids, and in ensuring that kids aren't passed off like puppies on Craigslist. :facepalm:

ETA- Some of these shady agencies that aren't up front with adoptive parents should be held accountable in some way too.
 
  • #47
The articles introduce us to Nicole Eason and Calvin Eason, a couple who has been very actively involved with "obtaining" children through re-homing adopted children over the years. Not in a good way.

Here are two links to articles about where the couple is now living:
http://azstarnet.com/news/local/ste...cle_bf531430-bd76-58e0-80a0-9067f1a9ddf7.html

http://azstarnet.com/news/local/col...cle_b2c3a385-ca94-549f-8e8d-0b2dfe078d8b.html

RSBM

From the second article linked:


But Reuters quoted Massachusetts court records and reprinted a 2002 police report from South Carolina saying that an officer removed one child from the Easons’ home there, and that Massachusetts had taken away another child.
It’s not true and nobody’s business, she insisted. When I told her I think society does have an interest in keeping children out of the homes of people who’ve proved to be unfit parents, Eason disagreed.
“I don’t care if I dug a basement and buried a hundred kids there. Who is in my house is none of your business,” she said.
“I think that would be my business,” I said.
She held firm.
“No,” she responded, “it wouldn’t.”


:eek:

"Mentally unwell" doesn't begin to cover it.
 
  • #48
“I don’t care if I dug a basement and buried a hundred kids there. Who is in my house is none of your business,” she said.

John Wayne Gacy did that (not 100) and he was sentenced to death.
It is everyone's business. Christ on a bike that is one of the more chilling things I've read in my entire life. That and the part about the girl they 'rehomed' and made sleep between them in their bed. Heebie Jeebies *shudders* and felt so damn dirty for several days.

I so hope she can be charged and convicted of a crime that requires a long stint in prison.

I wonder if they chose AZ because of the known issues CPS has been having with investigating abuse claims?
 
  • #49
“I don’t care if I dug a basement and buried a hundred kids there. Who is in my house is none of your business,” she said.

John Wayne Gacy did that (not 100) and he was sentenced to death.
It is everyone's business. Christ on a bike that is one of the more chilling things I've read in my entire life. That and the part about the girl they 'rehomed' and made sleep between them in their bed. Heebie Jeebies *shudders* and felt so damn dirty for several days.

I so hope she can be charged and convicted of a crime that requires a long stint in prison.

I wonder if they chose AZ because of the known issues CPS has been having with investigating abuse claims?

BBM

I was wondering the same thing.
 
  • #50
So I've read through all this and it's sad, depressing, overwhelming. There has to be "good" stories that come out of re-homing? Does anyone know?



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  • #51
“I don’t care if I dug a basement and buried a hundred kids there. Who is in my house is none of your business”

That statement is absolutely astonishing. Does she really think that it's o'key to bury children in the basement and that's nobody's business?
 
  • #52
So I've read through all this and it's sad, depressing, overwhelming. There has to be "good" stories that come out of re-homing? Does anyone know?



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Sure, there are many many stories of success... There are blogs by many that have opened their homes & hearts to the children given away online. It's sad that only awful stories get told in a big way.




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  • #53
“I don’t care if I dug a basement and buried a hundred kids there. Who is in my house is none of your business,” she said.

John Wayne Gacy did that (not 100) and he was sentenced to death.
It is everyone's business. Christ on a bike that is one of the more chilling things I've read in my entire life. That and the part about the girl they 'rehomed' and made sleep between them in their bed. Heebie Jeebies *shudders* and felt so damn dirty for several days.

I so hope she can be charged and convicted of a crime that requires a long stint in prison.

I wonder if they chose AZ because of the known issues CPS has been having with investigating abuse claims?

AZ is notorious for allowing a large number of children to be adopted by one family. Lots of adoptive parents there have adopted 8-9-13-15 children. Some do it just for the subsidy.., others truly have a "gift" of healing wounded children.




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  • #54
Sure, there are many many stories of success... There are blogs by many that have opened their homes & hearts to the children given away online. It's sad that only awful stories get told in a big way.




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I really doubt it. These people are most likely people that don't qualify to adopt through normal channels. Re-homing is like the Payday loans of adoptions. I really doubt there is any quality there. It's an abuser's dream come true :(
 
  • #55
Sure, there are many many stories of success... There are blogs by many that have opened their homes & hearts to the children given away online. It's sad that only awful stories get told in a big way.




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Sorry, I completely disagree. If a couple is qualified to adopt through normal channels, I believe they will. This is straight up child trafficking. I can only guess what kind of people take advantage of a "no check" type of adoption. It's not any different from a "no credit check" type of car loan. It attracts the lowest of the low. Too bad children can't be repossessed. The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach!!!
 
  • #56
Sorry, I completely disagree. If a couple is qualified to adopt through normal channels, I believe they will. This is straight up child trafficking. I can only guess what kind of people take advantage of a "no check" type of adoption. It's not any different from a "no credit check" type of car loan. It attracts the lowest of the low. Too bad children can't be repossessed. The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach!!!

I completely agree that it's not an ideal situation by any means. But you need to understand oftentimes there is no other option than rehoming. The system that was set up for the original adoption to take place doesn't offer help when the adoption is falling apart and needs to be disrupted. They do not want the child back.

The "child protection system" as it stands now, is failing children in so many ways I wouldn't / couldn't begin to list them all. This is simply one example.

Don't think that going through the legitimate legal process to adopt offers children any sort of guarantee that the child won't be abused.
Children in fostercare are abused all the time too,

I know quite a few that have adopted through normal channels prior to taking in a child that needed to be rehomed.


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