Chickenpants.. (and I like the name btw), ccane is right, you dont have to justify your presence here or give out any personal info, unless you choose to. But be careful, it seems intimate and the people here are like family, but there are lurkers and maybe even members who are up to no good, and they dont like DT bashers, (I am not saying you are one) but one persons version of bashing is not the same as anothers.
I have heard time and again.. I cant go... I dont like hospitals, I dont like funerals, I dont do well around sick people...
All of these sentences begin with I. I personally dont know anyone who does like these things. I know I dont. But Ive never thought I had a choice. If someone you love is sick, dying, or dead, you should be there, if at all possible, in whatever capacity you are capable of, maybe just your presence will help...