GUILTY IL - Darren Caulk & Jesicka Bodamer for child abuse, Findlay, 2009

[not_my_kids]

Stress I understand. My oldest and 2nd oldest are just under three years apart. There are 18 months almost to the day between my two sons, and between my second son and the baby, there are 21 months.

That's 4 kids, in seven years, 2 of them with special needs...a total of one broken bone.
My daughter fell out of bed just after her second birthday and snapped her arm. She got turned around and missed the half-rail on her bed. Oops on my part, I was still new at the parenting thing.
I think one of our nurses could confirm that 22 broken bones at one time would usually kill a baby that young, they would probably have to be spaced out or little one would have died of shock. So, even if the mother was being beaten, she had the choice to protect her child at some point.
For Christmas, I'd like to give her another black eye. The Christmas spirit only goes so far.

 

[Columbo]

It sounds like he beat the bio-mom up--so why is his bond half what hers is?

I agree with tiredblondy, he looks evil!!

 

[Blue_Dolphin308]

Yeah and I like to give her a second black eye for letting her baby get beat up!!!:furious: I won't let her off the hook for the child abuse until LE figures out what happened either.

And if she could not protect the baby because he kept throwing her around then what?? I certainly don't condone the behavior but I would blame the B/F based on the details we have right now. Now if later details come out about how mom abused the child then I would reconsider my position.

Prosecutors have sometimes raised the bail on the victim of domestic violence victim to get her to roll on the abuser. And then plead the victim down to a lesser charge.


I would not jump down moms throat UNLESS you have ALL the evidence, and all the proove that she stood by doing absolutly nothing to protect her child.

 

[Missizzy]

not_my_kids--I hadn't thought about it until you brought it up but we've raised 18 (with 7 toddlers at the same time) and never (knock on wood) have we ever had a broken bone in the children. I had a broken pelvis from a raging child and we've had a child in casts after leg surgery (she has CP) but no kids with broken bones. And it can't be attributed to our genes as most of us aren't biologically related. And I have risk takers, tantrum throwers, and active athletes too!! And, of course I realize how much of a fluke some breaks can be. We've just been very lucky. I guess there's the issue that we don't pound on our kids or let them hit each other, either.

A while back I worked on an advocacy case for a little guy who had been abused as seriously as this. I hate to even bring it up as it's disgusting. But when the parents would get high, and couldn't deal with the stress of the baby crying, they would throw his body into walls and smack him hard against the floor and furniture. They literally threw him like a rag doll. I believe he was around 4-5 months old at the time.

He survived but was forever effected. His bones did not grow normally and he suffered brain damage. The parents pleaded down and gave up their rights. I read the details when I took his case. The parents had already lost a number of children from various relationships. That really floored me. I remember trying to write briefs for the fair hearing I was doing for him (for services) and I would just shake as I read the details. I've never totally gotten past it.

I'll say it again...relief nurseries. Pull those babies in when they are under threat of death and then try to engage the family and ask questions. We'd save a lot of children and probably keep some adults from committing crimes they never planned to commit.

 

[Bobbisangel]

http://sandrarose.com/2009/12/23/2-month-old-has-20-broken-bones-parents-charged/
more info on parents , if you can call them that,
and the bond for each. Mom's pic shows black eyes

The mother has a lot more charges against her then the creepy father does. I wonder why. He looks like a child beater. Probably thinks he is a real big man too.

It's one thing to beat up on an adult. And it is one thing for the woman to put up with it and stay with him but it is another thing to break the bones of your child or allow another person to do that to your child. They both need to be put away for a long time. Those poor little kids. I wonder what kind of shape the year old child was in.

Judges everywhere need to start sending a message to these beaters. Put them away for a long time. Send that message instead of the one they've been sending for years and years. It's just as easy to put them in prison for a long time as it is to give them a few months.

 

[PeteyGirl]

I've been a long term member of a domestic abuse forum, and there are many women who are afraid to leave, fearing the abuser will carry out his threats to harm her or the kids. They don't believe (and probably shouldn't) that LE will enforce a restraining order or actually protect her. They fear having to share custody with their abuser, where they can't be there to protect the children. There are some compelling reasons women stay with abusive men.

