Nancy Cooper, 34, of Cary, N.C. #12

[raisincharlie]

pretty nice vehicle to be in ones name when that one has no job.

I agree, but unless she pointed a gun at his head and forced him to sign for it - Brad agreed to it.

 

[fran]

right and if he wanted his daughters back he needed to answer to those allegations being made

Well, all I have to say to that is, IF he's arrested and tried, "If he wants the jury to like him, to feel sorry for him, he needs to act like a victim."

His affidavit came off, IMO, as a desparate man. Someone who's done something wrong, was making excuses for his actions or deflecting the state of his marriage and his relationship with his recently murdered wife.

I didn't take that as a defense to get his children back but a defense on why he couldn't have killed her, because she was the one who did everything wrong in their relationship, NOT him, he was just a door mat left to take her indiscretions, her monetary abuse, her running around, and he was left to take care of their children and she STILL wanted to leave him.

Given enough latitude, he's probably telling those closest to him it's her own fault she got murdered, that's what she gets for jogging alone.

Ok, I know that was mean, but..............that's the attitude I'm getting from him. It's ALL NANCY'S FAULT, EVERYTHING WRONG, IT WAS HER DOING AND HE'S COMPLETELY INNOCENT.

She's dead, he survived.
Wrong place wrong time?
or..........the ultimate in abuse?

JMHO
fran

 

[d99gr81]

I agree, but unless she pointed a gun at his head and forced him to sign for it - Brad agreed to it.

That doesn't sound like he was very good at controlling her.

What a horrible controlling husband. he MADE her get an X5, and 8000 paintings and 200 dollar jeans and 200 dollar pedicures. He must have ORDERED her to buy his girls 80 dollar outfits.

Sorry but some of you flip like a fish out of water.

 

[reddress58]

pretty nice vehicle to be in ones name when that one has no job.

You're walking on eggshells now, d. If you think raising two children and doing all the household care is not a "job", I beg to differ. That's the role she was given in their marriage...and they both agreed to it. Sounds like your divorce made you a little bitter toward woman doing what woman do so well! Support men. That's exactly what she was doing, and doing it well. So you don't think she earned having a car in her name? Shame on you.

 

[KTaylorsc]

maybe I should be scared of my own hubby. He controls the money, he pays the bills, he doesn't socialize or go to parties in the neighborhood with me.

I work and take care of our son and the house...

Good thing I'm in SOUTH Carolina.

 

[reddress58]

maybe I should be scared of my own hubby. He controls the money, he pays the bills, he doesn't socialize or go to parties in the neighborhood with me.

I work and take care of our son and the house...

Good thing I'm in SOUTH Carolina.

...oh, and of course, according to d, you aren't deserving of having a car in your name.

 

[raisincharlie]

That doesn't sound like he was very good at controlling her.

What a horrible controlling husband. he MADE her get an X5, and 8000 paintings and 200 dollar jeans and 200 dollar pedicures. He must have ORDERED her to buy his girls 80 dollar outfits.

Sorry but some of you flip like a fish out of water.

No flipping here - I still think he murdered his wife and after the search of his office I am getting much closer to being able to say he did, not that i think.

 

[d99gr81]

Well, all I have to say to that is, IF he's arrested and tried, "If he wants the jury to like him, to feel sorry for him, he needs to act like a victim."

His affidavit came off, IMO, as a desparate man. Someone who's done something wrong, was making excuses for his actions or deflecting the state of his marriage and his relationship with his recently murdered wife.

I didn't take that as a defense to get his children back but a defense on why he couldn't have killed her, because she was the one who did everything wrong in their relationship, NOT him, he was just a door mat left to take her indiscretions, her monetary abuse, her running around, and he was left to take care of their children and she STILL wanted to leave him.

Given enough latitude, he's probably telling those closest to him it's her own fault she got murdered, that's what she gets for jogging alone.

Ok, I know that was mean, but..............that's the attitude I'm getting from him. It's ALL NANCY'S FAULT, EVERYTHING WRONG, IT WAS HER DOING AND HE'S COMPLETELY INNOCENT.

She's dead, he survived.
Wrong place wrong time?
or..........the ultimate in abuse?

