If I recall he was not a "dope" addict, but he had been in rehab for his past addictions.
So much for going away for the weekend with a dope addict.
My presenation and case to the Jugde, but imagine Mark is standing beside me, like a puppet, and I am speaking in Marks voice.
You see if she did not go away for the weekend, he/we would have said:
Your honor, the children have had a difficult time during the pending divorce, I wanted them to feel loved by both parents, I want them to know that both parents are there for them, that both parents love them and that both parents want the best for the children.
This vacation was about "trying" to reconcile the marriage for the sake of the children, doing what is best for the kids, just because Flo and I are "contemplating" divorce, does not mean that the kids would not be put first and foremost ahead of me at least. Their mother obviously does not feel the same way about putting the kids ahead of her.
But my wife refused to "listen" to me, appreciate that I was "trying" to do what was best for the kids emotionally, as we all know that it is not in the kids best interest to be from a broken family, instead of a two parent home.
My wife wants the divorce your honor, I just want what is best for my kids. Since my wife "refuses" to even consider even talking to me "about fixing" the problems in our marriage, she refuses to even talk to me.
Well you can see that I have sought help for my PAST drug problems, which of course was not court ordered, but on a voluntarly basis, I knew I had a problem, which I sought help for, all for the sake of myself, my wife and kids.
Of course those past addictions are a thing of the past and I am living in the present and the kids are my first and foremost priority.
My wife seems to have used the kids against me....by not going away, not putting the best interest of the children first.
The kids kept asking "why was Mom not here for the weekend", why won't Mom talk to you, why won't Mom want to try to keep our family together.
Heck your honor, they even asked me if Mom still loved them, or was their Mom going to "divorce" them also. The kids feel that it is their "fault" and I spent the better part of the entire weekend telling them that "it is their Mothers" choice not to spend time with them.
I do hope this clarifies my position your honor, I love my kids and I ONLY want what is best for them.
Even if my wife does divorce me, I do wonder if she will put the kids ahead of "her paranoid" delusion of me wanting to do her harm.
Her delusions may keep her from fulfiling her "legal" access obligations, or is she "going" to imagine that I want to harm the kids too and then act upon these delusions.....to the detriment of my children whom want to see and whom I have a court order to see.
My wife may not be "balanced" because there is no evidence at all that I have ever harmed her or the kids.
But she seems to "think" that I want to harm her, that is why she did not go away. But I want to know what the factual basis for her "refusal" to go away with the kids. I told her I wanted "to attempt" to solve and fix the problems within our marriage, now does that seem "logical" that I would want to harm her.
Your honor she is "using" this as an excuse to "neglect" her kids emotional well being.
So I really fail to see why she did not put the kids first and go away for a "fun weekend" to spend time with them as a family. Even if our marriage is over, the weekend was "mainly" for the kids. The kids will always come first in my life at least, I don't know about their Mother.
I have grave consideration if she will in the future put her "unfounded" allegations ahead of her children's emotional wellbeing.
Any questions, Bobbiangel......
Now Flo's attorney: Your honor, he is a "bad" man, he wants to take her kids away from her, she is scared of him, she is concerned for the safety of herself and her children. That is why she did not go away. Oh, you mean that she left her kids alone with him all weekend. Well she is more concerned about her safety than the kids. Opps, I mean that he would not harm the kids, but he would harm her "to seek" revenge.
What is the factual basis for this, and my evidence, well let me see. He had a past drug addiction, no, he has never been arrested for any offence, yes, he is "well off", and affluent, no there has never been a "restraining" order, no, no threats on her life either, no, your honor, no threats he has made to other people indicating that he is going to harm her. No, again the Police have never been called to their house for any "fights". No past allegation of abuse.
But she did not go away for the weekend "because she "just knows" that he is a violent man, that he wants to harm her, that he wants to take the kids away.
That is if she did not go away......I don't think Flo thought in a million years thought that Mark would kill her, as she probably thought that he would never leave the kids without a Mom.
This is exactly the technique that lawyers use.......I wonder how I know that....gee let me see.....
Trust me when I say: If Flo did not go away for the weekend, it would have been detrimental in her case of custody of the kids. That is why she went.......
