Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #13 *ARRESTS*

[Bulldogs2]

3blue, there's a lot of good literature out there about it. I'll look around here and find the interesting book I found during Amanda Blackburn's case.

This definition is a particularly good one: "The most common causal model.....imagines a skein of interrelated biological, social, and psychological factors, in which a predilection lurking in your DNA may flower heinously with the right combination of childhood experiences, learned behaviors, and nurtured quirks."

In psychiatry there are several personality disorders that one can be diagnosed with. They cannot be cured. There is no medication for them. There is one called narcissistic personality disorder and another called antisocial personality disorder. I believe these two fit .

 

[Bulldogs2]

Or it is someone agreeable to both parties and the Court such as the Nanny.

JMO

Whoever the person they could have been lax , or afraid, to say something.

 

[Bulldogs2]

OMG-are people really that dumb and inattentive?

Yes

 

[Bulldogs2]

Most ex's have little good to say about the former spouse. That's why they divorced. I respectfully disagree. It's more likely that wife number one was aware of FD already having a woman waiting in the wings. In some states a newly divorced person has to wait a period of time before remarrying. 30 days in Texas.
I'd like to post her background from what I have read, I just don't remember where I read it so I cannot link to a site. Can a mod help with this?

The ex wife is an attorney in Louisiana now. Remarried with children.

 

[afitzy]

OMG-are people really that dumb and inattentive?

Yes, its unfortunately the audience that No Case Norm is pandering to...most people don't follow cases with any level of attention and so are likely to remember/belive the last thing they heard. That person mentioned probably remembered reference to the movie/book Gone Girl and then connected that it was a missing case and there you go..off to the races on the crazy train and not a fact in sight!

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Someone mentioned a jury and I started thinking...I don’t care where you go in this country or who you ask, everyone has a family member or friend if not himself or herself who has been in a relationship much like the FD/JD at the core—not at the same high level of money and not with the wife now missing but with a domineering, judgmental man who cheated on the woman and acted like he was the only one who mattered. Many people have had a son-in-law they felt wasn’t good to their daughter (or son). Pattis can say what he wants but how many stories about FD have been told that show bad behavior—beyond this—, and how many stories of JD’s kindness, devotion to her kids, and other positive things have been told? Add to that the fact that FD’s attitudes come through clearly despite the efforts made to present himself as the one “who’s most affected”. Anything can happen, of course. I’ll just hope for good.

 

[afitzy]

Someone mentioned a jury and I started thinking...I don’t care where you go in this country or who you ask, everyone has a family member or friend if not himself or herself who has been in a relationship much like the FD/JD at the core—not at the same high level of money and not with the wife now missing but with a domineering, judgmental man who cheated on the woman and acted like he was the only one who mattered. Many people have had a son-in-law they felt wasn’t good to their daughter (or son). Pattis can say what he wants but how many stories about FD have been told that show bad behavior—beyond this—, and how many stories of JD’s kindness, devotion to her kids, and other positive things have been told? Add to that the fact that FD’s attitudes come through clearly despite the efforts made to present himself as the one “who’s most affected”. Anything can happen, of course. I’ll just hope for good.

I sincerely hope you are right that people can see behind the money and priviledge of JD to realize that her life was taking care of 5 very young children and it was a role that according to the family and friends commentary she very much embraced. JD didn't in any way seem to abdicate her parenting role or tasks and stepped up to take care of 5 children born very close together and by all accounts was a very involved and loving mother.

I had forgotten until today when someone kindly posted the announcements from Brown that JD I think had back to back twins!

Assuming the traditional husband role was maintained that others on here have spoken about I'm not sure FD was present for much of the child rearing duties IMO. Even with a nanny or helper, taking care of 2 sets of then infant twins had to be an all consuming task and mostly likely at times totally overwhelming for JD. It sounded like JD had a solid support network at the school her children attended in Farmington and later in NC but to even handle the caretaking until the children were of school age was an enormous undertaking IMO.

