Luckily in the US, a person cannot be cremated until the ME confirms death.
That is amazing. There was a huge medical law case over a physician who basically put a DNR order on an infant who - if I remember correctly (I watched it on TV) died of a SIDs case at home... it had been brought into the ER, where the hospital staff and a well known Pediatrician had attempted (unsuccessfully) to code the baby. The parents said their goodbyes to their child and left.
Apparently, the nurses walked in a short time later after the family left, to the place where baby had been kept for the family to view the body, and the baby was breathing and had a heartbeat - spontaneously. However, the breathing needed to be supported - this child was going to need supportive therapy if he was going to survive. But it was spontaneous!! Which - before - they had nothing spontaneous to work with upon arrival to the ER (my understanding from the show). The nurses immediately notified the Pediatrician, and ER staff began to code the baby again, and started to notify the family. However, the well known Pediatrician immediately put the squash on resusitative efforts on the baby - he told them NOT to code the baby, and told them NOT to tell the family what had happened or that they baby was breathing or having a heartbeat because and they had already "said goodbye" and because he thought that that was "cruel" and that the baby would most likely be brain damaged. Which, would be true... conventional wisdom would tell us that if blood supply is cut off to an individuals brain, either inside the womb or outside of it, then yes, usually, brain damange does occur. We have seen women who have abruptions who have severely brain damaged children and children who have very mild defect. It really varies. We have people who have completely coded (heart stops, they stop breathing) some have a large amount of brain damage, some have very little. It all is depends on how much or how little oxygen reaches the brain during those times. Very sad.
There were even allegations, I think, by one nurse that she stepped out of the room and left the baby alone with him while this was happening, and that when she stepped back in that he was smothering the child. It was VERY nasty. There was allegations that there was out and out arguing that night in the ER because the staff wanted to start coding the baby again when the baby started to spontaneously breath and have a heartbeat. Of course they wanted to save the child - or at least make a quick call to the family and ask them what to do for their son! That probably would have been the ethical thing to do.
The doctor was apparently was sited for unprofessional and unethical conduct, but never lost his license. The parents were of course, crushed. He continued to have a thriving pediatric practice. He stated that he felt that the child would have no quality of life, so he it felt was better to let the child die "peacefully". I think that is MURDER! I think God gave the child life again... I think it was a miracle, and he squashed it - especially if he did smother him. The nurse they interviewed seemed very sincere. Very sad. If anything happened like that to my child or if I saw that, I don't know what I would do.
I was an OB nurse for many years and had something like this happen once. We had a women who was sent to us from the doctors office bacause they could not find fetal heart tones with a doppler or ultra sound machine. The baby had also not moved for several days. All of us were prepared for a still-birth. I don't remember the details of labor but, this baby was born (tight cord around his neck) he was not alive no heart beat, no respiration, nasty color. He was dead. We cleaned him up wrapped him in a blanket ect.... His parents held him. We then took him to another room while we were taking care of mom. The room was very quiet and sober when the nurses aide came in to get me her eyes big as saucers. I went out with her and she said "That baby is alive." I couldn't believe it(it had been 30-40 min). We went to the room and this babies color was better, he was breathing and had a slow heart rate. Needless to say we rushed him to the nursery to work with him. Might I add, we did not work with him very long and he was doing great. Baby was back with mom before she was out of recovery. It was surreal!!!!! What a Miracle!!!!
That's a beautiful story and you made me cry. How many years ago was that? I wonder how the little guy is doing now.
I always said I wanted to be cremated but I never thought about waking up as they wheel me into the incinerator. I'm going to ask to be embalmed and cremated to make sure I'm good and dead.
It was about 10 years ago. Last I knew he was doing fine. Just like every other kid. I often wondered if there wouldn't be some learning disabilities.
