Well said...I see no difference in them.
Heard’s form of gaslighting and enmeshment seems particularly heinous to me, wherein she has plainly tried the game of blaming him for any abuse, insofar as the good old ‘I am very invested in convincing my partner that the only reason I behave this way, is that they have driven me to it with the intensity of our loooooove. When they get hit it’s their fault, really’; exists and has been deployed by many a partner in their past.
I also think that in light of this type of aggression, her pretenses of ‘but I’m just rendered toooooooo stunnnnnnnnned’ to react!!’’ ring particularly hollow; and seem more like something she’s absorbed as a result of being told about its commonality in DV relationships because, that’s the other side of the ‘witnesses lifetime of domestic abuse on the part of parental figures’ coin.
I understand she can feel both; but that’s the flip side:
Witnesses to abuse often grow up to be the abuser.
I very much think that’s Amber; and you can tell it by/in her choice of words.
She’s literally said ‘my parents had an abusive relationship; but they loved each other very much.’
most people would in fact instantly, instantly respond with ‘oh sweetie, that’s not some grand love.’
She’s also borderline said that violence = love (the testimony of their residential caretaker in Australia, site of the alleged three-day nonstop ‘blackout’ and ‘hostage’ situation - because nobody’s been wondering and worrying where their star is, when he’s supposed to be on a set filming, by her team’s own questions yesterday to his sister; the overwhelming majority of people, even abusers, would be too conscious of this potential impingement of third parties at any point, to be running around chopping off their own finger when they’re expected to be on a set) was, literally:
‘Have you ever been so angry at someone that you just lost it?’
Well, she’s literally told us she has.
In her own words.
Literally and figuratively by her actions; and then she’s also said out loud to him (paraphrasing, but this is the gist):
‘oh, boo-hoo, what are you gonna do, go to the authorities and tell people the great powerful wealthy movie star Johnny Depp can’t control his own wife, who hits him?’
I mean, I’ve never been in a physically abusive relationship myself, just an occasional reluctant witness to one; but this sounds very much like the talk of an abuser to me, and not their victim.
