Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #13 *ARRESTS*

[Dmcp]

Completely agree with you on all this. Frogtown is normally so crazy and you need to concentrate to drive it that the empty lot never registered until today.

I just have to keep reminding myself it was May 24th with way less growth than now. Makes evaluating how concealed he’d have been then difficult.

 

[MemPat]

It seems like there was at least something in the report leaning in FDs direction, because on 5/2/19, the day after JD filed to replace the GAL, FD filed for emergency custody (it was denied). So he was screaming from the treetops about it.

To give JD credit, she had a tough lawyer and she had the means to pour money into the case, which as we see ultimately broke FD, which he fully deserved after all the years of mistreating her and holding her and the kids hostage in his narcissistic underworld.

Unfortunately though it broke him in a way that ended tragically for her and her family. It appears that only a full-time armed bodyguard could have saved her from his narcissistic rage.

My friend’s mom used Reuben Midler in her divorce and it became a textbook case. Everyone involved probably gasped when JD disappeared and blood was found in the garage, and we will all likely gasp some more when the details come out. With a divorce docket like this the motive is crystal clear.

The irony is that Jennifer had to pour money into the divorce/custody case until FD ran out of her family's money to oppose her.

I guarantee he felt quite justified in killing her to regain access to the family money through the children.

Sane people like us who have earned our own livelihoods cannot wrap our minds around FD's kind and
I would imagine his story makes hard working LE determined to take him down.

 

[peace9274]

I am new to this site...but I can’t help but wonder...GF had armed guards relatively quick...JD had filed to argue the new visitation order....I also noticed FD had filed a complaint that JD previously was scheduling things for the kids that interrupted his visitation....any chance her plan to go to NYC was for the entire weekend...and the armed guards were prearranged?....maybe one of the kids tipped him off by text that they weren’t coming?....I do think the forensic audit definitely played a factor in this but he also had many complaints about not getting to see his kids

Welcome to Websleuths!!
Thank you for your comments. I’m looking forward to reading more of them!

 

[tmar]

I am new to this site...but I can’t help but wonder...GF had armed guards relatively quick...JD had filed to argue the new visitation order....I also noticed FD had filed a complaint that JD previously was scheduling things for the kids that interrupted his visitation....any chance her plan to go to NYC was for the entire weekend...and the armed guards were prearranged?....maybe one of the kids tipped him off by text that they weren’t coming?....I do think the forensic audit definitely played a factor in this but he also had many complaints about not getting to see his kids

Welcome Jewel.
Pleased you are posting with your ideas.

 

[tmar]

Depends on the angle that is being looked at whether vehicle could be seen IMO. But I think there could be a way to angle the vehicle so it is for the most part hidden from view on Frogtown and not visible if someone drives down Welles. The property is quite overgrown and there is alot of brush at the corners of the property adjacent to to Frogtown and Welles. Frogtown slopes upward slightly just beyond the entrance to the lot so Welles sits higher than the empty lot. When you turn onto Welles from Frogtown both sides of Welles are trees and dense brush but there really isn't any place to hide on Welles that I could see unless you were hiding in the woods between the properties and the right side of Welles is on a hill. I do think it would be doable to hide car in empty lot, take a walk down Welles and depending on the security cameras in place on neighboring houses to hide after the first house on the right on the steep slope that is covered with trees and brush.

afitzy: you are a gem, with all your work, and a real asset here, explaining the areas.
The pics are terrific along with your explanations.
Thanks again.

 

[Canchance]

The irony is that Jennifer had to pour money into the divorce/custody case until FD ran out of her family's money to oppose her.

I guarantee he felt quite justified in killing her to regain access to the family money through the children.

Sane people like us who have earned our own livelihoods cannot wrap our minds around FD's kind and
I would imagine his story makes hard working LE determined to take him down.

She had to pour money into the divorce but I doubt that was her first choice. Fighting crazy is very expensive. People like FD drag things on. It’s war to them. The other has no choice but to fight back.

 

[tmar]

ITA He can't have been so foolish as to have a plan that included spilling all that blood, and bringing contractor bags to put the clean up materials in on purpose.
I don't think he meant to have any blood spilled and when that happened, he just grabbed whatever bags were around her house. Kitchen and bathroom trash bags are the most likely, they are usually white and a dark substance smeared on them would be noticeable.

