nwmouse
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I'll keep this general since I don't know any of CW's background/childhood history, but many, if not most, FAs never had to own their faults and mistakes in their lives. Many men who went on to kill their pregnant wives and/or their entire families had parents (mothers, in particular) who sheltered them to an absurd degree and protected their sons at all costs growing up. I hate to blame moms, truly I do, but FAs seem to be "products" of narcissistic mothering. David Temple is a great example (although he is not a true FA since he didn't harm his son physically, "just" his pregnant wife/unborn daughter). His mother and father, but especially his mother, to this day, think David hung the moon and the stars above. They overlooked all of his troubles growing up and swept them under the rug. He literally could do no wrong in their eyes. He was a football star (sort of) and they just would not or could not believe he was capable of horrific violence.
We have seen many other cases of grown men who murdered their pregnant wives and/or their entire families whose mothers go to their own graves believing their son didn't commit the murder(s). They have "fixed" everything for their son for so long, it can't be possible that their precious boy could do something so bad. It goes against the family's reputation and the image of their perfect son.
Denial is really powerful and narcissistic parenting is incredibly damaging. If junior can do no wrong in the eyes of his family, then how can he ever learn that actions have consequences? Mom will fix it. She always has.
Thank you so much for this insight!
Definitely saw it in SP's case.
I know there is a saying out there: "Only a mother could love him", and I guess it applies in this case.
I understand that it is a mother's instinct to love and protect her children, but that comes along with bestowing a sense of right and wrong, actions and consequences (responsibility) into the son/child.
Otherwise it may lead to terrible consequences.
MOO