 

[Genieeasy]

Encourage anyone that wants to learn more about the NC community to check out the local online newspaper:

NewCanaanite.com » Michael Dinan

IMO the articles written by Michael regarding the case have been some of the best and his article untangling the basic details of the 'money trail' of FD was extremely helpful in understanding why FD had been fighting against disclosure of his financial dealings in Family Court for nearly 2 years. The article about the financial aspects of the case written by Mike is in the Media Thread for this case.

Michael Dinan is an excellent journalist. I could not find the money trail article you mentioned can you link here?

 

[sleuth66]

I’d like to think that as a smart woman, she would be aware of his alleged misdeeds, but I’m not really sure she was, aside from possible (likely) infidelity. He hadn’t had the same kind of opportunity at that time, I think, to get as deeply involved in financial shenanigans as we think he did later on. I do wonder if she has spoken to NP yet-although it may be too early for that, since he hasn’t yet been charged with JD’s murder.

She’s an attorney herself so she’s hopefully pretty savvy on things like this.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

I sincerely hope you are right that people can see behind the money and priviledge of JD to realize that her life was taking care of 5 very young children and it was a role that according to the family and friends commentary she very much embraced. JD didn't in any way seem to abdicate her parenting role or tasks and stepped up to take care of 5 children born very close together and by all accounts was a very involved and loving mother.

I had forgotten until today when someone kindly posted the announcements from Brown that JD I think had back to back twins!

Assuming the traditional husband role was maintained that others on here have spoken about I'm not sure FD was present for much of the child rearing duties IMO. Even with a nanny or helper, taking care of 2 sets of then infant twins had to be an all consuming task and mostly likely at times totally overwhelming for JD. It sounded like JD had a solid support network at the school her children attended in Farmington and later in NC but to even handle the caretaking until the children were of school age was an enormous undertaking IMO.

I so agree! And if I remember correctly, almost every issue JD brought up in the divorce was related to the well-being of the kids. It wasn’t about how he treated her except as how that in turn affected the kids. If not for the kids, she might not have left him. People will find the strength to do things for their kids that they wouldn’t for themselves.

 

[Bulldogs2]

Just like a psychopath to complain about HIS own circumstances. Has anyone told him his estranged wife is missing a presumed dead ? ‍

The technical difference between a sociopath and a psychopath is that a sociopath has more functional, charming behaviors .

 

[clearskies1]

Most ex's have little good to say about the former spouse. That's why they divorced. I respectfully disagree. It's more likely that wife number one was aware of FD already having a woman waiting in the wings. In some states a newly divorced person has to wait a period of time before remarrying. 30 days in Texas.
I'd like to post her background from what I have read, I just don't remember where I read it so I cannot link to a site. Can a mod help with this?

I wasn't trying to say that I think she will testify. I actually think she won't testify and think she probably would not have much good to say about him. My point was a legal one -- If she does testify, the defense is taking a big risk on having other evidence come in. That was my point.

 

[sleuth66]

I sincerely hope you are right that people can see behind the money and priviledge of JD to realize that her life was taking care of 5 very young children and it was a role that according to the family and friends commentary she very much embraced. JD didn't in any way seem to abdicate her parenting role or tasks and stepped up to take care of 5 children born very close together and by all accounts was a very involved and loving mother.

I had forgotten until today when someone kindly posted the announcements from Brown that JD I think had back to back twins!

Assuming the traditional husband role was maintained that others on here have spoken about I'm not sure FD was present for much of the child rearing duties IMO. Even with a nanny or helper, taking care of 2 sets of then infant twins had to be an all consuming task and mostly likely at times totally overwhelming for JD. It sounded like JD had a solid support network at the school her children attended in Farmington and later in NC but to even handle the caretaking until the children were of school age was an enormous undertaking IMO.

