GUILTY IL - Halli Burton, 18 mos, beaten to death, Elwood, 15 April 2009

[capoly]

http://www.myspace.com/burtons06 Jessi Dunlap - mother's myspace​

Just not getting these dumbass myspace announcements mothers post within hours or days of their childs death. The emoticons are particularly annoying. In cases like this one someone needs to make a more appropriate icon....one that reflects regret over stupidity & selfishness and begs forgiveness.

 

[spartanmom]

I live in Roodhouse, (3 miles up the road from WH) grew up in White Hall. I know both of the parents, grandparents, etc. Unfortunately, Jessi made a bad decision sp? that she will have to live with for the rest of her life, and because of it her baby girl is now in heaven. Josh, the dad is very much in the baby's life, and didn't like the fact that she was moving far away. Honestly, neither parent is probably very responsible. They both have made bad choices and it cost them both the most precious thing that God can give anyone.
Jessi is an RN at a hospital about 28 miles from here. No, I do not know the details, nor care to know them. I know the families but, did not attend any of the services, for I feel that services for babies, small children should be for those that are the most closest. I personally had a niece that passed away at 4 months old and was disgusted by the people who came to the services only to be nosey. I know my sister and her husband would have had it privately if they would have known at the time how people can be.
Please don't pass judgement on this mom or dad, no, Halli Rose can not be brought back, but, I do want you to know that they are suffering.
From what I also understand, Lee (the boyfriend) also has/had custody of his 2 1/2 year old son. If I were a young single mother and met a man who had custody of his young child I would think that he must be a good dad to get custody. Men don't get custody very often.

 

[Reannan]

Spartanmom, you have been a member here for almost a year, and your words are appreciated. With that said, I think there is wisdom to be learned in this case - lots of wisdom. Why is it that young people think they need to move in together and live together? That is just absolute pure bull crap IMHO. We need to teach young women that they are valuable as INDIVIDUALS - not as pieces of flesh. We need to teach young men that they are HONORABLE - capable of being a hero every day to someone. Everyone in our society needs to learn that each and every person who is responsible for a child needs to put their own selfish, pathetic needs to the side if they are responsible for a small child. Children need adults, and anyone....freaking anyone.....forced into the position of being an adult FREAKING HAS TO BE AN ADULT FOR THE CHILDS SAKE!!! AGHHHHHH!!!! Sorry for screaming. :furious::furious::furious::waitasec:

 

[spartanmom]

Spartanmom, you have been a member here for almost a year, and your words are appreciated. With that said, I think there is wisdom to be learned in this case - lots of wisdom. Why is it that young people think they need to move in together and live together? That is just absolute pure bull crap IMHO. We need to teach young women that they are valuable as INDIVIDUALS - not as pieces of flesh. We need to teach young men that they are HONORABLE - capable of being a hero every day to someone. Everyone in our society needs to learn that each and every person who is responsible for a child needs to put their own selfish, pathetic needs to the side if they are responsible for a small child. Children need adults, and anyone....freaking anyone.....forced into the position of being an adult FREAKING HAS TO BE AN ADULT FOR THE CHILDS SAKE!!! AGHHHHHH!!!! Sorry for screaming. :furious::furious::furious::waitasec:

Reannan, I agree with all that you said. I, like you, believe that is something to be learned from this sad story. Our society seems to have gone away from the "style" of dating that is exactly that "dating", not shacking up after 1 month, 2 months, etc. Hopefully, Halli's story will in some way stop even just 1 young mother or father from putting themselves and their child in harms way by using much better judgement when it comes to having the need/want to "finding someone".

I will admit I have heard more people in our small community talk about how this tragic death will hopefully make single parents aware of the dangers of meeting someone in any situation (internet, bar, etc.) and immediately bringing a child(ren) into the relationship.

 

[OkieGranny]

From March 2013:

http://www.sj-r.com/article/20130307/NEWS/303079854

A Will County man who beat a White Hall child to death in 2009 has been sentenced to life in prison.

A jury in December convicted Lee K. Ponshe, 29, of Elwood of the first-degree murder of Halli R. Burton, 18 months...

Ponshe began striking the child in the head and back early on April 15, 2009, when she woke up crying. Halli died the next day at a Joliet hospital after falling into a coma.