Silver Alert CT- Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #10 *ARRESTS*

[LittleBitty]

Geez, at least make NP work for the money he isn't getting from FD. Don't do it for him.

It won’t matter though. I truly believe the evidence will speak for itself. But I do get your point. FD is guilty, IMO of murder and no amount of legal stuff or smoke will change it.

 

[LittleBitty]

Geez, at least make NP work for the money he isn't getting from FD. Don't do it for him.

ETA: I think you may have nailed it. I can hear him saying exactly this.

It makes me incredibly sad. Because I see this stuff happening and wish there was a way to stop it.

 

[SteveP]

It won’t matter though. I truly believe the evidence will speak for itself. But I do get your point. FD is guilty, IMO of murder and no amount of legal stuff or smoke will change it.

I can still hear NP standing with FD and saying, "we are ready to go to trial". I am pretty sure FD is pooping his pants at the thought of going to trial for murder, because I don't believe even he thinks jurors are going to fall for Pattis' bs, and there is no way he will take the stand in any trial...JMO

 

[LittleBitty]

I figured NP was going to attack JD. Just not like this in a way that was so hurtful and inflammatory. But I think he has license to do so, his client FD, who is a piece of work.

 

[MemPat]

Uh oh.

The thrill is gone?

Trouble in paradise?

Tsk Tsk

I guess it's not true that "the couple who dumps blood together stays together". So sad.

 

[Bulldogs2]

But he did build and sell a number of houses. What difference does it make if you get a loan from a bank, your father in law or another private investor? Why his business eventually got in trouble, that's another matter.

I think that previous to building these multi million dollar homes, he built smaller developments in the Farmington valley area. If you look st the FORE website under completed projects, I recognize some of these street names. Got too big for his britches

 

[MemPat]

Framing this for the defense opening statement: “FD shows up at JDs house (forget about the truck switch with the ex-employee that’s incidental) and finds a garage door open! With blood and license plates inside that incriminate my client! He panicked! Given their highly contentious divorce proceedings and the child custody hearing which would occur in a few days, my client did the only think to do was protect himself. He had to hide the evidence. He was scared and frightened. He assumed he would be framed. Can you imagine? He was against a money machine. He had no money. He was broke. His wife threatened to “break his legs.”. She is emotionally damaged and uses drugs and makes up tall tales. She is writer and like any good writer she framed her husband. She has all the money and the power and my client was just an innocent pawn in this. She and her family held and hold all the cards. She is a damaged woman who wanted revenge and she got it!”

Lucky he had the presence of mind to have hired a body double in advance to make a run to Hartford.

 

[MemPat]

I wonder what this revelation is intended to do for his client, such as maybe help NP try to color anything MT says about FD as less credible (what a conundrum...) due to the breakup.

Publicity for Pattis plus tainting the jury pool, not to mention becoming the day's story over what LE said about the good work they're doing at the garbage place.

I also think he expects to get LE to give up some of what they know in response to his crap. It's not working.

I would expect the judge to get word of this latest routine and slap a shut-up order on him. Let us hope.

 

[Bulldogs2]

Somewhere that first wife is thanking her lucky stars that she got out while the gettin' was good!

I don't doubt that he sought that divorce once he caught wind of Jennifer's trust fund which probably brought increased monthly income with each birth. The fact that the children came in multiples had to thrill him.

Right on! No blow to ego and he saw $$$$$. I just looked up and he and wife 1 lived a few minutes away from me in 2004. Yikes. Hard to know that this person is around your neighborhood.

 

[SteveP]

I figured NP was going to attack JD. Just not like this in a way that was so hurtful and inflammatory. But I think he has license to do so, his client FD, who is a piece of work.

Absolutely nothing that NP says will surprise me anymore, but every time he opens his mouth, he is further alienating his potential jury pool. I really believe that.

 

[LittleBitty]

Lucky he had the presence of mind to have hired a body double in advance to make a run to Hartford.

A body double that also had a counterpart. Same phones pinging at the same route along Albany Avenue. During the same time they were caught on camera in a similar vehicle that managed to show up at FDs home address while checking the mail? Wearing the same clothes?
Very clever for a man who is broke?

 

[MemPat]

It makes me incredibly sad. Because I see this stuff happening and wish there was a way to stop it.

I wish people in Connecticut would start a social media campaign with the judge's email address and phone number so people can ask him to silence the attorneys. Are the judges elected or appointed there?

 

[MemPat]

A body double that also had a counterpart. Same phones pinging at the same route along Albany Avenue. During the same time they were caught on camera in a similar vehicle that managed to show up at FDs home address while checking the mail? Wearing the same clothes?
Very clever for a man who is broke?

He got luckier by the minute!

 

[Bulldogs2]

In CT, the grounds and procedure for separation are the same as for divorce.
I assumed they just filed for divorce since at least Jennifer seemed sure she wanted to divorce him.
I think the custody issues and property division is part of the reason it took so long. If the parties cannot come to a reasonable decision then the courts will decide for them, which is what apparently happened in this case.

So maybe it was not until the decision was made by the courts that they finally declared them free to marry? I really don't know.