Probably, the blood happening was not in FD's plan.
In his rush, for a quick clean up, he used kitchen/bathroom bags found in the house:
OR
did he plonk all the cleaning stuff together, place them into a car/truck, and then packaged this into bags later, for his disposal run with MT.
MOO.

 

[tmar]

I often keep those small grocery plastic bags when I go shopping in the CT towns that still allow them because they are convenient to have for small clean up jobs. I'm assuming that FD made 30 stops because those were the only type of bags he had on hand, wherever he was located...perhaps at a house that was being built where you don't have a designated garbage can. FD and NP come up in the dictionary when you look up the word narcissist.FD "knows what he did and didn't do", in other words, knows what he may be able to get away with and NP is going to try and create as much DOUBT as he can because that is what he is being hired for - to create doubt. NP knows FD killed JD. NP thinks he's a rock star. They are both vile narcissists. Poor FD , he is without his kids and girlfriend..he's the "real victim". There are too many people in this world like FD who use and abuse innocent people like JD who just want to be loved. I can't wait to see this monster go down. MT is a monster too. Come on LE...give us something this week!

Your last line (BBM) is what we want, and we certainly are waiting for a terrific surprise.
The look on FD's face will be so good to see: in complete shock.
MOO.

 

[tmar]

The remedy is removing the GAL and replacing him with another. Which ironically is what FD has been wanting.

Criminal evidence won't be shared with civil litigants or their experts until after the criminal case has concluded, but that part of the family law case is on indefinite hold, likely, anyhow.

Enjoy isn't a word I would use to describe my viewing of the World Cup. More like intensive agony. I almost passed out during Holland vs. Sweden because I was holding my breath for so long. (My mom is from Holland)

I don't know why I subject myself to it but women's soccer especially is a passion for me.

Can't wait for the Olympics!

FD's loss, in both the criminal case and civil, will be something to look forward too, hoping all the evidence is revealed.
Keeping us sane, as we follow these cases, our interest in sport helps us turn off.
What about Wimbledon (at the moment) and the new No. 1, Ash Barty!
Hope her climb continues.
MOO.

 

[MemPat]

She had to pour money into the divorce but I doubt that was her first choice. Fighting crazy is very expensive. People like FD drag things on. It’s war to them. The other has no choice but to fight back.

The advantage for a mother in a dragged out custody fight is with every year that passes her children are better able to have a say in where they spend their time.

I believe Jennifer was thankful for every day her children were not under the influence of FD. The world is better for that.

 

[Jmoose]

Thanks, clearskies, it's good to read this again. "Items.....which appeared to be stained" makes me think more of something fabric (clothes, towels?) that would absorb the blood.

Obviously, not everything was in a bag if these were seen on video.

I think we have lots of surprises coming....as does FD!

I hope it’s the kind of surprise where FD has an arraignment.

 

[MemPat]

I am new to this site...but I can’t help but wonder...GF had armed guards relatively quick...JD had filed to argue the new visitation order....I also noticed FD had filed a complaint that JD previously was scheduling things for the kids that interrupted his visitation....any chance her plan to go to NYC was for the entire weekend...and the armed guards were prearranged?....maybe one of the kids tipped him off by text that they weren’t coming?....I do think the forensic audit definitely played a factor in this but he also had many complaints about not getting to see his kids

Welcome, Jewel!

 

[MemPat]

Probably, the blood happening was not in FD's plan.
In his rush, for a quick clean up, he used kitchen/bathroom bags found in the house:
OR
did he plonk all the cleaning stuff together, place them into a car/truck, and then packaged this into bags later, for his disposal run with MT.
MOO.

If he did, there was some major DNA in the vehicle. How great would that be?!

 

[sleuth66]

Could you link me to the docket? Also, this case ended up such a mess because of FD. When I see cases this horrible it's because one side is insane and vengeful and has money to litigate.

Here’s the link to cases in CT. You have to do a search by name:
Party Name Search

 

[gitana1]

I agree that the system didn’t lead to nor cause FD to murder Jennifer.

