I did read that too but don't remember where. I did think that yes, the kids come with John. It can be a deal breaker to a relationship and one should be honest with themselves and the person who has kids, adopted, or their own. You are in the kids world and their world is centered on the adults they live with and have their main and incredibly important relationship with that stays with them forever. How it effects their feelings of safety, wellbeing, love and self esteem. I did think reading that she needed to dissolve the relationship earlier on.
Something I've seen a few times in someone's testimony, reading, that she also said at the scene was I can't take care of those kids, (fine) but it's that she said, they're not even his kids. THAT was a huge tell of how she bottom line felt about the whole JO and the kids situation. I don't remember who said it or was said she said it, but it was part of the talk when finding JO and thinking he's dead..