Either way, I'm not sure why FD's lawyer stated that things were turning in his favor regarding the divorce.
It seems to me that he was resentful of the courts decision to only allow him supervised visitation with his kids.
He may have been free to marry, but initially he wanted both his wife and girlfriend under the same roof so he still wasn't getting his way. Imo

I’m pretty sure that in CT, you cannot be divorced u til the child custody is worked out. Also he was lying on his financial affidavit so they wouldn’t be able to be divorced without settling finances. This would likely be dragged on a long time. They would have to decide child support, alimony etc. it’s quite possible that she may have had to eventually give him a settlement to get rid of him in exchange for custody of the children, I bet he would have taken that. It’s pretty obvious that he did not want to contribute to his own children’s welfare because he stopped the medical insurance and told her to pay it. That tells me he really doesn’t want to be a father and you can’t force someone to be.

 

[DeFoSaLRgione]

Thank you for a lovely post to help us empathize with the many people in this world like Jennifer. And thank you for the work you do.

Glad to offer my experience but so deeply wish I didn’t have to share this perspective. Will look into the validation process!

I know most states have Law Enforcement Advocates ( DV advocates that work alongside courts and police). These folks can offer confidential support, education, resources, accompaniment to court and other tangibles to empower victims. JD may have been appointed a LEA at some point during divorce proceedings but has option to accept or deny the service. Anyone in the local criminal justice system know the accessibility of advocates in CT?

Regarding the victim shaming by NP in MSM today...

-Significant stress can cause fluctuations in weight and eating patterns. Eating and sleep are often first things to go when life is flipped upside down. Curious if NP mentioning heroin use is somehow related to alleged weight loss in JD.

-The use of antidepressants does not necessarily signify a significant mental health crisis (they certainly could, but NP needs a better defense, IMO). Mention of an RX of an antipsychotic or mood stabilizer MAYBE would signify a more severe diagnosis. Even with those diagnoses if a patient is med adherent, has learned adequate coping skills or engaged in counseling/healing modalities they can live healthy, whole lives. Plenty of folks do and THRIVE. Take that, Norm!

-MOO and fury continued... The ignorant, victim shaming statements on JDs mental health has potential to backfire negatively for NP. Stats are all over the place but an estimated 1/6 Americans take daily antidepressants. It’s 2019. Those going through life transitions (grief, job loss, divorce... we like to call those “adjustment disorders”), PTSD from fear of loss of life, victim of IPV/DV, acute stress (raising 5 kiddos, a drawn out legal case)... could all exacerbate or bring out any symptoms of depression or anxiety. The use of an antidepressant could also be validated by the range of professionals JD was in contact with (per divorce hearings).

-There is lots of room now for the AG to begin to destigmatize JD seeking mental health treatment. As livid as these attacks make me, it gives the AG plenty of time to gather facts and expert witnesses to continue to dignify JD.

 

[Bulldogs2]

Yeeks, if this is true, I will certainly keep you posted if I see this lady in town...

There are a lot of Mom's in this town that knew JD personally. I only knew her face from children's sports, but my children were not on teams with her children. I recognized her the day the Silver Alert came out and asked my good friend, do we know this lady she is so familiar, and she said I know her, as my son is on her son's team, and yes you know her face from the local sports facility ..

No one will be happy to see MT around here.

She’ll be st the local grocery store and jogging too with media right behind!

 

[CTGrammy]

I believe HIPAA won’t protect the amount on the bill that NP disclosed. And I don’t think NP disclosed it if he knew he would be violating HIPAA. Also, the bill was addressed to FD meaning he can disclose it if he wants. He isn’t disclosing any medical information therefore he’s not technically violating HIPAA.

Your last sentence is right on. I was fortunate enough to train and work on Wall St. for a period and this was the overriding attitude.
Money, money and more money.
And as I've said previously we were taught well how to identify
those potential clients w/ sizeable incomes and assets.
FD was capable of doing the same and sought out women to date
based on their family money. I'm sure he was able to sleuth
JD's father's income and went after her like a shark on blood.

Even divorcing his first wife, weeks before the wedding to JD. I do not know the time line of the separation from wife number one, but the ink was not yet dry on the final divorce papers, before he and JD were married in NYC. I wonder what the first wife is thinking about all this.

 

[LittleBitty]

I just want someone to tear apart my impersonation of NPs opening statement. Destroy it and reduce it to nothing. I truly believe that’s FDs best defense outside of self defense. I keep looking for loopholes outside of it. I’ve posted as much I just don’t know how to take FD down. And this guy is a piece of work. An absolute “unusual person” bc we can’t post what he really is which is a lot of bad words. A lot.

 

[Bulldogs2]

It was HAPPY PERSON!! Where is our friend?

I left town today so I wouldn’t think about it!

 

[tmar]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

Thank you for your informative post, your valuable work, and welcome here, "DeFoSaLRgione.
Your info about Domestic Violence, and probably what Jennifer has experienced, makes one feel lucky, not to have experienced something similar.
So many people have been affected in this case, and it is horrid to see this creep, carrying on with his life: shopping, running, sweeping the doorstep, for all to see.
This creep loves the attention.
I cannot wait, when he is arrested, when he receives all the attention he desires.
MOO.