However, the CT Divorce system should not have allowed for Jennifer’s and so many others’ Divorce proceedings to drag on for so long... allowing those in contempt to get away with it.

And thus causing so much financial and emotional pain and hardships and destruction for those involved, including the children.

It’s been said over and over, and I agree, that the only ones who truly benefit in a CT Divorce are the attorneys, unfortunately.

MOO

Edited for spelling

I know. But aggressive litigants take advantage of due process rights. There's not much that can be done.

People who are parties to divorces often don't understand the ins and outs.

They assume too much. "Why does he keep getting away with this!!"

"Well, the judge hasn't read the motions yet because due to an impacted calendar we keep getting continued."

"Yes but he keeps doing all these terrible things! Look at all his emails and letters that I have to pay you to respond to!"

"The judge isn't reading all of that. I am. The judge only reads what's before her and set for that day. She has hundreds of cases and doesn't know every fact of every one. No judge could."

"But he keeps hassling me!"

"But the judge doesn't know everything he's done. She only knows what is before her in the subject of a motion."

And on and on.

The fact is FD absolutely did NOT get away with contempt. His rights to his kids were taken away for the most part. Contact was totally suspended for months. Which is super rare and super harsh as parents have constitutional rights to raise their kids. So this was a major punishment for contempt.

Next, he was given only minimal, supervised visits. Again for months. Lasting to the point when his contact was again halted.

For a guy who has high priced lawyers and is aggressive in litigation, he got an extremely poor outcome for himself. That was directly related to his contempt of orders not to expose his kids to his sidepiece.

There are consequences in court but it can take a long time and be a long process. The court has no choice but to entertain motions filed by the parties unless they're absolutely gibberish. Or repeat the same thing.

There's nothing much the court can do if someone has money and the means to litigate at this level of aggressiveness unless it is clearly frivolous.

But I can think of so much to slow the process that would be legitimate if my clients could afford it - intricate discovery (depos, request for admissions, special interrogatories, depositions), motions, requests for forensic evaluations, emergency motions, on and on.

And all would be valid.

Litigants like this take advantage of an impacted court system. Never enough judges for the caseload.

But while people complain they become super offended when they're asked to pay taxes to make the system run more smoothly and faster (such that special masters, for example, can be appointed on county dime and handle cases and bring them to a conclusion).

And frankly, I don't think that's the most important use of our stretched tax dollars right now.

Finally, I must point out that the docket shows Jennifer was a pretty aggressive litigant herself.

 

[gitana1]

Here’s the link to cases in CT. You have to do a search by name:
Party Name Search

Thank you!! @afitzy linked me (i believe) but good to have.

 

[gitana1]

The advantage for a mother in a dragged out custody fight is with every year that passes her children are better able to have a say in where they spend their time.

I believe Jennifer was thankful for every day her children were not under the influence of FD. The world is better for that.

I'm so glad he has no contact now and I fervently hope that continues.

He's the type that will kidnap or kill his kids if he feels no hope of "winning". IMO.

I think the judge has his number now and realizes the danger he poses. God I hope so.

 

[afitzy]

For those that might not have read it please take a glance at the HC article posted today about the Dulos divorce. I'm not sure who originally posted the article (thank you!), but I put it in the media thread shortly ago for future reference.

This quote from the HC article posted today pabout LE taking a look at the divorce and doing the forensic accounting work:

"Police are examining the Dulos’ bitter divorce as part of their investigation into the May 24 disappearance of Farber Dulos, sources said, and have launched a forensic audit of Dulos’ finances [BBM], racked in recent years by the enormous costs associated with the breakup, including fees paid to at least three attorneys who have worked on his case".

My hope is that the best that the FBI has on staff in forensic accounting do the best possible job to unravel the situation to understand how a father effectively misappropriated/stole the cash that should be used to house and feed his children and pay for their schooling? The ongoing complaints from FD about no cash and needing financial assistance to pay his attys combined with complaining about how the divorce was taking too long, totally ring false when the continued motions filed on his behalf simply made the difficult situation worse and it happened over and over again with no consequences from Judge Heller.

I also hope that LE takes a look at the huge toll on JD finances that the divorce action was taking as she was paying for the bulk of everything given that FD was pleading poverty. IMO FD strategy was to bring JD to her knees financially and he knew how much she had and he just kept chiseling away until she was paying for everything, including the litigation.

JD had a healthy income from her trust but between school fees, litigation costs, rental of NC house, childcare costs and staff it was virtually all eaten up. If you just do the basic math its easy to see how she needed some assistance from GF periodically and she was cutting back on childrens extra activities due to the strain of the situation. The stress of the financial situation that was totally engineering by FD on top of her great fear of FD and managing the divorce action must have created an overwhelming situation for even a very strong person.

To appreciate even a tiny bit of what JD no doubt had experienced since leaving FD makes watching the recent 'poor poor pitiful me' FD interviews tough going. I truly wonder if FD has the capacity to know right from wrong on any level as his behavior in the divorce action was as close to psychological and financial terrorism of an individual as I've seen in a long time. The idea also that FD is asking to see his children after what has been disclosed about how he treated their mother and how he had zero apparent interest in supporting the children is something I hope the courts take a good hard look at.

 

[peace9274]

Could you link me to the docket? Also, this case ended up such a mess because of FD. When I see cases this horrible it's because one side is insane and vengeful and has money to litigate.

You mentioned that NP sees Jennifer as being the crazy one in this case. So, he’s sees the same case as you, but thinks his client is the insane one while you see FD as the crazy one. And either way, it is a crazy mess!

 

[sleuth66]

She had to pour money into the divorce but I doubt that was her first choice. Fighting crazy is very expensive. People like FD drag things on. It’s war to them. The other has no choice but to fight back.

The bottom line is that JD was both smarter and richer than FD, and that was the fatal flaw, literally it seems, for him as a narcissist.

JD was highly empathetic, and you can see from the years of her blog how she tried to adapt and justify to herself his controlling narcissism by focusing on the kids and putting her needs aside, everything from not having her own bathroom (when the house had 7.5 bathrooms) to naming the youngest daughter, to the party heavy lifestyle and excessive mad rush of extravagant holiday travel that she dreaded. Also how she tried to be supportive and take pride in his obsession as a champion water skier, convincing herself how happy she was for him to have a world renowned coach even as he travelled 10 days a month to pursue this fantasy. She absorbed all of his demands at her own expense, in the name of keeping him from exploding and for the sake of the kids.

It was only when she found out about MT and FD suggested that MT and daughter move in, that she couldn’t absorb it anymore. Not because she wasn’t capable, but because there was no way for her to hide this egregious violation by convincing herself it was her own limitation, or for the sake of the kids. She couldn’t look away or pursue perfectionism as a solution, because it was so obvious and disruptive, and it would be so visible to others. It was also about this time that she found out he had a gun that he had purchased without a permit in FL and brought to CT; and he cornered her in the bedroom with the nanny watching. There was no more way for her to cover it up, and she realized that her life was at stake.

Once she decided to go, she executed it perfectly, which was of course a huge insult to FDs controlling narcissism. His calling 911 and urging them to “hurry up” the night she left to NC was the start. In court over the next 2 years FD faced battle after battle with her attorney RM who isn’t one to let anything go. Plus narcissism isn’t the best strategy in court where your opposition can draw clear lines from fact to fact and where narcissistic invincibility doesn’t always work out so well. Lying under oath, and manipulating your children to do so, doesn’t pan out well when you’re found out, and is even more infuriating when your opponent (JD) has outsmarted you by hiring a private investigator to out you. And then you’re running out of money, too, and it’s your wife’s money to begin with. And, you’re about to be exposed for the fraud you are, and maybe even face charges related to the lies you’ve been living and running your business on.

It’s clear from the divorce filings that he was cornered and running out of options. The so-called “favorable” custody report, his last resort, was down the drain too, inadmissible as evidence and unconvincing to the judge when he narcissistically asked for emergency custody after it was revealed. It was clear that by making JD “disappear” he could solve this big problem, and he knew he was smart enough to do it well. Classic textbook narcissistic rage.

Once arrested, feeling cornered again, he found just the narcissistic mirror he needed in NP. Someone equally dependent on attention and willing to collaborate on building a fantasy about who’s in control, who’s really the one being harmed the most here. And so the saga continues.