I finished reading through this entire thread..........
This case is so incredibly sad and heartbreaking.
I would say to those who have not lived with a loved one with Bipolar and the incredible toll it takes, not only on the loved one but yourself, to hold your judgement on this wife and mother.
What I have read is "TYPICAL", yes, "TYPICAL" in my part of the world, of the lives of one with Bipolar and secondary mental illnesses that usually come with it: Paranoia, schizophrenia, psychotic episodes, disillusion behavior, and let's throw in "Type A personality" when your loved one is in a "manic phase".
Let me make one thing perfectly clear:
1. People with bipolar are more likely to hurt themselves than others
2. Self medicating is COMMON, ie, alcohol and drugs
3. Going off Lithium is VERY common, the side effects of lithium are very hard for anyone to deal with, let alone accept as part of the rest of their life.
4. Getting a Dr. to believe YOU, the non-patient, is an never ending battle.
This husband did everything right.
The Dr.s and their never ending medication, non-disclosure to the husband, no in-patient medical evaluation and monitoring when adding/removing/combining old/new meds........WTH? These children DIED because the Dr.s put more credence in what their mentally ill patient said, in her delusional state, than the very people who interacted with her every single day and shouldered the burden of the Dr's choice of medication, aka "Guinea Pig of the Month" club.
I have been there, done that, got the bumper sticker, coffee cup and tattoo.
If anyone should be up on charges, it should be the Dr.s.
This woman was mentally ill, she was in both physical and mental agony. What Dr. lets their mentally ill patient vegetate in bed from depression for WEEKS despite the concerns of the immediate family? What Dr., after reviewing the history provided by the husband... WHICH WAS DOCUMENTED, doesn't title out this patient because it's clear she is a danger to herself, to say nothing of her family?
Some of you may think this woman is a cold blooded killer, evil, not fit to breath........but you are so very wrong. How do you think she feels now, with her meds properly diagnosed, seeing the true reality of her actions? She probably seeks death more than anyone could imagine. She "woke up" from a nightmare, to find out she had killed her own flesh and blood, her own children, that the act was so unforgiving that her only "rock", her husband, is no longer there to pick her up when everything makes no sense. And by no fault of her own, a mental illness took everything she loved away.
I spent 20 years with an ex husband with bipolar/paranoid/schizophrenic with psychotic tendencies. My current BF of 10 years is bipolar with depression.
In my 30 years of hands on experience, the biggest problem in the mental health arena is the Dr.s (regardless of private, State funded, or VA), NON DISCLOSURE BS, their unwillingness to protect those who may be in harm who live with the patient, and Pharmaceutical companies.
Before you judge this defendant, walk a mile in her shoes, or that of the many who live everyday with a person with bipolar.