Emotional Toll

[tlcya]

ty for getting us in a lighter mood WhyaDuck? We sorely needed it.

 

[WhyaDuck?]

ty for getting us in a lighter mood WhyaDuck? We sorely needed it.

That's what I do around here. :crazy:

 

[tlcya]

Goodnight friends and allies joined for Zahra's sake. Rest well. It has been a draining day for all of us on the threads. Tomorrow is another day.

To Justice for Zahra Baker and the bumpy ride we will all take together getting there.

 

[Oriah]

That's what I do around here. :crazy:

Thank you, Duck.
When hearts are heavy, I always feel like a good 'ole colander on the head is helpful.

May I borrow yours (and your little one, who clearly is the next Iron Chef) for a couple of days?

 

[Mountain_Kat]

I need a colander.

 

[WhyaDuck?]

Thank you, Duck.
When hearts are heavy, I always feel like a good 'ole colander on the head is helpful.

May I borrow yours (and your little one, who clearly is the next Iron Chef) for a couple of days?

Be careful what you ask for.

 

[Oriah]

Be careful what you ask for.

Well if that ain't the truth, I don't know what is.

ETA: Duck, I still wanna borrow your colander. I think colanders (and toddlers who imagine with them) make the world a better place.

 

[LiveLaughLuv]

I have been preparing myself for information that was going to rekindle the almost unbearable anguish I have felt over Zahra and what happened to her. The missing skull has completely just brought me to my knees! I think I even posted somewhere back in the past that I thought the skull was the ONLY thing they had found in that horrible place by the creek. Now, to find out that Zahra's beautiful head is still out there somewhere!!! :furious::furious::furious: I just have no words at all for how I feel about that! I do know this.... justice has begun, but it is not complete!!! Not by a LONG SHOT!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you, to all of the WebSleuth posters who have trudged thru this horrific crime. I just can't really find words that express my horror at what happened, and my gratitude at knowing there are other people who feel like I do.

At this very moment, I just want 15 minutes with the beast, just 15 minutes. :furious: :furious: :furious:

The anger I feel at EB right now that if I were in NC, I'd make a visit to her and badger her like she's never been badgered before.

She is one lucky beast for if it had been a member of my family, I too would be in jail for murder, passionate murder to the one who took my child and intentionally dismembered her so that Zahra could not be identified...I know violence only begets violence and I'm not a violent person but all bets are off once you mess with me or something of mine...I wouldn't be able to contain myself.

I just wish ED can attend each and every court appearance for Zahra's justice and for her healing to begin. I'm pained at what she might be feeling after knowing about Zahra's skull and body parts..My heart goes out to Emily...JMHO


Justice for Zahra

 

[LiveLaughLuv]

I too thank you Duck for trying to lighten up the feelings and anquish being felt for precious Zahra..

I can just envision you sitting there with the collander on your head...:floorlaugh:what a great sport.....Oh the things we do for love...JMHO

 

[FaerieB]

Oh my. Yesterday (which started on Friday) was such an incredibly taxing day, that I don't think anything hit me until sometime overnight. I've so many emotions running through me that I'm not even sure where to begin.

First and foremost (on a personal level) my sincere thanks to the doctors and nurses at our local hospital. To the funeral director, thank you for your care and compassion.

To the men and women of the HPD, the SBI and the FBI: words will never begin to express our sincere gratitude for everything you've seen, heard and done to bring justice for 'our' girl. I can only imagine the things that haunt you in your darkest moments. Thank you for not letting Zahra's death go unanswered.

And finally, to my fellow posters here at WS: Thank you all so much for the thoughts, prayers and hugs. They are definitely making a difficult time easier. Websleuths is, by FAR, the best site in the world, and the posters here are among the finest human beings on the face of the earth. Much love to you all!

 

[Mountain_Kat]

What a gracious heart you have, Faerie B. Thank you for reminding me to step outside my frustration, anger and sadness long enough to take notice of all the things I have to be grateful for.

 

[Oriah]

Faerie B ...hugs....

Angels abound.

 

[WhyaDuck?]

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4-IZTZkTY8[/ame]

 

[tlcya]

For all of us who are bone weary of the goodbyes we say to our victims

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjVRod8Durc&feature=related[/ame]

 

[tlcya]

:hug:

 

[Allusonz]

grandma posted the wind song in another thread an it is beautiful!!! so thank you WhyaDuck for posting it!!!

tl as well thank you!!! boy sure did need these tonight....

i simply cannot believe how emotionally wiped i get with this case

{{{{{{{{{hugs all}}}}}}}}}}

 

[tlcya]

I'll second the emotionally wiped Allusonz, and I'll raise you an exhausted. Our girl desrves nothing but our best. I remind myself of that when I feel like maybe this one is just too hard.

 

[Mountain_Kat]

I often make a consious effort to remain somewhat detached from certain aspects of this case. Self preservation, I guess. But there have been times when I've had to allow myself to almost relive things. The SAR thread was like that for me. Still, to this day, I feel as though it was actually me who took that loop and dumped body parts. Because that's how you HAVE to think in that situation. That same thing occurs for me when trying to figure out what occured in that house. The inability to separate myself from someone who would do something like this. It's a sort of "becoming one with the monster" kind of thing, and it is one of the most unpleasant places I've ever forced myself to be in.

Anyway, I found myself this morning trying to cleanse myself of that "oneness", and for the first time, I realized LEOs are never really given that luxury. I honestly don't know how these men and women do this for a living, and remain emotionally healthy, but let me tell you, just thinking about all this has given me a whole new level of respect for the people who do this day in and day out.

 

[Flakes]

Tonight I had to remind myself "This is NOT my child" because the pain gets almost as bad as if Zahra were mine. Well as bad as I can imagine. I think I would die of a broken heart if anything like this ever happened to my angel babe.

 

[Oriah]

I often make a consious effort to remain somewhat detached from certain aspects of this case. Self preservation, I guess. But there have been times when I've had to allow myself to almost relive things. The SAR thread was like that for me. Still, to this day, I feel as though it was actually me who took that loop and dumped body parts. Because that's how you HAVE to think in that situation. That same thing occurs for me when trying to figure out what occured in that house. The inability to separate myself from someone who would do something like this. It's a sort of "becoming one with the monster" kind of thing, and it is one of the most unpleasant places I've ever forced myself to be in.

Anyway, I found myself this morning trying to cleanse myself of that "oneness", and for the first time, I realized LEOs are never really given that luxury. I honestly don't know how these men and women do this for a living, and remain emotionally healthy, but let me tell you, just thinking about all this has given me a whole new level of respect for the people who do this day in and day out.

There's a novel written by Stewart O'Nan, entitled A Prayer for the Dying.

It is an extremely haunting tale of a small town sherriff/undertaker/pastor/veteran (he is responsible for everything) set just after the Civil War, whose town is struck with an epidemic of illness.

It's not for the faint-hearted. The heartbreak all around- and how overwheming trauma and loss is everywhere- made me pull it from the shelf a few weeks ago, thinking of Zahra. I guess I needed to cry.

My heart breaks for Zahra, and all those who loved her on a daily (and sometimes hourly) basis.