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Hbgchick said:I have to disagree with the poster who stated that "sexual assault is the worst thing that can happen to a child". If that's your opinion, fine. But it's not mine, and it shouldn't be put out there as "fact".
Before you ask what "authority" I have, I can tell you that I know from experience. And it was NOT the "worst" thing that happened to me as a child. Why? Because I had supportive parents and counselors who assured me it was not my fault, that a bad man did a bad thing and would be punished for it. As a result, I learned at a young age that bad things happen to good people and those good people have two choices: A.) Live through it, learn and grow from it and succeed in spite of it or B.) Blame that incident for all of your problems for the rest of your life and wallow in misery. I chose the former.
Having said that - if Dakota Fanning's parents, Dakota herself, and the directors and counselors invloved in this picture feel that she was capable of doing it without sustaining any long term effects, so be it. None of us know her or the circumstances surrounding this scene.
And newsflash - this kind of thing goes on EVERY DAY. You see it in the news, in television, in the movies. Rape, murder, insest, drugs, torture, terrorism, kidnapping, on and on and on. This is happening in your childrens' schools, and they hear about it and see it all of the time. A movie is not going to teach them anything they don't already know. It really bothers me that just because "sex" is associated with this particular film people are all freaked out and saying how horrible it is. Yeah. Another newsflash, rape and pedophelia aren't about sex. They're about control, they're are both a crime, and children should know that. There are children out there HANGING THEMSELVES after watching a clip of Saddam Hussein's execution. We all said that hanging Saddam "fair and just" thing to do, right?
For those of you who choose not to allow your children to see a film like this, that's fine. But don't condem those of us who WILL let our children see the movie so they know that if anything like that EVER, EVER, EVER even comes close to happening to them that it is a CRIME. That they can come to me and tell me if something happens to them, to never be ashamed or afraid that they will be punished.
This type of movie, watched with a parent and discussed afterward, can absolutely be beneficial to children. It might even help some of the parents out there who still have their heads in the sand.
Great post, well-said. I think most thinking parents know what their children can handle and Dakota Fanning's parents probably do too. My opinion is influenced by seeing her on Oprah. I will say this - she was so grown up, it was almost scary. She said her mom really works on providing normalcy when she's not filming. I was amazed at how articulate and bright she is and pray Hollywood will not ruin her. But if it does, I don't think it will be becuase of this.
Not having seen the film or a clip, I really can't comment on t specifically, except to say, shielding kids from ugliness doesn't necessarily help them. I think it's ok for topics like this to be discussed and focused on in movies, with parental guidance. I don't mean dropping your kids off at the theatre and never mentioning it again. With something like this, it would involve watching it with them and having a meaningful discussion afterward.
Movies (and literature) can really help people. They trigger ideas to deal with problems as well as making people realize they are not alone. Also, I agree, most kids know way more than we think they do already, and obviously, a child's age/maturity would have to be taken into account.
Eve