That said (myself having been one of them), holding even a battered woman responsible for not providing safety to her children is a GOOD thing. It's an ugly truth that severely abused women are so far down the rabbit hole in their denial and fear that the threat of themSELVES going to jail is what I've seen shock a couple of them into reality.

Sadly, they are willing to sacrifice their children's wellbeing to protect their OWN. But that is what happens to any human being who is so beaten down. They become selfish and rigidly so. It's very sad, but that doesn't make it OK.

In spite of the abuse, the victim is STILL responsible to protect her children. They should be held accountable along with the abuser . . . because she IS.

 

[Blue_Dolphin308]

The mother has a lot more charges against her then the creepy father does. I wonder why.

Possibly to try to get the mother to "roll" on the b/f. They do this all the time. And eventually the mothers charges will be pleaded down to something a lot less.

 

[SunnieRN]

The mother has a lot more charges against her then the creepy father does. I wonder why. He looks like a child beater. Probably thinks he is a real big man too.

It's one thing to beat up on an adult. And it is one thing for the woman to put up with it and stay with him but it is another thing to break the bones of your child or allow another person to do that to your child. They both need to be put away for a long time. Those poor little kids. I wonder what kind of shape the year old child was in.

Judges everywhere need to start sending a message to these beaters. Put them away for a long time. Send that message instead of the one they've been sending for years and years. It's just as easy to put them in prison for a long time as it is to give them a few months.

I was in an abusive marriage for about 7 years. I believed him when he told me he would kill me or our daughter if I tried to leave. He would hit when he drank. One day he hit our daughter, slapped her hard enough to leave a mark. It was on. He ended up getting hit over the head with a cast iron skillet, by me. Unfortunately I didn't hit him hard enough to hurt him, but it gave me enough time to get next door to our neighbors house. He was a police officer. Funny thing was, he tolerated my ex hitting me (this was in the late 70's), but when it came to my daughter, he got beaten up by the neighbor! After that I NEVER had another problem. Went back to school, became a nurse and divorced his a**!!!!! Thank God I didn't hurt him. I would not have wanted to go to jail and leave my daughter with him, because I abused him!

 

[not_my_kids]

not_my_kids--I hadn't thought about it until you brought it up but we've raised 18 (with 7 toddlers at the same time) and never (knock on wood) have we ever had a broken bone in the children. I had a broken pelvis from a raging child and we've had a child in casts after leg surgery (she has CP) but no kids with broken bones. And it can't be attributed to our genes as most of us aren't biologically related. And I have risk takers, tantrum throwers, and active athletes too!! And, of course I realize how much of a fluke some breaks can be. We've just been very lucky. I guess there's the issue that we don't pound on our kids or let them hit each other, either.

A while back I worked on an advocacy case for a little guy who had been abused as seriously as this. I hate to even bring it up as it's disgusting. But when the parents would get high, and couldn't deal with the stress of the baby crying, they would throw his body into walls and smack him hard against the floor and furniture. They literally threw him like a rag doll. I believe he was around 4-5 months old at the time.

He survived but was forever effected. His bones did not grow normally and he suffered brain damage. The parents pleaded down and gave up their rights. I read the details when I took his case. The parents had already lost a number of children from various relationships. That really floored me. I remember trying to write briefs for the fair hearing I was doing for him (for services) and I would just shake as I read the details. I've never totally gotten past it.

I'll say it again...relief nurseries. Pull those babies in when they are under threat of death and then try to engage the family and ask questions. We'd save a lot of children and probably keep some adults from committing crimes they never planned to commit.

I agree. Relief nurseries and respite care would save lives. Lots of them.
I have the option to take respite for my older son, but won't. ( I don't want him to be with a stranger, and I never know for sure who will be working respite that day.)
Although I do take inhome relief three days a week. I have a para pro that comes out three hours a week and talks to us, then watches him in the house, so that I can get things done with the other kids or do housework or whatever.
This woman is an angel, a saint, and I am lucky to consider her a friend...however, if there were ever any doubt as to whether we were abusing the kids or each other, she would turn us in in a heartbeat.
We need more people like this, and easier accessibility to them. The only problem is that it would require parents to realize that they are about to hit their breaking point.

 

[passionflower]

Are the babies to this guy?
Can you imagine the pain that baby endured?
OMG.............I'm ashamed to be of the human race!