True. To be cremated they just attempt to keep the body looking good enough for one or two days of showing. My father and brother were cremated and my brother had a bullet in him since he was 15 that dr were afraid to movwe. In his ashes, no metal, no bullett. My father had a bridge and othe work. In his ashes nothing like that. I honestly believe thay just cremate and give a sample to you of whoever they cremated.
True. To be cremated they just attempt to keep the body looking good enough for one or two days of showing. My father and brother were cremated and my brother had a bullet in him since he was 15 that dr were afraid to movwe. In his ashes, no metal, no bullett. My father had a bridge and othe work. In his ashes nothing like that. I honestly believe thay just cremate and give a sample to you of whoever they cremated.
That is amazing. There was a huge medical law case over a physician who basically put a DNR order on an infant who - if I remember correctly (I watched it on TV) died of a SIDs case at home... it had been brought into the ER, where the hospital staff and a well known Pediatrician had attempted (unsuccessfully) to code the baby. The parents said their goodbyes to their child and left.
Apparently, the nurses walked in a short time later after the family left, to the place where baby had been kept for the family to view the body, and the baby was breathing and had a heartbeat - spontaneously. However, the breathing needed to be supported - this child was going to need supportive therapy if he was going to survive. But it was spontaneous!! Which - before - they had nothing spontaneous to work with upon arrival to the ER (my understanding from the show). The nurses immediately notified the Pediatrician, and ER staff began to code the baby again, and started to notify the family. However, the well known Pediatrician immediately put the squash on resusitative efforts on the baby - he told them NOT to code the baby, and told them NOT to tell the family what had happened or that they baby was breathing or having a heartbeat because and they had already "said goodbye" and because he thought that that was "cruel" and that the baby would most likely be brain damaged. Which, would be true... conventional wisdom would tell us that if blood supply is cut off to an individuals brain, either inside the womb or outside of it, then yes, usually, brain damange does occur. We have seen women who have abruptions who have severely brain damaged children and children who have very mild defect. It really varies. We have people who have completely coded (heart stops, they stop breathing) some have a large amount of brain damage, some have very little. It all is depends on how much or how little oxygen reaches the brain during those times. Very sad.
There were even allegations, I think, by one nurse that she stepped out of the room and left the baby alone with him while this was happening, and that when she stepped back in that he was smothering the child. It was VERY nasty. There was allegations that there was out and out arguing that night in the ER because the staff wanted to start coding the baby again when the baby started to spontaneously breath and have a heartbeat. Of course they wanted to save the child - or at least make a quick call to the family and ask them what to do for their son! That probably would have been the ethical thing to do.
The doctor was apparently was sited for unprofessional and unethical conduct, but never lost his license. The parents were of course, crushed. He continued to have a thriving pediatric practice. He stated that he felt that the child would have no quality of life, so he it felt was better to let the child die "peacefully". I think that is MURDER! I think God gave the child life again... I think it was a miracle, and he squashed it - especially if he did smother him. The nurse they interviewed seemed very sincere. Very sad. If anything happened like that to my child or if I saw that, I don't know what I would do.
True. To be cremated they just attempt to keep the body looking good enough for one or two days of showing. My father and brother were cremated and my brother had a bullet in him since he was 15 that dr were afraid to movwe. In his ashes, no metal, no bullett. My father had a bridge and othe work. In his ashes nothing like that. I honestly believe thay just cremate and give a sample to you of whoever they cremated.
Hmm. What if there is no medical examiner nearby? My area has a coroner. I think the present coroner is a plastic surgeon, which is better than it could be.......the law doesn't even require that the coroner have a medical
background!
Our laws (Louisiana, what can I say) also require that a body be embalmed before cremation.......oh, and you have to purchase a little 'cremation casket' too.
Ok...now that was something that I DIDN'T need to know!:snooty:becklynn- I had a friend that worked in a mortuary several years ago. He told me that all cremations are done in the same "thing". (I don't know what it's called) Anyway he said that it is hardly ever cleaned and you do get the ashes of your loved one along with the ashes of other people.