Nancy Cooper, 34, of Cary, N.C. #5

[SeriouslySearching]

This seems like a strange pacing of information to me. The husband's presence is felt LAST? Neighbors are more interested in finding her than he is? IMO, that is because he knew where she was all along.

CyberPro

Exactly! And he sent them in the complete opposite direction to look for her.

 

[RR0004]

Holy crap! I made everybody speechless?! Oh, please don't hate me. Just trying to give a little perspective.

 

[RoughlyCollie]

I think Brad's taking of the passports did not occur in isolation.

He was withholding money for necessities, he was verbally abusive, he was having an affair with an allegedly close friend of his wife's ... and at the same time, he was preventing Nancy from taking the children and leaving him and going back to her country and her warm, loving family.

In other words, he was keeping Nancy in hell, and one way he held her hostage was to take the passports. Then he came up with a new idea and killed her so she could never leave.

IMO.

 

[MoonFlwr]

Holy crap! I made everybody speechless?! Oh, please don't hate me. Just trying to give a little perspective.

I enjoyed reading your input about Brad taking the passports. It is good and necessary to try and see the things we hear about from both sides!

 

[calidreamin]

I love what Blink34 said about this guy....oh, the ego. Seriously, did you guys read his website? First of all, WHO sets up a website about themselves? Whatever. It was all about his training, his times, his goals, his MBA, his blah blah blah. Of course, no mention about his wife or children. It was really weird to me. Almost like he was going through a mid-life crisis but he is only 34, for God sakes! My thought is that he has always been self-centered, but decided he should get married and have kids. But when it really comes down to it, that is hard work, right? So he starts to go back to his old ways....working long hours, studying and going to school, training for an ironman....his wife starts to realize that she got the short end of the stick. Before long, he is having affairs. Another sign of a self-centered person. Then she really gets fed up. God knows what she has been through over the last 6 months, but it hasn't been good. I feel for her.......and her beautiful children and her parents and siblings. I have twins myself - they are only 6 - but they are extremely tight. I can't even imagine how that bond would strengthen over the years.

Please arrest this guy already.

Welcome to websleuths OregonMommy!! The ego on this guys is astounding, reminds me of Scott Peterson.:crazy:

 

[calidreamin]

From my local perspective:

I had to think back a bit just now, and it is rather hard to "un-learn" some of the things that you now know. I recall when I first heard about this "Missing Runner" and the stories came out that she liked to run in the park that is very near my house, so I was kind of keeping an eye out for her.

There was NO mention of kids initially, and no mention of a husband. Then, after a few of the reports came out, they started mentioning "mother of 2", but no details on ages. I did not know if the kids were older or what the deal was.

There was a lot of Calls for Action on behalf of the neighbors, putting up flyers, asking you to look out for her, but I did not find out about organized searches until later, or I might well have joined in.

Anyway, it seemed like a couple of days before the husband was even mentioned. Then you see him out looking, but not talking with the press in the beginning, and then the item about marital strain comes out.

This seems like a strange pacing of information to me. The husband's presence is felt LAST? Neighbors are more interested in finding her than he is? IMO, that is because he knew where she was all along.

CyberPro

I completely agree with this CyberPro. You would think at the very first he would have reported her missing. If I had been missing my husband would have been the first person out looking for me. Knocking on neighbors doors and searching my jogging route. I think he knew what had happend all along as well.

 

[NC-Curious]

News Confernce at 9. Maybe we'll get some good news.

 

[calidreamin]

News Confernce at 9. Maybe we'll get some good news.

Good morning NC and thank you for letting us know. I am praying they announce an arrest.

 

[NC-Curious]

Me too!! Gotta go out - hope to be back before then....

 

[calidreamin]

Me too!! Gotta go out by hope to be back before then....

Hurry back NC!

 

[Caro]

I have come out of hiding to commend all the great posters here. Your intelligence and compassion regarding this case (and I'm sure other cases) are both informative and heartwarming.

I have learned so much on these boards and this tragedy happened, literally, in my backyard.

I was out early last Saturday morning just before 7 am and this area was blanketed in a fog that was ever so slowly dissipating. It was patchy in some areas and thick as pea soup in others. I passed the Java Jive thinking to stop in for a cup of tea but decided against it and continued on home. It wasn't until Sunday morning when I noticed an inordinate amount of people walking through our trails and the flyers tacked to every available surface that I even knew that someone in our community was missing. Because of my work I couldn't be part of the search on Monday through the lake trails, parks and greenway that I love to walk in. I feel that I have done nothing as a good neighbor except mourn with the community and tie a huge white bow around the stately oak in my front yard...

My thoughts and prayers go out to Nancy's family and friends...

 

[PrayersForMaura]

New article but nothing new, really.
"Canadian Nancy Cooper was trapped in America, her family indicated in court filings."

http://www.charlotte.com/breaking_news/story/717843.html

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Family and friends of a slain Cary mother plan to hold a private vigil Friday. Meanwhile, police plan to hold another news conference at 9 a.m. to update the public on the investigation into Nancy Cooper's murder.

...

"I think it is an act of extreme cowardice to take a life, to rob a family, to rob children of a mother," Cooper's father, Garry Rentz, said. "And I guess what I would say is, if you have a shred of decency, come forward."

http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/3228887/

 

[calidreamin]

I have come out of hiding to commend all the great posters here. Your intelligence and compassion regarding this case (and I'm sure other cases) are both informative and heartwarming.

I have learned so much on these boards and this tragedy happened, literally, in my backyard.

I was out early last Saturday morning just before 7 am and this area was blanketed in a fog that was ever so slowly dissipating. It was patchy in some areas and thick as pea soup in others. I passed the Java Jive thinking to stop in for a cup of tea but decided against it and continued on home. It wasn't until Sunday morning when I noticed an inordinate amount of people walking through our trails and the flyers tacked to every available surface that I even knew that someone in our community was missing. Because of my work I couldn't be part of the search on Monday through the lake trails, parks and greenway that I love to walk in. I feel that I have done nothing as a good neighbor except mourn with the community and tie a huge white bow around the stately oak in my front yard...

My thoughts and prayers go out to Nancy's family and friends...

Caro thank you for joining us and I hope you stay with us! I am sorry that this had to happen in you own neighborhood, so horrible to have this happen to such a lovely young mom.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Nancy Cooper's legal status in the United States would have been tied to her husband, immigration lawyers said Thursday. The couple had not yet received green cards or permanent resident status; Cisco Systems, Bradley Cooper's employer, had applied for a set for the couple, friend Brett Adam said.
If Nancy Cooper had left her husband, she might have jeopardized her standing in the U.S.
"Whatever status she had is dependent on his status and his willingness to include her," said Jack Pinnix, a Raleigh lawyer who specializes in immigration law but is not involved with the Coopers.
Nancy Cooper came to the United States on the coattails of her husband. He'd worked for Cisco in Calgary and accepted a transfer to their division at Research Triangle Park. The company secured Bradley Cooper a temporary work visa; Nancy Cooper's was attached to his.
To move to the U.S., Nancy Cooper shelved a budding career in the tech world and left a clothing boutique she ran in Calgary, her friends have said. Here, friends said, Nancy Cooper's visa didn't allow her to work, so she raised her daughters full-time.



http://www.newsobserver.com/2864/story/1145768.html

 

[MoonFlwr]

:Welcome-12-june:


Caro

 

[calidreamin]

Nancy Cooper's legal status in the United States would have been tied to her husband, immigration lawyers said Thursday. The couple had not yet received green cards or permanent resident status; Cisco Systems, Bradley Cooper's employer, had applied for a set for the couple, friend Brett Adam said.
If Nancy Cooper had left her husband, she might have jeopardized her standing in the U.S.
"Whatever status she had is dependent on his status and his willingness to include her," said Jack Pinnix, a Raleigh lawyer who specializes in immigration law but is not involved with the Coopers.
Nancy Cooper came to the United States on the coattails of her husband. He'd worked for Cisco in Calgary and accepted a transfer to their division at Research Triangle Park. The company secured Bradley Cooper a temporary work visa; Nancy Cooper's was attached to his.
To move to the U.S., Nancy Cooper shelved a budding career in the tech world and left a clothing boutique she ran in Calgary, her friends have said. Here, friends said, Nancy Cooper's visa didn't allow her to work, so she raised her daughters full-time.



http://www.newsobserver.com/2864/story/1145768.html

Thank you for the link PFM that was very interesting.

 

[Taximom]

Ok...now I may something that will not be well received...and I do apologize for this ahead of time...but here goes...IMO if Nancy was planning on sending her children to her sister...for whatever reason...I see nothing wrong with her husband taking their passports out of her purse. He was obviously very threatened by this. We don't know what Nancy's intent was for sending them out of the country. It may have been quite innocent...but you don't tell the man you're in a compative relationship with (and yes, even under the best of circumstances when kids are involved, a divorce is a combative situation) that you're sending his kids away. If the shoe was on the other foot, what mother wouldn't go to any lengths to prevent her husband from taking her kids away? The point I'm trying to make is I wouldn't hold THAT (taking the passports) per se against the man. IMO it very well could have been the trigger that flipped his switch. Murder is no solution, obviously. If he feared she was going to do this, all he had to do is handle the matter through the courts. Oh, and as far as withholding money...it's something that unfortunately happens in divorce. He knew she had her parents to help her. Is it a sucky thing to do...OF COURSE! But, it's the nature of the beast. Ugly things do happen when a couple splits up.
For the record, IMO, he is a narcissisitic, controlling SOB. Unfortunately, there are plenty just like him out there. He didn't need to resort to this...but taking the kids' passports...i just can't hold that against him. I would have done the same thing if the situation was reversed.

I would agree with you normally, but to me he only seemed interested in himself. That's pretty apparent on most, if not all, of his websites. The ONLY places I saw pics of his children were on the news sites! I think this was just his sick, twisted way of manipulating her into staying. He knew where her heart was and that was with the kids. I think the only reason he would want the girls was to hurt her more.

I'm not making much sense, but I just don't see him taking the passports as a "Please don't take the children from me" move.

 

[Taximom]

Welcome to WS, Caro. We have quite a few locals here that have been deeply affected by this case.

PFM, that was an interesting article. Nancy must have felt so helpless in that so much of her life was controlled by Brad.

 

[calidreamin]

I would agree with you normally, but to me he only seemed interested in himself. That's pretty apparent on most, if not all, of his websites. The ONLY places I saw pics of his children were on the news sites! I think this was just his sick, twisted way of manipulating her into staying. He knew where her heart was and that was with the kids. I think the only reason he would want the girls was to hurt her more.

I'm not making much sense, but I just don't see him taking the passports as a "Please don't take the children from me" move.

Totaly agree with this TM also the fact that he wouldn't give her money for groceries and she had to get it from her parents in Cananda just shows what a control freak he was!:furious: