Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #15 *ARRESTS*

[Midwestmom2019]

Huh. I know the answer is here somewhere...I didn’t think that was so but even if so, I think it’s odd to name half a company after your sister unless maybe she invested in it. So maybe it’s not so odd. Yes, that’s right; as much as I don’t want to do it, when I think FD deserves the benefit of the doubt, I can give it. Fortunately, the facts and my opinions (MOO) don’t often require me to do so.

Sister according to threads is an architect. Her name/initials are reflected in the Fore name. I can’t recall exactly how. FD and sister.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

I've been trying to put together a timeline of MT's various positions, life, and when and where she became entangled with FD. No one seems to be able to state when her relationship with JD started.

One of the more shocking revelations in JD's divorce filing is the statement concerning spending weekends at JX with FD, MT, and her child. I can't comprehend the horror and outrage JD must have felt, but I can't fathom that MT could have gone along with this crazy scheme. FD to MT: "Hey, there are a lot of bedrooms in the house, so we can accommodate my current wife and our 5 kids here along with your daughter and you and I." Any other woman probably would have bailed at the suggestion. Now she's had to post bail.

Seriously, if MT was aware that FD suggested the above to Jennifer and didn't have serious thoughts about FD's morals and scruples and PEOPLE SENSE, she too must be as insufferable as FD.

FD is the classic youngest, charming manipulator child in a family. I imagine that the his older sister did everything for him. (BTW, where was mom??) Adler's birth order psychology might make FD an only or the youngest. Either way, this dynamic has potential to skew the kiddo's view of the world. Possible outcomes include:
"Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled." or "Is more competitive, wants to overtake older child. May become a rebel or try to outdo everyone. Competition can deteriorate into rivalry." I wonder how often his sister let him "win."

From:
www.adlerian.us/birthord.htm

Some have wondered when FD began to "stray." I think some of the answers are in the blog. FD expected Jennifer to effortlessly take care of the 5 children and be there for him whenever he wanted. She alludes to this when blogging about her time in Greece where everyone stayed up late and then she had to get up early to care for the children. She wondered how they did that in Greece. MT was probably a lot more "fun." She only has one child who spends part of the year with her biological father. MT can party, stay up late, be at FD's beck and call, and be more spontaneous than a drudge with responsibilities to someone other than her irresponsible husband....just thinking aloud.....

I’m sorry I’m so tired tonight to be prompt at researching but I recall in court papers, it said JD found out about the affair FD was having with MT a year after it had begun so it was at least a year before the divorce was initiated. MOO because I can’t find that at this moment—but I will later.

 

[Midwestmom2019]

Not just on the driveway-in the street

Teenagers. Preteenagers. Many times we let them get a little feel for driving. Not in the middle of Manhattan. But on sparsely traveled roads connecting home sites several acres apart. Or empty parking lots.
No big deal. Porsche or pickup truck. Same.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

God this makes me sick. An entrepreneur that left his lucrative consulting job. My a—. What it should say is he left his job and his first wife when a woman of more means came along and took 10 million dollars from his father in law to build overpriced boxes. This makes it seem like he’s a self made man. Sickening.

I’m sorry it made you sick. It did me, too. Not that I would sleuth any of those notes as working with him but I wonder what they think about all of this. MOO but it seems as though people who treat others badly often have made it a habit. But maybe not.

 

[Midwestmom2019]

I've heard of people in these situations just
flat out refusing to sign a pre-nup, then what
does JD do? Back off? Give him his way?
That may have been his first "WIN".

If there had been a prenup, the divorce paperwork would have revealed its existence.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Narcissists spend their lives tearing other people down in order to build themselves up.

What they strip from others is what it takes to fill their empty holes.

I would argue that FD didn't have a need to BE a better caretaker and/or parent; he had a need to APPEAR to be better than Jennifer and still does.

How dare that woman get in the way of the facade he so carefully built! She made him furious and she had to get dead.

Right! I so agree! I hope it didn’t seem like I thought he wanted to do the caretaking in the, well, caring way most people do because I didn’t and don’t think that. I think it was, indeed, about control, power, and looking better than others.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Sister according to threads is an architect. Her name/initials are reflected in the Fore name. I can’t recall exactly how. FD and sister.

Right. He’s the FO; she’s the RE, but I don’t recall the year the company began with that name. It’s here somewhere...

 

[Midwestmom2019]

I doubt MT was the first. There is never "just one" with people like FD. If MT thinks he has been faithful to her, she is seriously deluded. I am shocked that no other women have surfaced yet. Super surprised no other women have stepped forward. They are out there.

Maybe not. He had WAY TOO MUCH TO LOSE.
Traveling 10 days a month gave him plenty of opportunity. If they happened, probably one night stands. MT may have influenced him enough by proving her worth with Fore Group. Promoting it. Winning awards. PR work. Experienced in drawing great beneficial attention to her employer.
Now, she’s turned it around. Avoiding any negative PR about the disappearance/dumping bloody bags the best way she knows how. She and her lawyer are hiding in the shadows and letting FD and NP have the spotlight. And they are dumb enough to take the bait. Oh well. Can’t fix stupid.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Right. He’s the FO; she’s the RE, but I don’t recall the year the company began with that name. It’s here somewhere...

I just went to the Internet to look. I found two other articles and in the one below, FD says he founded FORE in 2004. Some insight into him, too, I guess. So that was before he was with JD so I have to eat my words; it wasn’t founded when he was with her so not odd that her name isn’t part of it. And at least then, it wasn’t funded by her family money.

https://americanbuildersquarterly.com/2014/10/01/fore-group/

 

[HopeForTheBest]

And there’s more...I’ve never read all the way through this before but interesting testimonials of maybe the salad days. A lot of them, too. And in one photo, it looks like there’s a steep slope almost like a canyon or ravine with water flowing behind the houses. I leave this to your extremely capable hands. Goodnight, friends.

Custom Home Builder Westport, CT | Fairfield, New Canaan & Greenwich, CT

 

[Midwestmom2019]

Right. This isn't a case of a husband unhappy in his marriage. This is an abuser. To abusers, it's another woman to have power over.
IMO.

We don’t know what the reasons are.
They could a combination of all that has been posted. Some more predominant. Some less.
Or some not at all.
And we will probably never know the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
So help me God, if I knew, I’d speak.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Of course he quit. FD types don't want to answer to anyone. He would have to be on their schedule. Self-employment is very appealing. It would not surprise me that JD was in agreement because I am sure it was framed that now their time together could not be dictated by his job. MOO.

I know what you mean in the context of FD. Many people these days work for themselves but, thankfully, not all are like FD!

 

[MemPat]

Right! I so agree! I hope it didn’t seem like I thought he wanted to do the caretaking in the, well, caring way most people do because I didn’t and don’t think that. I think it was, indeed, about control, power, and looking better than others.

I totally got how much you think he's a creep, Hope! Solidarity, my friend!

 

[CarefullyTaught]

In a Porsche—undoubtedly much faster and sensitive to a driver’s every move than some old broken-down truck on Grandpa’s farm.

The children could have easily been killed by the airbags in a hard stop.

iirc the incident/s occurred when the offspring would have been too young to safely ride up front (as per airbag guidance and vehicle manufacturer NTSB recommendations), let alone drive/operate the vehicle.

Last time I checked in on the situation with advanced technology “smart” airbags and airbag sensors could be manually disabled or an alarm tone or sensor alert to an underweight reading on the seat disabling the airbag/s in the front passenger seat/s (millions of vehicle airbags of many kinds have been subject to massive waves of highly publicized and alarming recalls in years past due to risks and defects, folks likely are already aware).

I’m not sure the technology anticipates a child operating the vehicle.

Given the 2010 driveway situation wherein an unlicensed driver unfamiliar with the family’s Land Rover, that is the non English fluent nanny from that time (EN) reportedly ran over FD’s mother KD at a time when FD was allegedly away in Italy when at least two of the children were present and at least one of the children reportedly screamed upon witnessing EN run over their paternal grandma, and given that FD had reportedly purposefully “almost run down” JD with the vehicle in the past presumably as a form of domestic terrorism, it would seem that for FD part of the goal of getting JD’s offspring to operate the Porsche in her presence and knowing her objection would be at least threefold: (1) FD could terrorize JD by making her fear for the safety of her children; (2) FD could turn ritualized torture and humiliation of JD into a form of play, fun, and bonding time between FD and the children (“Dad is taking us driving!”); and (3) FD could make JD fear for her life and fear for the trauma it would inflict on her kids should any of them strike her with the car (or FD in “guiding” or “helping” the kids with the gas pedal or the wheel, “accidentally” “overcorrect” them or “mistake” one pedal for another or confuse which word is used — perhaps in a different language that the kids might “confuse” — resulting in a surprisingly pleasant and satisfying (for FD) catastrophe.

When some (?many?) of us learned to drive, the cars or trucks on which we learned did not have airbags, so a younger child on the farm or in the empty parking lot or somewhere largely unpopulated or after hours, one could (as NP likes to say) “get his feet wet” as concerns learning to drive with an older sibling, friend, parent, or grandparent, without any worries about whether one was tall enough or heavy enough to safely occupy a front seat without risk of injury.

Were I learning to drive today, I doubt folks would let me do so at the age that some of us did. It was a treat to learn that grown-up driving skill as a child back then. It was a trick that FD played on JD, though, to put her children behind the wheel with FD in the car and JD outside of it, though.

Sadistic narcissist sociopath indeed.

IMO/JMO/MOO

 

[HopeForTheBest]

I totally got how much you think he's a creep, Hope! Solidarity, my friend!

Thank you so much! I’m so glad! We’re all in this together for JD and her kids!

 

[Tink56]

I’m sorry I’m so tired tonight to be prompt at researching but I recall in court papers, it said JD found out about the affair FD was having with MT a year after it had begun so it was at least a year before the divorce was initiated. MOO because I can’t find that at this moment—but I will later.

Many thanks!

 

[Tink56]

I just went to the Internet to look. I found two other articles and in the one below, FD says he founded FORE in 2004. Some insight into him, too, I guess. So that was before he was with JD so I have to eat my words; it wasn’t founded when he was with her so not odd that her name isn’t part of it. And at least then, it wasn’t funded by her family money.

https://americanbuildersquarterly.com/2014/10/01/fore-group/

Fast work and many thanks, again!

 

[Daisyeve]

Where exactly did FD go on all those trips and what was he really doing? Did MT go with him? That would require a live in nanny for her daughter while MT and JD were out of town? Did they have friends they met up with etc? All that traveling must have been very costly. Maybe it had to stop or cut back when JD was “forced “ out of her home because she didn’t want her children to witness what their father was doing and witness the disrespectful and cruel way she was being treated by him. (MOO)

 

[enelram]

Right. He’s the FO; she’s the RE, but I don’t recall the year the company began with that name. It’s here somewhere...

I believe it started in 2004 as Fore Group, LLC.
Within the next year it was incorporated as
Fore Group, Inc.

 

[Laughing]

Where exactly did FD go on all those trips and what was he really doing? Did MT go with him? That would require a live in nanny for her daughter while MT and JD were out of town? Did they have friends they met up with etc? All that traveling must have been very costly. Maybe it had to stop or cut back when JD was “forced “ out of her home because she didn’t want her children to witness what their father was doing and witness the disrespectful and cruel way she was being treated by him. (MOO)

Guessing -- some sorta waterski circuit?

MT was at one point involved in horses, eons ago I worked at stables & participated in different horse show circuits. Often one big show/trial each month.

My son played soccer. Now this starts out as one season, but if your teenager keeps playing you're eventually dealing with a year round sport. For a couple seasons, his club team played a tournament about one weekend a month. Grueling for working parents, but they brought home medals from a national tournament at the end.

I expect waterskiing training & competitions are similar, but in the US are found in Florida, Texas, Nevada, Arizona, and California in months that folks in New Canaan are skating on the ponds.

Surely LE has checked to see where he went?

JMHO YMMV