GUILTY MI - Kelli Stapleton, attempted murder of 14yo daughter, Benzie County, 3 Sept 2013

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Pardon me if I am interrupting the discussion about the video.

I have read on her blog, which I am sure her husband read, that she apparently had a 'do not resuscitate' bracelet and had filed paper work at her hospital informing them of her choice.

Her reason for this was odd.

In a picture of her wrists on her blog, I couldn't see this bracelet.

Thank goodness she was resuscitated. My theory of why Issy was more effected by the fumes is this...

She saw this situation was strange and was upset and started breathing very rapidly for a long time. If I understand correctly, Issy was one ASD child who hadn't been taught to calm herself and was sensitive to her mother. Maybe she thought her Mom was dead.

My car has an internal locking system activated from the drivers' seat.
 
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It's worth noting that if I was watching these videos BEFORE Kelli did what she did to herself and Issy, I would have felt completely different about them than I do now, knowing what I know. Does that make sense? I wonder how Issy's dad and the other children are coping with all of this. Their lives have not been easy, ever, but things just got so much worse for them.
 
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I saw that video where she is crying (or pretending as some suggests) and her daughter hits her. She seems to be crying and not wailing to rile the child.
I won't pretend to know what its like to have a special child. However, i do not agree with the criticism here. Everyone has their own breaking point. People have their own reasons to do what they do. I'll just leave it at that.
And no, I don't agree with attempting, or killing your own child. I have two of my own plus a 2 year old foster baby.
I "think" the school not allowing the child to attend could have been the breaking point. I pray for her, her children and husband. This will be tough to deal with.

We should note that the the child not being able to attend the school, wasn't because anything the child did, but because the "mother" herself became violent. Seems to be the mother herself had some of her own problems.
 
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I do not believe that was Kelli in that video. Kelli was out of town at that time...imo

eta....it is OBVIOUSLY made for kelli. says so right in the video...

That woman is Kelli, she is either referring to her self in a 3rd person, or is talking about someone else named "kelly" as well.
 
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According to People Magazine which pays for contributions...

Matt Stapleton, is quoted in People magazine's most recent edition: "My guess is Kelli thought she was doing Isabelle and everybody around her a favor."
http://www.mlive.com/news/kalamazoo/index.ssf/2013/09/hold_autism_anguish_sympathy--.html

Ca-shing!

Thanks-that was a nice write up. The following quote sums it up for me:


“Parents do not kill kids because a service system is inadequate," Ne'eman added. "They kill their children because media and a disturbing number of people send them the message that that is OK or at least understandable."
 
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Please read Kelli's blog if you are in the dark about the amount of help that mother had.

She had many, many friends, a loving husband, a treatment center for Issy, a school district working with her, and generous state-sponsored options.

I have 3 autistic kids & I don't have the amount of help that she had.

Her blog is The Status Woe http://thestatuswoe.wordpress.com/

It is disturbing to me how she exploited her own child for attention. JMO

am heading to the blog right now... but for first impressions (whatever they are worth.. ) the title of the website says a WHOLE lot to me " The Status Woe"??? seriously???? a blog supposedly about your child's struggles but all the title screams is "poor us at best and poor "me" at worst"
 
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am heading to the blog right now... but for first impressions (whatever they are worth.. ) the title of the website says a WHOLE lot to me " The Status Woe"??? seriously???? a blog supposedly about your child's struggles but all the title screams is "poor us at best and poor "me" at worst"


ITA! My 6 year old son is autistic. I don't have a self-serving blog that says "SIGH. I'm the mother of an autistic son. SIGH."

KS is an attention addict in the most pathological sense. The pictures she shared on her blog of having a "tool belt" with Issy's workbooks & tokens, etc. was ABSURD!!! Issy is 14!!! She's still a human being who has friends her own age--isn't that humiliating to have her mom put all her business out there?

KS seems to have been throwing a fit b/c Issy was not going to be in someone else's hands (in school) all day, and KS would have to deal with her. Why decide to kill the child now? Is it really so she could "go to Heaven?" or is it KS being royally P.O.'ed that she would have to find alternatives for the school year?

I really think KS is Borderline Personality Disordered or has Munchhausen by Proxy--she's a sick, twisted lady who needs to be the center of attention.

And bottom line: KS attempted and came very close to murdering her child. We don't get to murder children in this country, even if they are difficult to care for.

