I am not a fan of "surrogacy". It is not unlike prostitution to me, and that is illegal in most places. The whole thing is exploitative. Rich folks, paying women to use their bodies as a nine month incubator.
Are all of the babies linked genetically to this couple? Or is it an even deeper scenario?
Wow, how on earth is surrogacy like prostitution?
It has been pretty common for college students to donate sperm and now eggs for the purposes of research and in vitro or artificial insemination. I knew a handful of guys that helped pay for their college tuition/expenses doing this in the 1980’s.
The guys who donated had a file- so you could choose sperm of an A student who was an athlete and scored high on the SATs.
Same with the files of women who donate eggs.
Same with the files of women who give a child up for adoption.
Are the files honest, truthful and informative to a couple? No idea, but I know people who have adopted, and others who have used IVF and may have used donated sperm or eggs or both?
I do not know anyone personally who has been a surrogate or has a child who was gestated (I think that is a word) in a surrogate.
Could I be a surrogate? No, and I probably would not encourage my daughter to do such a thing. This is only because the emotional toll and bonding of the process of carrying a child. I would not want to simply walk away.
The possibilities are pretty amazing for couples who cannot conceive. We have to realize that couples today can include two married men, or two married women- and they themselves alone cannot conceive. So, I assume the demand is greater now? I don’t know.
I have no issues with the process, so long as it is completely transparent and the rights of all involved are recognized.
Would I use a surrogate if I could not conceive and carry a child- I don’t know. It would seem a lot of kids could find homes if adoption was chosen. But… I have two kids of my own that I carried for nine months. I hold zero judgment for a couple who cannot, it would be stressful in ways I cannot imagine.
IMO