FL - Newborn male found in bag thrown in dumpster, Lakeland, 11 May 2023

[GoBuckeyes]

If the story is true, about the baby being stillborn and with a severe brain deformity along with her being here illegally and not knowing she was pregnant, I can understand why she wouldn’t go to a hospital. HOWEVER, why a dumpster? Why a plastic bag? Why not bury the baby in your back yard?! Nobody would know! My daughters beta fish died and we held a funeral and burial for Gods sake! MOO

Well said!

 

[Stunned]

Does she have older children? Where were they born?

 

[EmiliaRT007]

If the story is true, about the baby being stillborn and with a severe brain deformity along with her being here illegally and not knowing she was pregnant, I can understand why she wouldn’t go to a hospital. HOWEVER, why a dumpster? Why a plastic bag? Why not bury the baby in your back yard?! Nobody would know! My daughters beta fish died and we held a funeral and burial for Gods sake! MOO

Good point. I can understand her concerns. And honestly it’s just awful that she can’t give her son a proper, loving burial without the fear of ICE breaking down her door. But I see this now. So many twists and turns to this story I don’t know what to believe.

When my cat died we held a funeral too, but we had him cremated. He was 10 months old and got hit by a car. We got him in 2020 and he died in 2021. I miss him so much. His urn is on my nightstand.

But back to this baby. If his mom really did care THAT much about him she would have done SOMETHING! Why the trash bag?! Why the dumpster?! He’s a human being! You made him!

You wouldn’t throw anyone else away like that so why throw your own SON away like this?! And how do you not know if you’re pregnant or not after that long. The baby was full term IIRC.

I was born early at 33 weeks and heck my mom knew she was pregnant right when her period wasn’t coming 6 weeks into her pregnancy when I was nothing but a jellybean. I’m pretty sure you notice a big old baby bump by that point. I mean, I was also 9 friggin’ pounds so I was very noticeable. I was gonna be in the teens pounds if born full term.

But even then you would probably notice when you miss a period or two. I have PCOS, perhaps that’s the case with her, a condition that affects her periods but there’s nothing mentioned about that.

I miss a period from time to time, currently on 3 months period free. Had an ovary removed due to the cysts at age 15. A lot of times these monsters we call mothers who dump babies like that pull the “I didn’t know I was pregnant” card. It’s getting old. But we don’t know about this woman. Yeah, bury him in the backyard or something! Do something for your son to show you actually cared about him! No bag, no dumpster. That screams “concealing death” to me.

 

[ChatteringBirds]

It's possible to have no baby bump, depending on the position of the baby. It's possible to have intermittent bleeding and confuse that with a period. It definitely happens that women have no idea they are pregnant.

She should have made a better choice than the dumpster.
I'm confused about the friends. If they knew about the baby, will they face charges too? A woman might not be in her "right mind" following an unassisted home birth but if she was with friends, they were. JMO.

 

[EmiliaRT007]

It's possible to have no baby bump, depending on the position of the baby. It's possible to have intermittent bleeding and confuse that with a period. It definitely happens that women have no idea they are pregnant.

She should have made a better choice than the dumpster.
I'm confused about the friends. If they knew about the baby, will they face charges too? A woman might not be in her "right mind" following an unassisted home birth but if she was with friends, they were. JMO.

Huh, never heard of that! Thanks for informing me. Even at full term and ready to pop? That’s strange. I don’t know though, I’ve never been pregnant and I can’t get pregnant anyways, sorry. Forgive my lack of knowledge.

Yeah. Also that suspected child. Is the child hers? So she’s probably given birth more than once. If it was a friend and their child, that’s just twisted! The poor child, especially since they have to see the baby dead and to see him thrown away like that.

Hope the baby is at peace now. Rest well, beautiful baby boy.

 

[Goecke]

It's definitely possible that she didn't know she was pregnant and may have not looked pregnant. Things like body weight, position of the fetus, and prior pregnancies can all affect that. If she was one of the three women in the CCTV pictures, none of them looked pregnant or like they'd just given birth.

Also, given that she didn't know she was pregnant and the baby was stillborn, she never got to bond with him. The normal bonding process the mom has with the baby throughout pregnancy and right after birth was totally missed. She just thought she was sick, and the next thing you know she gave birth to a stillborn. IMO the lack of bonding may have contributed to why she put the baby in a dumpster instead of somewhere more dignified. I'm not saying what she did was okay, I just noticed nobody else mentioned the lack of bonding and I wanted to throw that out as a possibility.

 

[EmiliaRT007]

It's definitely possible that she didn't know she was pregnant and may have not looked pregnant. Things like body weight, position of the fetus, and prior pregnancies can all affect that. If she was one of the three women in the CCTV pictures, none of them looked pregnant or like they'd just given birth.

Also, given that she didn't know she was pregnant and the baby was stillborn, she never got to bond with him. The normal bonding process the mom has with the baby throughout pregnancy and right after birth was totally missed. She just thought she was sick, and the next thing you know she gave birth to a stillborn. IMO the lack of bonding may have contributed to why she put the baby in a dumpster instead of somewhere more dignified. I'm not saying what she did was okay, I just noticed nobody else mentioned the lack of bonding and I wanted to throw that out as a possibility.

Possibly. It does sound awful, not knowing you’re pregnant only to give birth to your son, inly to find out he’s dead! Truly saddening and I feel bad for the mom and the son.

 

[Marysmith]

I wonder if the thought was that burying him would attract more attention? I don’t know…
I’m glad she came forward right away and I hope she’s ok.

 

[Laughing]

I wonder if the thought was that burying him would attract more attention? I don’t know…
I’m glad she came forward right away and I hope she’s ok.

I wonder if they are renting or staying with friends, and didn't have a place to bury the remains?

Not trying to excuse her choice.

Media reports that she does have older kids -- she is probably worn out & that was part of missing the pregnancy signs?

imho they could have come up with a more respectful solution.

jmho ymmv lrr