Coach coaches game five hours after giving birth

[southcitymom]

This happened in the town where I live. The woman in question does not live here. She was traveling with her team and went into labor. The doctor who delivered her baby happens to be our mayor. He was on TV talking about it and said she was in great shape and there was no reason she couldn't attend the game.

Women who have just given birth are not simpering invalids. Back when my son was born 28 years ago, they did not allow the baby to stay in the same room with the mother. When I left the nursery to go back to my hospital bed, I guess I was abandoning my child, too. Shame on me.

I'm really surprised at the backlash here on Websleuths. All of you are usually very open-minded.

Thanks for giving us the rest of the story, Yak!

ETA: I too was delighted to let the nursery have my little ones for a while so I could get some much-needed rest!

 

[hipmamajen]

Wow, she's tougher than I am. Even with my easy deliveries I was a mess, really wobbly and worn out.

 

[czechmate7]

Nobody complains when the husband leaves the newborn for work.

My ex-husband tried to leave after the birth of our daughter to go back to work (but he's an insensitive pr*ck!).
The article was very vague....how far away did she travel? How far along was she? Was she on travel restriction? Was her husband with her? Did she leave the baby, in the hospital, in a strange town without any other family to stay with him? The article said she commented about being 3 minutes late for the game....is that something you're concerned with when you've just given birth to your child??(Getting to the game on time!!)
My father was a head football coach and actually did miss a playoff game when I was born....he always blamed me for that loss (jokingly..I think...for 37 years now) because he chose his newborn over his work....but said he wouldn't have changed it for anything! (My daddy loves me!!)

 

[luthersmama]

As a long time L&D nurse I think this is sad. She will never gets those precious moments back. I understand dedication but, this is too much!

OH COME ON!!!! An hour or two out of a lifetime? Jeez Louise...the kid might have been asleep the whole time!!!!

I am shocked that WS folks are so judgemental!!! It is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS!!!! Leave the woman alone!!!!

We rail at women who throw their babies in the trash, or abuse them, and here is one who is a good woman who just wanted to see her team through.....so she went to the game for awhile when her son was a few hours old. BIG DEAL!!!!!! It was up to her, her husband and her docs. NOT US.

ARE WE ALL SO F'ING PERFECT?????? Just because we might not make that choice doesn't mean she was "wrong' or a BAD MOM. It isn't like she went out for a snort of coke, for pete's sake!

 

[Yakwoman]

My ex-husband tried to leave after the birth of our daughter to go back to work (but he's an insensitive pr*ck!).
The article was very vague....how far away did she travel? How far along was she? Was she on travel restriction? Was her husband with her? Did she leave the baby, in the hospital, in a strange town without any other family to stay with him? The article said she commented about being 3 minutes late for the game....is that something you're concerned with when you've just given birth to your child??(Getting to the game on time!!)
My father was a head football coach and actually did miss a playoff game when I was born....he always blamed me for that loss (jokingly..I think...for 37 years now) because he chose his newborn over his work....but said he wouldn't have changed it for anything! (My daddy loves me!!)

She was in town specifically for the tournament and went into labor. She was not due for a few weeks. Yes, her husband was with her. They interviewed him, too. He was very proud of his wife and her dedication to her team. They seemed like a really nice couple.

 

[JanetElaine]

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OH COME ON!!!! An hour or two out of a lifetime? Jeez Louise...the kid might have been asleep the whole time!!!!

I am shocked that WS folks are so judgemental!!! It is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS!!!! Leave the woman alone!!!!

We rail at women who throw their babies in the trash, or abuse them, and here is one who is a good woman who just wanted to see her team through.....so she went to the game for awhile when her son was a few hours old. BIG DEAL!!!!!! It was up to her, her husband and her docs. NOT US.

ARE WE ALL SO F'ING PERFECT?????? Just because we might not make that choice doesn't mean she was "wrong' or a BAD MOM. It isn't like she went out for a snort of coke, for pete's sake!

I wish you'd told us how you really feel, though.

 

[opme]

I realize mothers and children are sent home sooner now. But didn't it used to be the practice that a new mother and child stayed in the hospital and spent quite a bit more than a couple of hours apart in the first day or so?

The length of stay depends on where you deliver as well.. in my case I deleivered in a birhting center and only stayed the alloted 12 hours. I frankly was just as happy to go home to my own bed with my newborn and my husband.. he however would have been happy to stay with the professionals forever!

It sounds to me as though there were extenuating circumatances.. if she travel with the team and her husband was there .. a couple of hours isnt going to make that much of an impact on the bably.. most sleep in the first 16 hours after birth anyway. Also as someone else noted the baby was early and I suspect this was likely her beginnning of her maternity leave..
For cripes sake in thrid world countries women have children on the job so to speak and once the delivery is over they stand up and go back to work..

 

[FLMom]

In my experience. . . .

After my second child was born, we did the bonding thing for about an hour, then they took her off to the hospital nursery to do all the "stuff" they do with newborns. I sat in that room ticked as all get out as the hours went by. I kept calling the nurses station wanting to know when they were gonna bring her back to me and I was getting angrier by the minute.

When my son was born a few years later, I knew the drill. After an hour I slapped my robe on and hobbled down the hall to the nursery and stood there in the window, giving them the stink eye after I'd been standing there for an hour, waiting for my son. My husband thought I was going insane, but I didn't want a repeat of the five hour wait the first time.

What stood out to me as I read this was that maybe if I'd had something else to do during the time the nurses were "doing their thing" with my child, I wouldn't have been such a PIA to the nursing staff.

As Bill Cosby said in his routine about childbirth, they used to have em in the field, then scoop em up and keep going. . . . . .

JMHO

 

[calus_3]

I want to marry this woman!

I think that I could safely and effectively retire as resident ass kicker when something goes wrong around the house!

Holy COW!

Cal

 

[calus_3]

OH COME ON!!!! An hour or two out of a lifetime? Jeez Louise...the kid might have been asleep the whole time!!!!

I am shocked that WS folks are so judgemental!!! It is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS!!!! Leave the woman alone!!!!

We rail at women who throw their babies in the trash, or abuse them, and here is one who is a good woman who just wanted to see her team through.....so she went to the game for awhile when her son was a few hours old. BIG DEAL!!!!!! It was up to her, her husband and her docs. NOT US.

ARE WE ALL SO F'ING PERFECT?????? Just because we might not make that choice doesn't mean she was "wrong' or a BAD MOM. It isn't like she went out for a snort of coke, for pete's sake!

WS'ers judgemental? NO WAY!

Yes, just for the record, I am practically perfect but we aren't talking about me!

Cal

 

[angelmom]

Nobody complains when the husband leaves the newborn for work.

Speak for yourself. My husband didn't leave my side for four days in the hospital when our oldest was born, and only split time when the others were born so he could be with the other kids. My cousin is only one of several dads I know who took 2 weeks off work to be with their newborns.

If my husband had left me 5 hours after delivery to coach a game, I'd have had his basketballs. I can't imagine his reaction if I had left.

Of course, I couldn't even sit up by myself 5 hours after delivery, so it would have been a challenge.

 

[pjop]

The first thing I thought about when I saw this on TV this week was.....Um, that isn't exactly anything to be proud of. :waitasec:

 

[Dark Knight]

I wouldn't go anywhere 5 hours after passing a stone let alone a baby, lol. That's nuts, she couldn't have been comfy! Dang.

 

[Taximom]

Speak for yourself. My husband didn't leave my side for four days in the hospital when our oldest was born, and only split time when the others were born so he could be with the other kids. My cousin is only one of several dads I know who took 2 weeks off work to be with their newborns.

If my husband had left me 5 hours after delivery to coach a game, I'd have had his basketballs. I can't imagine his reaction if I had left.

Of course, I couldn't even sit up by myself 5 hours after delivery, so it would have been a challenge.

Hey, I was just playing devil's advocate, angel!

Believe me, I'd have had someone's basketballs too if he hadn't been at the births of our children because he had to coach a game, playoff or whatever!!

 

[pedinurse]

she's got more energy than I do. More power to her!
You guys are so fickle! Geez! Wishing that she gets hate mail? Labeling her as a future abuser? Oh please! Just take it as dedication to her team who was going to an important game and leave it at that. I am sure that things are fine, and I'd be surprised to hear if she isn't planning on taking a full maternity leave!

 

[angelmom]

Hey, I was just playing devil's advocate, angel!

Believe me, I'd have had someone's basketballs too if he hadn't been at the births of our children because he had to coach a game, playoff or whatever!!

I have no doubt that you would be with your baby and not on some basketball court!!!

My poor husband had to make the agonizing decision of whether to be with me or follow the baby to the NICU with our first 2. He finally went with the baby, figuring that no one could try to give him back the wrong wife.