I do not have support from my husband, he would still not wear a mask if he didn't need to. I have suffered from anxiety from so much going on with loved family members plus the Covid. I got some help for my anxiety but I think it is him causing some of it. I finally felt I could manage getting some groceries and went to wipe the cart handle down plus had gloves but he grabbed the cart before I could wipe the handle off and pushed it away down the isle. One time when we were riding in the car our niece called and he asked her if she was planning a visit here to see Grandma in the home, (his Mom) which we have only window visits. She said "no, you have too much Covid in the area". She got off the phone and I mentioned that our state is not doing well. He yelled at me about it is because we test so much blah blah blah. Never yelled at her though. Like I said I keep my mouth shut around him over the subject.
Dear I’m Just Here,
If you only knew how many times people tell me something similar, that their husbands are not taking the virus seriously, and that there is anxiety/conflict in the household as a result. If there was a forum on that subject, I’m sure it would have several posts, so know you are not alone in this.
I’m sorry you have to go through this. I am going to guess from the “testing” comment that he may be misinformed as a result of listening to misinformation and fake news.
Whatever the case, it breaks my heart to read that he pushed the shopping cart away, etc. - it is cruel imo to resist something that would make your partner feel more safe or comfortable, and of course it’s probably contributing to your anxiety - it would contribute to my anxiety too.
Without overstepping bounds and getting too personal, if I were in that situation, I would explain to my partner, that even if he doesn’t care about the virus, if you care about ME, and my well-being, and my sense of security, and what’s important to me, then you will at least try to please be respectful and take this seriously, that all this is hard enough as it is...And that we’re going to be here for a while longer, so we need to try to get through this, together...
Not taking this seriously is serious business as you know. I don’t know what I’d do if someone else in my household was undermining me and basically gambling with my health/life. Well I do know what I’d probably do - Adios. (Easier said than done, YKWIM, I’m just sayin that would be a very difficult thing to put up with.)
My words are strong, and I’m trying to be as gentle as possible, but this attitude is not cool imo, and more importantly it is dangerous, imo. Unless he wisens up and takes things seriously, the truth is you, and anyone else in your household, are in danger of getting this virus. Because imo you have to actively and responsibly and consciously defend against it. And if one is resisting it to begin with, mentally, then how cautious are they really being?
Pushing the grocery cart away may not sound like a big deal, but you know what, IT IS. Both in principle and in reality.
jmo