FL - Somer Thompson, 7, Orange Park, 19 Oct 2009 #40

[feistygurl]

i look at this way. some people have to make something good out of something horrible its their way of handling it. every1 has different coping skills. i would want to stay in bed also but with other children that would not be an option. so i know i would have to do something. i am not beautiful nor articulate so i doubt if the media would want me.would have to be a behind the scenes person making stuff happen. there are all kinds of advocates for all different things. i plan on one day being a patient advocate of some sort. even if its handing out phamplets to advise ppl of their medical rights. i hope diena continues to make her voice heard. i hope she pushes for stiffer laws, better tracking devices, safety classes for schools ect. I would love to see Obama do what he told john walsh he was going to do. Look how many years john walsh has been helping people. I don't particulary like molly hatchett but you can bet if i had a credit or debit card i would sure pay the $2.00 or 3.00 for it & probably never listen to it. i luved hearing her sister sing You Are My Sunshine. & i imagine that helped her tremendously doing it. My sister had to watch her preteen die of leukemia. she had 3 other children at the time. she hated to see him slipping everyday. now several years later she is an admistrator at a Hospice in St.Louis. where she feels she can make a difference helping people die with as little pain as possible help their familes grieve ect no one should judge some1 who is trying to improve a horrible situation in my opinion

 

[Dr.Fessel]

angelswatchoverthem

I for one am greatfull for all your post today bringing up many of the things that DT is being attacked for. It has brought out some great post by some really smart people that can say things a lot better then I can.

 

[BeanE]

Somer's mother may NEED to vent right now. She strikes me as a very outspoken woman with an inner strength that is rare. Imhoo it is that strength that will help her take the lemons handed to her and try to make some lemonade. If she gets paid to make appearances more power to her and good for her. Something tells me that she will continue to speak out on behalf of her daughter and other similar victims for the rest of her life and that she most likely will not give a carp what anyone thinks about it (and also be able to pay no mind to people questioning her motives, etc). And you know, I respect her for it.

jmo

Well said. Thanks for posting that, nurse.

 

[BeanE]

angelswatchoverthem

I for one am greatfull for all your post today bringing up many of the things that DT is being attacked for. It has brought out some great post by some really smart people that can say things a lot better then I can.

Surely no one is attacking this grieving mother in her time of pain and tragedy, Dr. F.

 

[nursebeeme]

Nurse:

I agree. She has said she wants to help make the world safer for children.
I don't know how she will accomplish it, but it's great that she wants to.

I think Somer's foundation can make a difference. I see DT being a big part of that.

ITA. The first time I saw Ms T I admittedly saw a bit of myself in her. I know that if this happened to my son I would not give a carp how people interpreted me... and I usually have the same sort of stoic~angerish response in stressful situations. I see Somer's mother sticking around for a very long time in the advocacy realm. I tip my hat to her and inside do a little 'fist-pump' when I see her out there with her boxing gloves on. I find myself yelling, 'you go girl!!!' every time I see her summon her strength and keep driving on.. Yes. I think we will be seeing her for a long time to come 'doing it' for Somer and all the other kids and families in the same shoes... and preventing it from happening again.

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

angelswatchoverthem

I for one am greatfull for all your post today bringing up many of the things that DT is being attacked for. It has brought out some great post by some really smart people that can say things a lot better then I can.

Dr. Fess, i enjoy your valuable insights here too, and everyone else's also. We all have something to contribute, for sure. I think Deina handles herself very well in public, something i respect her for in lieu of all she has endured. I often give her a "Spiritual Hug", when i see her, from one bereaved mother to another. And really we can all make a difference for our children. As parents we all falter, and sometimes we regret, but we can't look backward, we can only move forward, and i am sure Deina like any other parent that has had a child die goes through the guilt, of what she could have done differently. I know i have when my son died. from my understanding, every bereaved parent goes through those emotions. I am glad she is looking forward positively to what she can do to help, she is focusing on poitive things, and that is therapeutic to her healing from this terrible course of events.

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

Surely no one is attacking this grieving mother in her time of pain and tragedy, Dr. F.

I think Deina is well aware of people's attacks on her as a mother from other blog sites. But, i don't think this phases her too much! I think as i said before people are more wary unfortunately because of other cases in Florida recently, and are now not so trusting, that's all.

 

[eyes4crime]

I think Deina is well aware of people's attacks on her as a mother from other blog sites. But, i don't think this phases her too much! I think as i said before people are more wary unfortunately because of other cases in Florida recently, and are now not so trusting, that's all.

All a person has to do to understand is to think about the kind of person who shamelessly attacks, criticizes, and drags down, in every way, a mom at the lowest point in her life - a grieving mom who has just lost one of her babies. Can they possibly have compassion or empathy for any human crisis that doesn't involved them? moo

 

[Kimberlyd125]

Oh, we got moved.

