Moxie said:
And that is just it, isn't it. Such a fine line. The struggle between instant gratification and the need to comply. Do what your asked, or decide that too much time has passed and risk blowing everything. Well, I thought about this long and hard and I think if it was me, I would do what LE requested in order to see the guilty party rot in jail. So you see that is why I think that Janet's family hasn't spoke out. I know them pretty well and I think they would have said something if they could. The only reason I can think for them to remain silent is that they are being asked to. They want to see this case solved in order to gain some amount of closure. I think if they thought they could get the case solved on their own or with the help of the public, they would be speaking out.
I'm obviously not family, and who knows how one would react if in that same situation - it's always easy to speculate objectively, but when faced with the reality of a truly horrible situation, who knows how any of us might react.
To me, it comes down to two simple things - faith and trust.
As long as Janet's family has faith that LE is doing all it can to bring Janet's murderer to justice, then respecting the wishes of LE seems logical.
As long as Janet's family trusts LE, as far as the way LE is handling the case, communicating potentially with the family, etc., then again, respecting the wishes of LE seems logical.
That said, I would think that if ever the family feels like the investigation has stopped, come to a dead in, what have you, that they would be the first to put any and all pressure possible on LE, either directly or via media pressure.
Day after day it is so frustrating at times with regards to this case. And I think often we think, 'what else can we do'? And it's easy to then focus on the families...and what WE think THEY should or should not be doing...but remember, we are NOT those families. We care, obviously. But, it's not our daughter, sister, friend who's gone. I, for one, have to have faith as well - that if LE asks the family to remain silent at this juncture, that there's a reason, and presumably an important one.
When I refer to families, I don't really even classify Raven there, as I think a spouse is somewhat in a class by themselves. Raven's wife has been murdered; the mother of his child has been murdered. So unless LE has given HIM that same directive, not to speak, then he should be shouting from the rooftops in my opinion - not just professing his innocence, but looking for justice for his wife.
I agree with what someone else wrote earlier - the silence is indeed deafening - but the voice I'd like to hear, is not a family member, but, of Raven himself.
