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I am disturbed by any parsing of potential domestic violence.
Either it was or it wasn't. Either we know or we don't.
My comments are not directed at this specific post but to all posts that want to try to explain this particular evidence that we know so little about.
Because there are DV survivors in this forum, I find it disturbing to either discount or classify behavior not defined by the prosecutor as DV either way.
We have Barry's statement and we know his character. That is all we have, right?
Please correct me if I am wrong about the facts. All the rest is MOO.
I am not only one of those DV survivors, also with two daughters, but I have consulted with LE for more than 25 years regarding DV cases and DV education in the community.
We have lots of evidence of the full range of DV in this case. We have family members of Suzanne saying Barry was "controlling." We know that Barry went to CO (without Suzanne) and that Suzanne okayed the house purchase from afar. We know that Barry believed Suzanne did not have an ATM and that he "was the ATM." We know that he considered their debts to her father to be her debts alone. There's so much evidence of financial abuse, I don't even want to say more.
Domestic violence is not just violence. To classify portions of DV only by the severity of, say, bruises does not capture things like "bumping up" against the victim with a big muscular body or pinning someone down on a bed, so that they have to wrest themselves away (Suzanne's communications with SO; her grievance list). You see, caging someone (in anyway) is a form of abuse/violence. If someone is kept locked up, even if no one pushes them around with their body or pins them to a bed or smacks their nose, it's still DV. Deprivation of freedom is DV. And I can parse it that way, and experts parse it that way too. There are some links here on this thread or the last one.
It is in fact these other abuses of power within a marriage that cause the depression, anxiety and inability to make decisions that we see in so many abuse victims. The abuser no longer has to be physical - that's the goal. The person becomes a captive, like a creature in a zoo or a dog that's kept chained up. Even if you feed and water the dog, it's still dog abuse.
Everyone remember when BM was verbally attacking AM? Stating the search for Suzanne was a publicity stunt etc? Wasn't this around the time where he claimed Suzanne would often cry on his shoulder, as she couldn't understand 'why her siblings refused to show her love'? I just find that strange in ĺight of Suzanne's sister’s view on their relationship, Suzanne appeared to trust her enough to confide in her, intimate details and information about the marriage and BM's (alledged) behaviours the day/2 days before she disappeared, I'm sure there was spats/bickering etc. between Suzanne and her siblings, but what if he was recalling an argument that he and Suzanne had, and she used that phrase in relation to him.
It feels like he bases things on truth such as incidents/events but lies about the details. IDK.
Make sense?
moo
Alienation of affection from her family - another abuse tactic. I've seen this one in the field (I've done fieldwork among a group of women living in poverty - most of them single, most of them former marital abuse victims) and the degree to which their relationships with their parents and siblings were destroyed by their former husbands was almost a given.
I haven't posted in quite a while but have watched this case from the start. After learning much more about the timelines and the windows of time that may have been used to dispose of evidence - I want to go back to a theory I had long ago. I am sure that LE has thought of this in all the hours and searches too. So much has been fixated on BM ' s hunting - but he probably also did a lot of fishing. As this outdoorsman, he would know of many places nearby to throw a line out. I direct attention to Colorado's largest reservoir - just down highway 50 and not far out of Gunnison. Well within the timeline to make a night time trip for disposal. There are two bridges where the highway passes over - and the guard rails are not that high. Below the water depth is very deep. Very very deep. At night this is a very low traveled area. Camera's ? I doubt it. But for someone desperate to hide something - a much easier disposal than trying to dig a deep hole.
Very unfortunately, any kind of deep diving or searching would require a heck of a lot of resources.
One thing that I wonder about in regards to items that BM may have used to dispose of evidence. There has been much talk about missing coolers. Maybe with weight that would work - tossing it over into deep water. But I have wondered about a potential tool chest he may have had in the back of his Ford and if it was ever missing ?
I think about a potential tool chest ( many are metal and fit snugly in the bed of a truck. I definitely had a hunter/ fisher friend with one of these in the bed of his Ford. It nestled up next to the cab and was metal. Made for a Ford pickup. My friend sure kept alot of tools and random stuff in there. It had a hinge that he simply used a heavy duty lock on. Like I said - it was metal and pretty good sized. Bigger than a cooler and heavy on its own. Very sinkable - forever - if you catch me.
I have also wondered about all of those random tools left by BM at the hotel in Broomfield. Obviously out of the back of his truck. Obviously not needed for that supposed job that day. Right ? So did those tools have a ' home ' - in the bed of his truck beforehand ? Had they been kept in a tool box that was not there anymore ? Were these random tools left at the hotel vs. brought back in the bed of his truck for a reason ? Not like they were used for something gross and nefarious - but simply because they no longer had a home in the bed of his truck ? And that might set off suspicion ?
I don't know of any evidence about the toolbox, but I've long thought that the only thing that explains him putting all his hand tools in the hotel luggage carts (before he goes to wash his truck), is that he no longer has the tool box (I picture the type that most Ford truck owners have). I wonder what happened to it. Would hold quite a few tools - enough to fill a luggage cart or too. And that's what MG and JP find when they get to the hotel.
I agree with you on a potential water burial. So many sources nearby.
Regarding the hand tools BM allegedly left behind for his crew, I'm recalling a statement by MG very early that makes me think that BM did not have a truck tool box when she said that it looked to her like BM just emptied his truck bed at the hotel. At the time, MG would not have known that his toolbox was missing.
I also don't recall seeing any close-up photos of his truck(s) prior to SM missing. But I'm also inclined to believe that BM did not use his own vehicle when he disposed of SM's body. MOO
Good points. I think MG's statement could include a tool box and that "truck bed" includes all the things normally in a truck bed, for many people who use that phrase. So it's unclear. But tempting to think that there was some criminal reason for the tools to be left in the hotel. Maybe he did just leave tools unprotected from the elements in his truck bed (in which case, I figure he rarely used them and they were not in the best of shape). There's a reason that screwdrivers, saws, ratchets, wrenches, pliers, etc. are kept in tool boxes and Barry ought to have also had various clippers and trimmers. These things are expensive! People usually keep them locked up not just to preserve them so that they can be used, but in order to keep them from being constantly stolen.