 

[Kimberlyd125]

I see we have a new home in crimes and trials.

ETA: Thank God Somer's thread and Shaniya's thread got moved at the same time. I check those several times a day. This will make it easier.

 

[Kimberlyd125]

Are any of the "house rules" different? Same rules as Missing forum?

Is there a chance Somer will get a sub forum?

TIA

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

All a person has to do to understand is to think about the kind of person who shamelessly attacks, criticizes, and drags down, in every way, a mom at the lowest point in her life - a grieving mom who has just lost one of her babies. Can they possibly have compassion or empathy for any human crisis that doesn't involved them? moo

This unfortunately seems to be human nature! I would not wish what Deina has been through on my worst enemy. It is incomprehensible. A lot of human beings are anything but human! When my previous husband died at age 48 after triple bypass surgery, i could not believe how people would take advantage of a vulnerable widow! But, believe me they did! Like vultures! In a short space of 6 yrs. i had both my father die, a month later my son, my mother, an aunty, my in laws and then my husband! People that call themselves a friend turned out to be just somewhat heartless! I don't have the answers as to 'why'. Sometimes people just show another side of themselves, i don't care to see.

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

Oh, we got moved.

Huh? Where to?

 

[Cheewawa007]

My goodness... I'm treading in waters I never knew existed. Sure hope I can remember how to get here. When doing a "drive by" from work, I can click quicker than my boss can blink; however I might get caught trying to sneak a peak now. Is the name of the forum crimes awaiting trial?

 

[feistygurl]

can some1 plz direct me to the new place? sry i have looked & can't find it.

 

[Cheewawa007]

This unfortunately seems to be human nature! I would not wish what Deina has been through on my worst enemy. It is incomprehensible. A lot of human beings are anything but human! When my previous husband died at age 48 after triple bypass surgery, i could not believe how people would take advantage of a vulnerable widow! But, believe me they did! Like vultures! In a short space of 6 yrs. i had both my father die, a month later my son, my mother, an aunty, my in laws and then my husband! People that call themselves a friend turned out to be just somewhat heartless! I don't have the answers as to 'why'. Sometimes people just show another side of themselves, i don't care to see.

(((((((((((( hug )))))))))))))) cyberhug to you angels. Bless your heart... I'm so sorry for your many losses of such important people in your life. Know that your screen name could very well be angelswatchoverme -- I am positive they are watching over you. From my lips to God's ears, my deepest condolences and my thoughts and prayers.

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

I think those other cases in FL are much different than this one.

CA - The mother is accused of killing her baby. That family making a penny off of it is a shame.

HC - The babysitter/stepmommy was the last to see her...someone "came in the same room" and took HC. That was hinky from the start.

To me, comparing Somer's case to those two are like apples to oranges. No, more like apples to bacon. Not even in the same group.

JMO

No, they are not, in the same group, granted, and i have said this myself, but other people are more skeptical of a persons motives, especially when a lot of money has been donated to them, and it doesn't matter what circumstance it is. I guess the only way to get around that is not to donate if people feel this way.
I don't know what happens in america with families that have been a victim of murder, but in Australia the govt. gives these people a grant of some $35,000 to help the families of the murdered person.

 

[Gypsy Road]

Surely no one is attacking this grieving mother in her time of pain and tragedy, Dr. F.

Maybe not here...I HOPE not here, but I've been out on the net reading blogs, some of them I've very much respected in the past, and I am disheartened and disgusted by what I have read. How dare someone be so critical of DT and her being outspoken during her time of grief. My gosh why do people continue to tear her down? She just lost a little girl and had nothing to do with her murder.

 

[Kimberlyd125]

Maybe not here...I HOPE not here, but I've been out on the net reading blogs, some of them I've very much respected in the past, and I am disheartened and disgusted by what I have read. How dare someone be so critical of DT and her being outspoken during her time of grief. My gosh why do people continue to tear her down? She just lost a little girl and had nothing to do with her murder.

It happened here, but our wonderful MODS put a stop to it.

 

[angelswatchoverthem]

(((((((((((( hug )))))))))))))) cyberhug to you angels. Bless your heart... I'm so sorry for your many losses of such important people in your life. Know that your screen name could very well be angelswatchoverme -- I am positive they are watching over you. From my lips to God's ears, my deepest condolences and my thoughts and prayers.

I Thankyou very much for your very kind and Beautiful words. I have always said if there is an afterlife, the first person i want to see is my precious son. I have so many questions. I do feel my loved ones around at times, and i hope Deina will feel her Somer's presence around her often too. Too many of our precious children gone too soon.