JMHO
fran

Fran, I am sure you are a sweet person... but i have to say, you say the same thing every time... It's with blinders on. There was nothing other than statements to give his side of the affidavits. The man has two girls who if innocent deserve and need to be with him. I would have been way more vicious in defending my self, especially when an upset spouse over exaggerates to friends...those friends used those stories to try and paint him in a way he needs to defend. Those friends stories contradicted themselves. None of this proves he did or didn't kill NC, but it does prove he loves his girls and knows he must defend himself for THEIR sake.

 

[stillblv]

Exactly... and Like I said there was a time I would not be grieving if something happened to my ex.. and rest assured I would do anything for my boys...not matter what it took and not matter who's feeling were hurt... If it were me and I was innocent and I would do anything for my boys.

You may not be personally grieving for your spouse but wouldn't you feel sad that your sons wouldn't have their mother? If I were innocent I would be pretty shocked that my kids' father had been murdered and would want to find out who did it just as much, no more, than the next person.

 

[d99gr81]

...oh, and of course, according to d, you aren't deserving of having a car in your name.

Thats not what I was saying...I was proving a point about supposedly being controlled. So every house wife deserves an X5?????? how about a Honda? Or a Mini van?


Fine do what you guys do best ...twist words to get to a place you think it should go.

 

[d99gr81]

You may not be personally grieving for your spouse but wouldn't you feel sad that your sons wouldn't have their mother? If I were innocent I would be pretty shocked that my kids' father had been murdered and would want to find out who did it just as much, no more, than the next person.

I had no feelings for her at all... It would not have phased me thats how much I went through.... later I would have been sad for my boys...as I posted in the original thread.

 

[KTaylorsc]

...oh, and of course, according to d, you aren't deserving of having a car in your name.

I don't think that's what d meant.

 

[KTaylorsc]

Fran, I am sure you are a sweet person... but i have to say, you say the same thing every time... It's with blinders on. There was nothing other than statements to give his side of the affidavits. The man has two girls who if innocent deserve and need to be with him. I would have been way more vicious in defending my self, especially when an upset spouse over exaggerates to friends...those friends used those stories to try and paint him in a way he needs to defend. Those friends stories contradicted themselves. None of this proves he did or didn't kill NC, but it does prove he loves his girls and knows he must defend himself for THEIR sake.

heck even one of the people who gave a statement for BOTH parties.

 

[reddress58]

Thats not what I was saying...I was proving a point about supposedly being controlled. So every house wife deserves an X5?????? how about a Honda? Or a Mini van?


Fine do what you guys do best ...twist words to get to a place you think it should go.

I think it was made pretty clear in a previous post that there are degrees of control and that it typically escalates as the relationship goes on. His behavior toward her worsened when she made a visible attempt to leave the marriage. I believe most of her spending was done before that happened. When she no longer agreed to sit back and let him do as he pleased without any attention paid to her and the children, and after he had adamantly denied an affair she knew he had; then she was done with him. THAT is when he realized he lost control; that is when his behavior became more bizarre.

 

[Carrington]

Search warrants for his office, looking for a girlfriend, perhaps.
Whom may just work at Cisco. They may also want to take a look at his locker at the gym.
IMO

 

[KTaylorsc]

would he even maintain a locker at the gym? I belong to the YMCA and they loan you a lock and a locker for the time that you are there that day but they don't let you have it full time.

 

[Carrington]

would he even maintain a locker at the gym? I belong to the YMCA and they loan you a lock and a locker for the time that you are there that day but they don't let you have it full time.

Oh, I thought they had a membership to a fancy club.

 

[KTaylorsc]

Oh, I thought they had a membership to a fancy club.

They do that's why I was asking I was comparing the Y to the fancy club. They may have ben able to keep the locker I dunno?

 

[d99gr81]

Considering what I went through I can easily see him being the one controlled here. My ex was controlling and manipulating... but later I found out she was telling the complete opposite to her friends... when I look at what NC drove and all the pricey things she had, its kind of hard to believe she didn't have some control.

 

[fran]

maybe I should be scared of my own hubby. He controls the money, he pays the bills, he doesn't socialize or go to parties in the neighborhood with me.

I work and take care of our son and the house...

Good thing I'm in SOUTH Carolina.

:laugh::laugh:

This did make me smile.

Thanks,

fran

PS.....yes, S Carolina seems a little tamer. OR they don't get high profile and we just haven't heard of them. Have you looked online for your state? ...J/K