sending out special hugs to Gitana and her brother. This has to be so hard, and even more so at what should be a happy time of year. I am just so very sorry ....
It is very hard to lose someone at this time of year, I know that from experience. There is no good time to lose someone you love but when you feel under pressure to feel happy it's really tough!
I have a suggestion to make, obviously this horrible event has moved a lot of people. It occurred to me that some of the residents or visitors to the studios could have been mental health consumers. Apparently there were LGBT (do I have that acronym right) community members who felt comfortable there. I had a lot of group therapy last summer because I had trauma from emotional abuse. My trauma was not because I am a member of that specific community but there were some in my group who had trauma as a result or compounded by issues that resulted from being a member of that community. There were also rape victims, substance abuse sufferers, families of murder victims, eating disorder sufferers, mental illness sufferers and others. A high percentage of people in the group had creative interests including myself. When I was released from my treatment I sought help for transitioning back to normal life at this studio that is for people with disabilities which includes mental illness -
http://www.artistsfirststl.org/
Artwork is therapeutic and I had just lost my studio right around the same time I suffered the emotional abuse so this place did/is helping me. My illness was more situational, I'm still recovering but I can function almost normally now when it comes to work and stuff. When I was feeling able I started volunteering there. I volunteered at a similar studio in the late 90s/early 2000's for about 5 years. This place does not provide residence but it does provide studio time and supplies to people who need them. It helps with all kinds of recovery, mental and physical. If you want to help the Oakland fire victims then I think it's a good idea to donate to a fund for them that you know is reputable, and if you would like to help other creative people who are also mental health consumers donating to a studio like this in your city in memory of the fire victims would be a very good cause. Donating to a similar studio in the memory of or in honor of anyone who has suffered abuse or mental illness would also be a great way to reduce the amount of suffering in the world and help people recover from all kinds of trauma.
The portion of my mental health bills from last summer that insurance did not pay was around $4,000. I am fortunate that I have the means to pay the bill but there are other mental health consumers who do not have the means. Since I have the means I pay $5 an hour to use the studio if I want to use it as a client and not a volunteer. There are subsidies for those who don't have the means that come from donations and fundraisers. Since I had to downsize my studio I also donated a vanload of supplies since I couldn't keep all of my supplies. I feel good about that, it helped ease the pain of losing my studio. I know they are doing a lot of good. Once when I came to the studio one of the health care workers who was there with her client was wearing a necklace her client made for her which included beads that I donated. I know they both got enjoyment and healing out of that. Caretaking is a tough job! At the old studio where I volunteered years ago a client told me my class was the only reason she got out of bed that day. Both the givers and receivers of volunteer time and resources experience healing in places like this. Supporting them any way you can is a good cause and a good way to help and honor creative people.
I am also praying for the fire victims and their families, the people I was in treatment with, and all abuse and mental illness victims as I do my Advent prayers. I wish for peace and healing to all. I know it can be a long road to get there sometimes. I was humbled by what others in my group therapy had suffered.