What does this matter? Really. The child is dead and he endured head trauma. The amount or how hard.. does that really really matter? The father killed him and will be arraigned in June.
That is all we have for now.
What a hard Mother's day this will be for his mommy....
BBM.
I'm sure it will be an excruciatingly hard day for Rachel and Heidi McFarland, too. And Rebecca Garrett. Does anyone even remember them?
After all, Rachel and Heidi McFarland brought Gabriel home from the hospital, invested months of their lives, and thousands of dollars, and allowed themselves to have hopes and dreams about raising Gabriel, during MA's pregnancy. They embraced motherhood, and changed every aspect of their lives to prepare for, and receive Gabriel. They invested emotional energy in dreams for his present, and his future. They loved, and attentively mothered this child, and welcomed MA into their home to remain involved in Gabriel's life.
One of them quit a job she loved to be a stay at home parent. They cared for Gabriel as if he had grown inside them, and loved him and cared for him as his only parents for 3/4 of his life.
They sacrificed enormously, and loved this baby deeply. They have suffered deeply, and been tremendously disrespected. They are cast aside, invisible and disposable victims of this terrible tragedy, as if they were mere babysitters. An afterthought. They have lost a huge part of their lives and dreams in this entire situation, IMO.
And NO ONE even bothered to call them to tell them the baby they considered their son was dead. No one.
I hope they were invited to participate in a funeral or memorial service. I hope they weren't cut out of that part of Gabriel's brief life, too.
Rebecca Garrett is suffering, too. Gabriel's adoptive grandmother.
An Omaha woman is mourning the death of her 4-month-old adopted grandson, who was taken from her daughter and returned to his birth mother in Des Moines.
Rebecca Garrett, the Omaha grandmother, last saw Gabriel King McFarland in mid-March.
Garrett kissed Gabriel, whom she had nicknamed little brown bear, and told him she would always love him.
The McFarlands learned of the baby's death after seeing a news report. Garrett said the couple recognized the birth mother's address from bills they had been receiving
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Garrett is focused on changing state laws so nothing like this happens again. She said the system failed Gabriel.
I'm going to change it so that when Gabe looks down on us from heaven, he can smile and say 'Did I do all that?' 
I hope Rebecca Garrett, and Heidi and Rachel McFarland can advocate as mothers, to make changes in Iowa law to prevent this entire situation from ever happening again. Their arms are empty on what should have been their first Mother's day, too. Let's not forget them. They matter. They are victims, too-- over and over, they have been victimized.
http://www.omaha.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?aid=/20140425/news/140429072/1707