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Poor sweet boy. :star: :rose: :star:
I think that Chance was already dead on September 9th and that's why the grandparents weren't let into the house.
Ya know, I can't either.
However, I have to admit that the toddler years took me awfully close to a breaking point. But even when alone with her, I always walked away. I remember shutting myself in my bathroom and sobbing with frustration and despair while she was knocking on the door.
Was that ideal? Nope. Was it the better of two likely outcomes? Yep.
You don't have to be perfect to be a good parent. You just have to make the BETTER choice, and seldom is that the ideal choice.
Knowing when you are overwhelmed and in danger of exploding is so important and I wish there was not such shame attached to saying "OMG, I cannot listen to another minute of screaming" or "I have not slept more than 3 hours a night in 6 months, I cannot care for my child without sleep- please help me!"
I had enough presence to know I was in a bad place and needed a good cry and time to cool down. Not all mothers are so lucky. Many mothers feel ashamed that they need a break, or help, or even just a good cry. If we educated new moms that asking for help is EXCELLENT parenting and not admission of failure, maybe there would be fewer incidents of abuse and even death.
Sorry for the long azz post, but I also need to say that in this case, that horrific "mother" apparently had MANY people willing to help, especially given her history with drug abuse. For God's sake, she could not properly care for her pets! This was not a mom who was doing her best and feeling overwhelmed. This was a mom who chose her grody "man" and her drugs over her defenseless babies.
I know SM is not fact, but just the way she fawned over that icky guy who apparently slept on the couch while she hitched rides to her waitress job, and barely posted about her own BABIES is very telling.
I am all over the place, so I apologize. My heart is just broken and my throat keeps closing up.
I think I was trying to say that I do understand getting angry, but in Chance's case, he was never loved, never a priority, never more than a means to get attention and free stuff. So she could cook elaborate meals for her "awesome man". I want to PUKE.
Only silver lining in all this is that Chance will receive the respect of a proper burial and an outpouring of love from a community he didn't get to know. RIP little angel.
PS...Just hoping for short term score settling provided by jail justice.
So for those of you in the know, do Florida's sunshine laws means that we will get to know what the hell happened before the facts are presented at trial?
I don't know exactly how that works, and what info the public will be privvy to and when.
TIA.
The Sarasota County Sheriff’s Office confirmed Thursday the body of an infant believed to be Chance was found in a remote, wooded area near English Circle and Elliot Court. Medical examiners are now working to find out exactly how Chance died.
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Authorities have not confirmed when Walsh and Bury will be extradited back to Florida.
A memorial for Chance will be held Saturday, Oct. 17 from 7:30 p.m.- 8:30 p.m. at the Peace Christian Fellowship in North Port.
http://www.winknews.com/2015/10/16/...ne-in-north-port-miles-from-baby-chance-home/
Still no official confirmation.
BBM
While they aren't officially confirming it's him, they are doing just about everything but, basically confirming by the sentence where I bolded his name that the ME is in fact working on him.
Hopefully it won't be much longer. I don't think they are really leaving any doubt it's Chance.