Bill Carson
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That is untrue. In CO, joint legal is standard. Joint physical - which is a legal term of art and isn't the same as parenting time- is also more likely than not.
But in a case of two small children with a mother who is more available due to her type of work as schedule and if that person was the primary caretaker during marriage (which it definitely appears to have been in this case), the mother is likely going to be deemed the primary custodial parent, will get vastly more parenting time and the other party is likely (depending on income) to pay more and/or receive less in support as a result of the unequal parenting time.
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Actually, you are both right and wrong. (This is what I do for a living.)
With respect to decision-making, joint decision-making is favored unless the parents just can't get along. This is the right to make decisions for the child's health, education and welfare.
We don't use the term "custody" in Colorado, we use the term "parenting time." Colorado doesn't have a standard parenting time plan or possession order like some states. The parenting time is customized in each case depending on the facts and circumstances and the proximity of the parents to each other. The amount of parenting time is determined by counting the number of "overnights," that is, the number of nights the children sleep at each parents house.
Nowhere does the Colorado law specifically say 50/50 parenting time, but that is the customary practice through much of the state. Judges in Colorado don't like to hear contested cases about parenting time, so they often just split p-t 50/50 unless there is a really good reason not to. Sometimes this looks like week on/week off, where the child spends 7 uninterrupted days and nights with each parent. Sometimes it is a 4/3/3/4 plan; sometimes it is a 5/2/2/5 plan. Or one parent could get most of the time during the school year and the other parent gets more time during the summer and holidays. It gets complicated.
Judges are not supposed to "restrict" (this is another term of art) a parent's parenting time except under extreme circumstances, and the standard is endangerment to the child's physical health or mental wellbeing. What "restriction" means is debatable. Typically giving one parent weekdays and the other weekends is not considered restriction, but limiting one parent to every-other -weekend might be.
Now, all of the equal parenting time scenarios presented above assume both parents live close enough to each other and the children's school that equal time is workable. If they don't live close enough for it to be workable, then the court will necessarily have to make one parent or the other the "primary residential parent," and that parent will have the children during the school year, and then they will try to give the other parent as much time as possible during the summer and weekends. This is not considered restricted parenting time, so you don't have to show endangerment.
In this case, if the parties separated, I have presumed that the house would have to be sold, since neither party would have enough money to keep up house payments on one income. And then I presume that SW would most likely desire to move back to NC, which I believe she would. (CW might move back, too.) I think it is most likely that SW would be named primary residential parent in this case, although some judges will surprise you.
ETA: Colorado is also a no-fault divorce state, meaning that it doesn't matter who is at fault for the breakup of the marriage. You can't allege fault grounds as an alternative theory. This means that CW's affair is simply not relevant to the divorce or parenting time, and would not be discussed in the divorce case unless CW's paramour is somehow a dangerous person for the children to be around.