Mummy's Little Lolita

[Ciara]

it seems almost like she is trying to set her kid up for child .. that lolita is a term they use for models i think

I hate that word "lolita"...it has such horrible connotations

 

[Filly]

I hate that word "lolita"...it has such horrible connotations

Ciara, you know I never read the novel. My DD did. I did see the film though. I think it's a Kubrick film. James Mason I think was in it. I never finished watching it.

Yuck.

Bamabeauty, no problem at all. I know it takes a tremendous amount of time and effort to keep kids in all kinds of activities. I'll tell ya I used to get a headache from all that dance class, and theater stuff, cheerleading. Yep, there's some very nice mom's involved, but you get one of them crazed stage type mom's and it all goes bad.

I do know that pageants for the older girls can reward with some great scholarship money and educational and travel experience. I have a friend who never, ever, ever, never would do a pageant. Very talented young lady. Once she saw who was competing and what the scholarships were like she did. First year she didn't win, but went back the next year and got a four year scholarship to an extremely good school. We kept teasing her because she's so not "the pageant type" as she used to say.

O.K. I got to go get my weave and veneers, and liposuction. I have a Miss Filly Websleuth pageant coming up.:crazy:

 

[wallflower67]

I ended a friendship because my friend was such a stage mom to her daughter, that I honestly don't think the kid knew herself well enough to decide if she liked something or not. The girl was in gymnstics, dance, cheer, ice skating (her main thing), baton twirling, played both violin and flute when had the chance in school, Tae Kwon Do and girl scouts. My friend was the troop leader. She's also a former teacher and couldn't understand why her daughter's grades sucked! Or why she really wasn't very good at any of those one things.

The kid also has Crohn's, and her dad just walked out on the family for another woman. So now my former friend had to pull her daughter out of everything and says the kid is devastated.

Oh, and her son....never got to do anything except his sister's activities. He was also a gymnast and ice skater...which is fine, but I have to wonder if he would have chosen those activities if someone would have had time to drive him to baseball practice.

My daughter is a Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do at age 13. She is helping with the classes for the little kids while she is working on her 2nd degree. Fortunately, she likes it, and I'm relieved that she can probably kick some pervert's butt...though I hope she never has the chance to try it out.

 

[mic730]

I find this Mother's words to be disturbing along with the pictures.
I can't believe the Mother said this:
'Perhaps it's different in country areas, where they don't need to grow up so fast. But, around big cities, girls have got to be more forward and act older than they are. That's just the way it is.

The parents I know complain about how fast their children grow up and want to slow things down.

'Girls have to be more forward and act older than they are' - so wrong IMO and that Mother presents as a 'have to'.

 

[JMO8778]

I find this Mother's words to be disturbing along with the pictures.
I can't believe the Mother said this:
'Perhaps it's different in country areas, where they don't need to grow up so fast. But, around big cities, girls have got to be more forward and act older than they are. That's just the way it is.

The parents I know complain about how fast their children grow up and want to slow things down.

'Girls have to be more forward and act older than they are' - so wrong IMO and that Mother presents as a 'have to'.

yea,I wonder what is with the 'have to?!' Forget following the world and worldly ways.She should be teaching her dd to be strong,to be herself,to not go with the crowd,and to NEVER allow yourself to be pushed around by what the rest of the world is doing ! 'Have to' is just weak weak weak! (It's just her sorry excuse anyway though).Mom is a total kook.

 

[txsvicki]

I would think that it would make more sense to take all the money spent on pageants (for Sasha) and save for education, buying her a condo, or starting her own business someday. Women need to be able to take care of themselves instead of some make believe dreams of fame or hoping to marry a man with money. Men can and do walk out and it's hard to find a good job with no education. IMO the girl is not going to be pretty enough to win the big pageants by the time she's a teenager. She looks just like her mother.

 

[Ciara]

I would think that it would make more sense to take all the money spent on pageants (for Sasha) and save for education, buying her a condo, or starting her own business someday. Women need to be able to take care of themselves instead of some make believe dreams of fame or hoping to marry a man with money. Men can and do walk out and it's hard to find a good job with no education. IMO the girl is not going to be pretty enough to win the big pageants by the time she's a teenager. She looks just like her mother.

:clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap:

 

[gaia227]

This is sickening. Classic case of insecure mother finding validity and self-worth through the exploitation and sexualization of her daughter.
This woman needs serious, serious help and needless to say so will her daughter who will spend her life trying to achieve a standard that is unreachable.

 

[JMO8778]

I would think that it would make more sense to take all the money spent on pageants (for Sasha) and save for education, buying her a condo, or starting her own business someday. Women need to be able to take care of themselves instead of some make believe dreams of fame or hoping to marry a man with money. Men can and do walk out and it's hard to find a good job with no education.

absolutely! what's mom's point anyway? That even if she doesn't make it,she can just use her looks to find a rich guy? cowardly mom.

 

[JMO8778]

This is sickening. Classic case of insecure mother finding validity and self-worth through the exploitation and sexualization of her daughter.
This woman needs serious, serious help and needless to say so will her daughter who will spend her life trying to achieve a standard that is unreachable.

I have to wonder if dad being distant and not involved in the family contributes to some of mom's actions.I'm not making excuses for her,she just seems to have some real issues herself,coming from somewhere.As if she has to have more of a 'relationship' (albeit a sick one) w her dd since she has no hubby around.

 

[Filly]

I ended a friendship because my friend was such a stage mom to her daughter, that I honestly don't think the kid knew herself well enough to decide if she liked something or not. The girl was in gymnstics, dance, cheer, ice skating (her main thing), baton twirling, played both violin and flute when had the chance in school, Tae Kwon Do and girl scouts. My friend was the troop leader. She's also a former teacher and couldn't understand why her daughter's grades sucked! Or why she really wasn't very good at any of those one things.

The kid also has Crohn's, and her dad just walked out on the family for another woman. So now my former friend had to pull her daughter out of everything and says the kid is devastated.

Oh, and her son....never got to do anything except his sister's activities. He was also a gymnast and ice skater...which is fine, but I have to wonder if he would have chosen those activities if someone would have had time to drive him to baseball practice.

My daughter is a Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do at age 13. She is helping with the classes for the little kids while she is working on her 2nd degree. Fortunately, she likes it, and I'm relieved that she can probably kick some pervert's butt...though I hope she never has the chance to try it out.

Man, I'd have Chron's too if I had to do all that, Wallflower. Yeah, the stage mom's can work a nerve big time.

That's great your DD has her Black Belt and especially rewarding she's helping with the little ones.

Excellent point Texas Vicki brought up about education. One of my DD's friends told her she was going to loseout after she quit ballet. My DD told her she'd be her Entertainment Lawyer years from now so she wouldn't be losing out. She told me "Hey, somebody has to count her money and go over her contracts, right?":crazy:

 

[Ciara]

Your DD sounds very smart to me Filly:clap: