It is clear that this family was not as knowledgeable as our MizzIzzy and did not know what the babysitter could handle. Not that even a typical 16 year old should be watching 2 infants and 4 children. Even when one of the infants is her own.
Grandma was allegedly gone for
15 minutes to go to the train station to pick up the Uncle.
It sounds like the kids were actually
in the bathtub at the time. Not water left after a bath.
It doesn't sound like the babysitter was sleeping, it sounds like she was running around trying to care for 6 kids.
I do not think they should charge the babysitter.
I do not think they should charge the 5 year old with murder. (I cannot believe I just said that.)
I have been holding off commenting on this thread because everytime I think of it, my jaw drops and I have so many thoughts running around. I think this is one of the more tragic stories I've read.
Where does a 5 year old get the idea to do this? How does a 5 year old come up with drowning a baby as a solution to crying?
I don't think a 5 year old can comprehend the permanence of death.
They can comprehend that putting the baby's head under a pillow
muffles their cries.
They can comprehend that putting the baby's head under water shuts them up
completely.
They can especially comprehend those things if they have
witnessed or experienced it at some point.
Or even
accidentally figured it out... by playfully "burying" a child in a "castle" of pillows or something.
They can comprehend that once that baby stops moving and is finally quiet, they can "have some peace and quiet." I
highly doubt they would comprehend it's permanent.
I feel confident in saying that a child that age who has developmental delays would not have the problem solving skills that this child seems to have. She had a problem and she solved the problem. Children with developmental delays don't have the ability to solve a problem that they're faced with.
Although my daughter is kind of an anomaly... she does have Down syndrome and so is technically delayed.
When she was 5, I looked in the window from outside and caught her drinking my Mountain Dew. I opened the other door and she quickly set it back down and ran back to where she had been when I went outside. Being sneaky and covering her tracks. Her more typical sister can't do that at 7. :innocent:
My daughter also does get very overwhelmed at loud noises. She hates the dog barking and will yell at the dog. She never hurts the dog. She does look out the window, see the cat the dog is barking at, shut the curtains, move the chair the dog is standing on so she can't get up there and go about her business.
Problem solving.
My daughter does NOT like to ask for help. She is incredibly independent. When she was born I was told several things she wouldn't do. Including
problem solving, manipulating and role playing. She does them all... far better than I'd like sometimes. :innocent: