She should have never had them so he could not hurt himself! My son is 30 his life is not what it should be due to breaking his neck at age 14 granted he is not paralyzed but he has horrendous pain and lives in 24/7 pain.Due to his problems he has not been able to work for 7 yrs! I monitor his medicines because I fear he could possible harm himself,I do have legal guns in my home not only under lock and key but he has no idea we have them!Do I do this because I think he might shoot up innocent people or 1 of us?No,we do it so on those days when the pain of living seems endless and death seems better then barely having a life he can not hurt himself!He has told us and his doctors if not for his son he would not want to live the way he has had to for 7 years.He is a computer genius and highly intelligent but his hands ,arms when not in intense pain go numb and he can not even do what he loves since he was 10! For the past year he has had almost daily kidney intense pain and more stones then I can remember also uncontrollable high blood pressure even with 2 meds for it.Finally after all this time they realize he might have a kidney disease :banghead:and they referred him to a kidney specialist his appt will be in 6 months! His has to go thru a clinic due to no insurance.Some days it takes him an
hour just to be able to move his neck it locks.So just for his own safety she was very reckless IMO.Sorry about the ranting!
ETA He was rear ended in a car accident 7 yrs ago and his life has been like this since then.
Thank you for sharing this, mikeysmommom!..and absolutely no apologies necessary!
I am so very sorry to hear what your son is forced to live with day in and day out..and yes this exact type physical pain will absolutely weaken a human being in all capacities, and yes, so very sadly to the point of feeling helplessness, and even downright hopelessness at times..
I can say however that your son is without doubt blessed with having a strong, loving, and supportive on all levels, MOTHER.. no doubt in my mind that you are the rock, and that you on a DAILY BASIS are met head on with challenges that you conquer and defeat that are so far beyond the realm of what a large percentages of mother's will never know..will never be made to face.. Yet you face them everyday and are strong enough to not just pull yourself through the difficulties that you as his mother face in your own personal battles of dealing with the heartbreak of seeing your son struggle in daily pain..but above all of that and most importantly you are there for your son, every day, by his side making sure that he makes it through each day..
Tho, I quite obviously do not "know" you outside of WS, nonetheless your words speak volumes of your strength and most importantly your unconditional love that only a mother can give, live, and help their child through on those days that their child is struggling and just doesn't have the strength to pull themselves up.. That love that goes the distance and bends downs, and without a second thought pulls up their child by their boot straps, and boldly walks alongside them ensuring that even when they're weak, beat down, or wanna give up that you are there to be leaned on, gather support and energy from, and comfort along those bumps in the road that may appear on any given day..
Thank you for sharing and thank you for ringing the bell of reality that IMO at times we ALL need to be roused awake to the the true reality of NOT ONLY our world, but also the world around us..
I do have great hope for your son and I say that in knowing the physical pain of which you speak..the pain that takes its toll on our mind, body, and soul while/during/after the throes of the unrelenting pain... I truly have great hope that your son has relief, reprieve, and even healing in his future and still has an entire life left to live along with his young son.. Not only will you all be in my thoughts, but my prayers as well.. I know for some the offer of prayer may seem lame, with no true meaning, or even any way of knowing if those repeated offers of prayer by people are even actually followed through with..or are they merely just empty words said for the sake of their sounding or meaning well..
I can attest to the absolute fact that by far and wide the people who speak and offer those words of prayer for one of us or our loved ones, 9 out 10 are filled with not only promise of following through with, but also those words that become prayers are overflowing with hope, comfort, and even healing.. and it is exactly that hope, comfort, and even healing that I'm praying for you, your son, and your family:hug:
Mikeysmommom, always remember that even tho, it may seem impossible, and just not "doable" you truly MUST take time for yourself.. time apart from your son, grandson, and just the stressors that often everyday life presents.. you must always make and take time for yourself..even if just briefly..an amount of time set aside that is SOLELY AND ONLY about you..."ME TIME"..Not only do you deserve it, but most importantly WITHOUT IT you will become run down(mind, body, and spirit).. resentful(regardless of the fact that this is your son, we are still human at the end of the day).. and in time that wear and tear will become overwhelming..
So, take and ENJOY that "ME TIME" that you deserve....JUST FOR YOU!:hug:
All the best,
Jessica