Issy is NOT the first child to have severe behavior problems. Surely there is a solution for families that doesn't include killing!

I don't believe that KS even suffered the head injuries stated in the press--if you watch the video on her blog, where she records herself bawling and cleaning up a mess "that Issy made" & then Issy "attacks her"--KS is doing nothing but RAMPING UP THE ATTACK. Then she posts a pic of herself laying in a hospital bed. GMAFB. Really? How would you even process that as a child? Her child KNOWS she has an issue with acting out--now the mother is putting it on the interwebs for all to see? That's SICK. KS IS SICK.

When my child gets frustrated, he'll sometimes grab at your shirt & sometimes he'll get a bit of my boob (LOL) in there & he is sooo strong, let me tell you, it's not pleasant. What I do is lean down to his face and gently say "I know you are frustrated! No grabbing--remember Happy Hands!" in a quiet tone. It seems that most of the problem was this mother overreacting and goading her poor child into agitation. You'll see the child attack the staff only AFTER KS has been interacting with her--so I wonder how much great progress Issy can make now that her tormentor is behind bars. Let's pray that Issy doesn't have brain damage from this murder attempt.

What I NEVER DO is start bawling, sobbing & whining so loudly that he is unable to snap out of the agitation. THAT'S WHAT KS DID.

Also, with these types of cases, do you ever wonder why the MURDERER never gets his/her suicide attempt all the way done? It must be so much easier to murder than to kill yourself, I guess. Issy got a coma and brain damage & KS is well enough to communicate with all her friends to "get Kelli's story out." I want to puke.


Thank God her husband is divorcing her. She needs to go to prison. And I hope to hear about Issy having HUGE improvements now that her mother is gone.
 
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Does anyone else wonder if the divorce would have been filed so quickly had there not already been concerns/issues in his mind regarding her stability/mental state?

I guess what I'm trying to say is....it seems like it would take some time to process your emotions and thoughts until you get to the place where you are filing for divorce IF, until this happened, you thought you had a great marriage and that your wife was a stellar mom? Wouldn't there be a certain period of disbelief and shock?

Btw I am NOT judging him in any way, shape or form. I'm not suggesting he had ANY clue his wife would ever do something like this. IMO he is a father whose daughter was almost murdered, and a husband whose wife committed the ultimate betrayal.
 
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Does anyone else wonder if the divorce would have been filed so quickly had there not already been concerns/issues in his mind regarding her stability/mental state?

I guess what I'm trying to say is....it seems like it would take some time to process your emotions and thoughts until you get to the place where you are filing for divorce IF, until this happened, you thought you had a great marriage and that your wife was a stellar mom? Wouldn't there be a certain period of disbelief and shock?

Btw I am NOT judging him in any way, shape or form. I'm not suggesting he had ANY clue his wife would ever do something like this. IMO he is a father whose daughter was almost murdered, and a husband whose wife committed the ultimate betrayal.

I get what you're saying, but I dunno. Could be Denzel Washington (sigh...) calibre as a father, but try to murder my kid and he's outta there. One and done.
 
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New article about Kelli. It appears that Kelli may soon be writing a book “Not necessarily about this incident, but her life with an autistic daughter and the challenges it presents.”

http://record-eagle.com/local/x1909744649/Elberta-mother-eyes-book

From your link:

The prospect of Stapleton breaking her silence drew a sharply divided reaction from friends sympathetic to her self-described “woe” and one prominent autistic advocate who said he was “flabbergasted” that a book was being considered.

“If that would be pursued (it) would be the height of inappropriateness and the ultimate example of the all-too-low regard for the value of autistic life,” said Ari Ne’eman, president of the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. “As an autistic person, I’m profoundly concerned and offended that someone would attempt to cash in.”
 
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Seems that Kelli has gotten over her depression and the need (for lack of a better word) to kill herself. Seems that she is doing ok while in jail awaiting her trial. Then on the other hand we have the rest of the family. Issy that has even more problems now than she did to begin with, thanks to mommy dearest. The other two children now have it more difficult as well. Not to mention the children's dad who has the greatest burden of all, especially now. But at least Kelli herself doesn't have to deal with any of that. Kelli can sit in her cell, receive her words of comfort from supportive friends and work on her book that will hopefully be a major flop.

MOO
 

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