Tippy, I hope you continue to post and everyone else who may happen to hold varying viewpoints. Any discussion is poorer if this doesn't happen. Sadly some posters have disappeared from this thread. I may not agree with certain statements or ideas but I respect people's right to state them.
I agree with the observation that many parents of murderers show a level of denial and failure to grapple with the facts. I wonder if that is because they are often speaking fairly soon after the fact and perhaps over a longer period of time they may become more rational.
It has long been the fact that mothers have been blamed for the violence of their sons. Too strict, too permissive. Obviously there is evidence to show that childhood influences a person's character. But underneath it also is a strain of misogyny, blaming mothers for their sons murdering their wives negates putting responsibility where it lies, in this case solely with Christopher Watts.
It's true. Without differing viewpoints, there is no true dialogue and no real learning. It's just an echo chamber.
However, I draw the line at sly or outright insinuations that bash the victim, based on nothing but gossip and nonsense like videos that show parents interacting like millions of parents do, with one another and with their kids.
That is not valuable dialogue. It's not honest debate, IMO.
And to me, it has no place in a case that involves real human beings and surviving family members who suffer when such hate-filled rumors, innuendo, gossip and allegations, are publicized.
I also agree that there is a societal urge to blame mothers that has misogynistic undertones (as did the bashing of a murder victim who didn't know how to treat her man).
And to me it seems that FA's aren't created by mothers. They are created by dysfunctional family systems and maybe genetic predisposition to instability. As I stated on the podcast, don't let dads off the hook.
But moms are part of those systems and often we've seen in these cases that mama is the loudest voice in the room, so she's the one everyone hones in on.
Yes, CW is the only one responsible, in my mind, for these crimes. He had the ability to make decisions and he knew right from wrong.
How such a person develops, however, is extremely interesting.