While we're on break I'll reiterate something I said that was met with some challenge by another DV survivor...so just, fwiw, every victim is indeed different...
One thing that has always troubled me about Jodi's recounting of her abuse is her total lack of emotions. Anger is a natural and normal process of recovery. While I'm ambivalent about my ex now, years later, I still become angry recalling what he did to me. His actions anger me...over time you realize it was deeper than just being mistreated - they violated the trust and love you willingly gave.
The fact she expresses no anger has always personally unnerved me. She was apparently so badly abused she had no other alternative but to kill her abuser...yet nothing to denote any anger or resentment at the actions of the person who supposedly put her in that situation.
Instead she diminishes his supposed abuse, downplays the fear most victims and survivors have no problem admitting, praises him years post-abuse and claims she still loves him. She is very much acting like a DV victim who is still actively in, or immediately coming out of, an abusive relationship.
It's almost like she read a book and assumed this was how she had to act without the personal knowledge or insight that most victims don't stay 'there' - they move on and begin to heal from their experiences. As such they use different terminologies, view the relationship and abuser in a different light, and have a much different demeanor than someone still in victim status.
JMO
