That argument doesn't always ring true, unfortunately. My ex was abusive towards me but he never exhibited any of the same tactics with his first wife (like stalking, threats of violence or death, suicide threats, etc.). However, an overwhelming majority of abusers have certain personality traits like an expectation of entitlement, a sense of superiority, rigid definitions of gender roles, a contempt for the opposite sex, passive aggressive anger, control issues, etc. No matter who they are engaged with it is very difficult for an abuser to hide these flaws even if they're not outwardly abusive to their current partner.
Travis could be cocky - which I personally find rather endearing. There is nothing I can find though in any of his writings, in any account of friends and family, or even in Jodi's testimony consistent with an abusive personality. Just the opposite, literally. No sense of possession or control of Jodi, no seeking to make the relationship permanent very quickly, no stalking behaviors when she moved back to Cali, no threats of suicide if she left him, no checking her phone and hacking her online accounts, no following her, no warning guys off her...wow, Jodi really does fit the bill!
well I really can't think of any way Nurmi can undo what has been done by Juan Martinez. He destroyed every lie JA told. OH WOW I just had a thought, I really hope Nurmi does not keep her up there forever again! I wonder if they/JA and KN have only a certain amount of time, like maybe an hour ????
