PoirotryInMotion
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I am so thankful this sweet mom of five has been found and is safe; an answer to so many people's prayers. And I'm thankful her husband is also where he belongs right now. While she has been through a traumatic experience, I sense, too, that she has a great support system in her friends, faith, and family, and that brings hope for her complete recovery from this. I believe this has likely been hard on everyone who is close to AS, especially her family members, and so I especially wish them peace and strength in the upcoming months as they deal with the fallout of this event.
What I'm struggling with right now is this: I sense from a few comments in here (and members' responses to same) that some seem to feel that the family of the accused is somehow complicit in the deeds of the estranged husband. And while that may be true (I certainly don't know yet), no one in here has been willing or able to tell me why that is so--publicly or privately. No one has offered me links or video feed that points to any of TS's family members 'looking the other way' or enabling this crime in any way. Instead, there has been silence after my question about this on p5, so I am left wondering why the family (the whole family) is not being considered and treated respectfully as hurting victims in our posts in these pages.
I'm not saying this to disrupt; I'm just not getting it, and it seems so unlike the reputation of WS. It could be that there is some info considered reliable somehow that is also not TOS to talk about publicly concerning this; if so, please tell me, and I'll just bow out of the discussion. But right now, my sense of justice is hurting for the entire extended family as well as for the immediate victim, here. (Are any of you grandparents? How would it feel to see your son's face plastered in the media concerning this event? To know he manipulated his children--your precious grandchildren--in such a potentially devastating way? To know there is nothing in your power to change his choices, nor the fallout from them? Are his parents to be held in low esteem simply because of the actions of their middle-aged son?)
Again, if there's something I'm not getting, please tell me. Because injustice and misdirected anger just makes me very sad, wherever it comes from.
What I'm struggling with right now is this: I sense from a few comments in here (and members' responses to same) that some seem to feel that the family of the accused is somehow complicit in the deeds of the estranged husband. And while that may be true (I certainly don't know yet), no one in here has been willing or able to tell me why that is so--publicly or privately. No one has offered me links or video feed that points to any of TS's family members 'looking the other way' or enabling this crime in any way. Instead, there has been silence after my question about this on p5, so I am left wondering why the family (the whole family) is not being considered and treated respectfully as hurting victims in our posts in these pages.
I'm not saying this to disrupt; I'm just not getting it, and it seems so unlike the reputation of WS. It could be that there is some info considered reliable somehow that is also not TOS to talk about publicly concerning this; if so, please tell me, and I'll just bow out of the discussion. But right now, my sense of justice is hurting for the entire extended family as well as for the immediate victim, here. (Are any of you grandparents? How would it feel to see your son's face plastered in the media concerning this event? To know he manipulated his children--your precious grandchildren--in such a potentially devastating way? To know there is nothing in your power to change his choices, nor the fallout from them? Are his parents to be held in low esteem simply because of the actions of their middle-aged son?)
Again, if there's something I'm not getting, please tell me. Because injustice and misdirected anger just makes me very sad, wherever it comes from.