 

[Dr.Fessel]

We had the same thing happen near here a year ago.

http://www.herald-review.com/news/local/article_c7038a98-0328-5af0-a066-4d6c6681ea39.html

SHELBYVILLE - A 5-month-old Findlay girl will remain in foster care while authorities attempt to determine who her father is and what happens to her mother.

The baby, seven weeks old at the time, was taken into care in September after suffering more than two dozen broken bones, including a dozen broken ribs. Jesicka Bodamer of Findlay, the infant's mother, and Darren Caulk of Findlay, who is not the father, were charged in the assault.

Here is a picture of the sweet mother.

http://www.shelbyvilledailyunion.com/homepage/images_sizedimage_303092438/resources_photoview

http://www.shelbyvilledailyunion.com/homepage/local_story_303092342.html?keyword=leadpicturestory

 

[rpipergirl]

If you enlarge the picture of the mother you can see she is beat to he double hockey sticks herself. Maybe she did not abuse the children may he abused them all. I think seeing her face police should speak with her and find out what happened to her instead of just locking her up. JMHO

 

[Vegas Bride]

http://www.ajc.com/news/cobb/police-baby-with-20-267493.html

According to this link, it does sound like it was the mother who caused the broken bones, she says she could feel the swelling start after feeling bones while squeezing the baby. WTH is wrong with people?

VB

 

[lizzybeth]

I do remember the case now that you mention it. It was horrible.

 

[believe09]

I do remember the case now that you mention it. It was horrible.

Thank you-it was Neveah Richardson. The judge dropped all charges against bio dad, Christopher Richardson because there was insufficient evidence-the evidence that the police seized pointed equally to all of the people in the house at the time, including mom. I removed my initial post because the sight I linked to was kind of scary and I was not sure I had the story completely accurate.

 

[lizzybeth]

believe09, I was just trying to find out what happened with the case too. They never charged the mother with the death of Neveah either. So sad that there will never be justice for this baby.

On the site I was looking at (sorry to continue to be off topic) someone mentioned how so many children named Neveah end up in the news (for all the wrong reasons). I can think of three little girls with that name that have been murdered.

 

[believe09]

The other Neveah to compels me to this day is Neveah Gallagos. I will never ever forget her.

OK-so lets see how this case unfolds.

 

[Missizzy]

Absolutely and totally off topic but that's the name our once sweet and innocent daughter uses now that she's being trafficked for prostitution. She's 21 and only has an IQ of 63 and ends up in the hospital all the time. It's very sad as she'll give her name as Neveah but use her medical card which has her adoptive name (with our last name and a lovely but traditional first name). She'll tell you that the name is Heaven spelled backwards but that's not even correct. I track her through adult ads on Craigslist. Where did this name come from? Just sad.

 

[Rayemonde]

We had the same thing happen near here a year ago.

http://www.herald-review.com/news/local/article_c7038a98-0328-5af0-a066-4d6c6681ea39.html

SHELBYVILLE - A 5-month-old Findlay girl will remain in foster care while authorities attempt to determine who her father is and what happens to her mother.

The baby, seven weeks old at the time, was taken into care in September after suffering more than two dozen broken bones, including a dozen broken ribs. Jesicka Bodamer of Findlay, the infant's mother, and Darren Caulk of Findlay, who is not the father, were charged in the assault.

Here is a picture of the sweet mother.

http://www.shelbyvilledailyunion.com/homepage/images_sizedimage_303092438/resources_photoview

http://www.shelbyvilledailyunion.com/homepage/local_story_303092342.html?keyword=leadpicturestory

January 2010:

Judge Michael Kiley sentenced Jesicka Bodamer, 20, formerly of rural Findlay, to eight years in prison on Wednesday.

Bodamer had pleaded guilty but mentally ill to aggravated battery of a child, a Class X felony, for injuring her infant daughter in September 2008...

Bodamer’s co-defendant, Darren Caulk, 31, formerly of rural Findlay, pleaded guilty to aggravated battery, a Class 3 felony, and arson, a Class 2 felony. He was sentenced Friday by Kiley to terms of five and seven years in prison, respectively, on those charges to run consecutively for a total of 12 years, the maximum for both charges.

http://m.jg-tc.com/news/mom-boyfrie...cle_66f34d11-c888-58db-998b-9ed9830f592b.html