In the divorce papers JD stated that FD was away traveling approximately 10 days each month- waterskiing, “business,” during their marriage, and how happy she was that he was getting to train with a top waterskiing coach and doing so well. And about how overwhelmed and exhausted she was at times taking care of the kids.

 

[sleuth66]

Most ex's have little good to say about the former spouse. That's why they divorced. I respectfully disagree. It's more likely that wife number one was aware of FD already having a woman waiting in the wings. In some states a newly divorced person has to wait a period of time before remarrying. 30 days in Texas.
I'd like to post her background from what I have read, I just don't remember where I read it so I cannot link to a site. Can a mod help with this?

Here’s the Hartford Courant story on FDs first marriage:
Fotis Dulos’ first marriage to Hilary Aldama ended quickly, amicably

 

[Midwestmom2019]

The ex wife is an attorney in Louisiana now. Remarried with children.

Heard that she was an attorney, graduated from UT Austin. FYI, prestigious school here in Texas. But odd that she's in Louisiana. Their laws are very different from the other 49 states in that it is based on Napoleonic law. The rest of the USA follows the British system. Louisiana law schools offer either or, not both. For those that plan to stay in LA, clearly they choose to learn Napoleonic laws. Others, follow the common law.

Haven't creeped her, it just came up in readings early on.
For what it's worth.

 

[Dmcp]

Michael Dinan is an excellent journalist. I could not find the money trail article you mentioned can you link here?

Accusations of Threats, Lying, Manipulation in Missing New Canaan Woman’s Divorce Case

 

[HopeForTheBest]

I sincerely hope you are right that people can see behind the money and priviledge of JD to realize that her life was taking care of 5 very young children and it was a role that according to the family and friends commentary she very much embraced. JD didn't in any way seem to abdicate her parenting role or tasks and stepped up to take care of 5 children born very close together and by all accounts was a very involved and loving mother.

I had forgotten until today when someone kindly posted the announcements from Brown that JD I think had back to back twins!

Assuming the traditional husband role was maintained that others on here have spoken about I'm not sure FD was present for much of the child rearing duties IMO. Even with a nanny or helper, taking care of 2 sets of then infant twins had to be an all consuming task and mostly likely at times totally overwhelming for JD. It sounded like JD had a solid support network at the school her children attended in Farmington and later in NC but to even handle the caretaking until the children were of school age was an enormous undertaking IMO.

The thing about her having money is that so did HE—thanks to HER. That makes him look even worse. I think I recall the schools from before and this latest place saying how often she was there and she ran down the litany of the things the kids did and that she took them to in one of her blogs. She wasn’t, from all appearances and reports other than FD and Pattis, a jet-setter living for parties and never seeing her kids. I’m not saying that there’s something inherently wrong with being a jet-setter or living for parties, etc.—not my circus and not my monkeys—but money or not, she was putting in the time and effort for those kids, and not for reflected glory or for other pursuits as FD appeared to be.

 

[spaz1959]

Here’s the Hartford Courant story on FDs first marriage:
Fotis Dulos’ first marriage to Hilary Aldama ended quickly, amicably

Wow, good article. Empowering women, good for her.

 

[MrFixit]

Just wanted to post a pic of FD and his buddy from yesterday taken by Fox61 as I think this captures who FD seems to be. Nice and friendly when you are doing what he wants and then as soon as the crew didn't seem to be leaving we see frustration and then the next frame shows him stopming off and then goes to tense cell phone call. IMO a picture tells the story....
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This picture is going to prove to be very important. Thank you for posting this.
Here is the link the the video:
Fotis Dulos emerges at Sturbridge Hill home to continue work Fotis Dulos emerges at Sturbridge Hill home to continue work

 

[Canchance]

I so agree! And if I remember correctly, almost every issue JD brought up in the divorce was related to the well-being of the kids. It wasn’t about how he treated her except as how that in turn affected the kids. If not for the kids, she might not have left him. People will find the strength to do things for their kids that they wouldn’t for themselves.

IMO, if not for the kids, she would have left him sooner.