Found Deceased MI - Rebecca Park, 22, approx 38 wks pregnant, last seen entering vehicle, phone found - Wexford County - Nov 2025

[LookingForClues]

I think in these kinds of familial situations, it comes down to an individual's temperament, resilience, ability to cope, and sense of self worth. Climbing out of generational abuse/addiction is extremely difficult, regardless of socioeconomic background. A support system is incredibly important, but it's one prong of a success story. It sounds like Rebecca's adoptive parents are the epitomy of loving and supportive, yet somehow it wasn't enough for Rebecca and her sister. It sounds like they were both struggling before reconnecting with their bio-mom. Some people survive and thrive, others do not.

My heart aches for their adoptive parents, the young children left behind (also adopted), and even Rebecca's sister, who must live with the devastation left in the wake of this senseless tragedy.

 

[Stunned]

Dumb question time: Could someone be born to an addict, go through withdrawal as a newborn, be immediately fostered out, be adopted and then 18 years later try meth and immediately want it again?

 

[MyJoey]

Dumb question time: Could someone be born to an addict, go through withdrawal as a newborn, be immediately fostered out, be adopted and then 18 years later try meth and immediately want it again?

Yes, but so could someone not born to an addict.

 

[Knox]

Dumb question time: Could someone be born to an addict, go through withdrawal as a newborn, be immediately fostered out, be adopted and then 18 years later try meth and immediately want it again?

Your questions are never dumb, I wondered that myself.

 

[BlaiseFinlay]

Dumb question time: Could someone be born to an addict, go through withdrawal as a newborn, be immediately fostered out, be adopted and then 18 years later try meth and immediately want it again?

I don’t know the answer to that, but my (only very casually informed) understanding is that some people have more propensity to become addicted, so there could be a genetic component, too.

 

[BlaiseFinlay]

And generational becomes normal, no matter what level of criminal or mental health, it becomes normal.

And it’s sooooooo very difficult for outsiders to understand. And for outsiders to understand how much of this exists (in the us at least).

What I find particularly shocking is not so much the cycle of abuse, but that each of these RSOs was charged and convicted or pled guilty. When you consider how much abuse goes unreported under the best of circumstances, and then factor in how much less likely it is for abuse to be reported when that is their norm, plus how difficult abuse can be to prove even if reported, it paints a scary picture of how pervasive the abuse must have been.

 

[Knox]

I think in these kinds of familial situations, it comes down to an individual's temperament, resilience, ability to cope, and sense of self worth. Climbing out of generational abuse/addiction is extremely difficult, regardless of socioeconomic background. A support system is incredibly important, but it's one prong of a success story. It sounds like Rebecca's adoptive parents are the epitomy of loving and supportive, yet somehow it wasn't enough for Rebecca and her sister. It sounds like they were both struggling before reconnecting with their bio-mom. Some people survive and thrive, others do not.

My heart aches for their adoptive parents, the young children left behind (also adopted), and even Rebecca's sister, who must live with the devastation left in the wake of this senseless tragedy.

Thanks for mentioning this, I too thought about that after hearing her adoptive Mom speak. IIRC, she mentioned something about the kids being traumatized when they had come to her?

Do we know anything about the brother in this trio? I think he’s the oldest of the three? Hoping he’s doing well in his life.

 

[julyj]

It's the cycle of abuse. And due to a lack of resources, there's usually no way out.

Being a SO?

Slightly maybe off(?) topic?

I've seen this happening over and over in genealogy research... epigenetics is the term that is used.

Currently researching a family from the late 1800s in DC. There were newspaper articles about the father being abusive. A birth record mentions the mother having 12 children, with two more to come. Mama died during the 12th pregnancy. Of the six children that lived to adulthood two of them took their own lives, one died from the effects of alcoholism. So sad.

I think it's extremely difficult for those born in such families to escape the consequences of their ancestors.

Also... searching for biological parents often times does not equate to a happy ending. I've experienced that personally, helping some friends in not parent expected / adoption situations.

My comment was about the SO part.. not the way they interact with their family.

 

[sunfumplr]

Being a SO?

My comment was about the SO part.. not the way they interact with their family.

Being a SO?

My comment was about the SO part.. not the way they interact with their family.

It can be. Probably not in this case though. I was just thinking about everything regarding this case when I said that. I'm sorry.