Nancy Cooper, 34, of Cary, N.C. #5

[stillblv]

I would agree with you normally, but to me he only seemed interested in himself. That's pretty apparent on most, if not all, of his websites. The ONLY places I saw pics of his children were on the news sites! I think this was just his sick, twisted way of manipulating her into staying. He knew where her heart was and that was with the kids. I think the only reason he would want the girls was to hurt her more.

I'm not making much sense, but I just don't see him taking the passports as a "Please don't take the children from me" move.

I agree - this is an attempt to control her. Just like many men (including my ex) use financial control (like Brad), he also knew that keeping the kids in the states would keep her here as well. I wonder if he knew about the March 10 filing that Nancy made regarding separation?

 

[PrayersForMaura]

48 minutes til the press conference, and counting!

 

[calidreamin]

48 minutes til the press conference, and counting!

I can't wait! Praying praying praying for an arrest!

 

[PrayersForMaura]

I agree - this is an attempt to control her. Just like many men (including my ex) use financial control (like Brad), he also knew that keeping the kids in the states would keep her here as well. I wonder if he knew about the March 10 filing that Nancy made regarding separation?

Especially considering she gave up a good job to move here from Calgary with him and had no income. Sure, his work provided him with a work visa but she didn't have one... At that point, when you're in a marriage the money becomes "theirs" not his. For him to starve his own kids by not allowing her to have money is extremely controlling and definitely sick. :furious:

 

[PrayersForMaura]

I can't wait! Praying praying praying for an arrest!

me too!
Her family needs this.
That SOB needs to be behind bars.

 

[stillblv]

48 minutes til the press conference, and counting!

Maura - Do you have the line to the press conference?

Thank you in advance.

 

[luckyme]

Especially considering she gave up a good job to move here from Calgary with him and had no income. Sure, his work provided him with a work visa but she didn't have one... At that point, when you're in a marriage the money becomes "theirs" not his. For him to starve his own kids by not allowing her to have money is extremely controlling and definitely sick. :furious:

wow! you guys were busy bees. I wanted to say ill be watching today! I have a friend that lived this life for 20 years. It was heartbreaking as a friend to stand back and watch this kind of an abuse. She finally left and now is happy. It was a long process. She had told me it started to happen the day after they were married! She always told me that if she went missing or died to contact police.

 

[MoonFlwr]

http://www.wral.com/

Link for the PC

The little label next to the video changes fom 'watch' to 'watch live' when it is time!

 

[Taximom]

Can you imagine having to go to your parents for money? I believe they knew all along most of what was happening and were probably guiding her so that she would, in the end, be able to leave with the children safely and probably with some money.

If she left a clothing boutique in Canada, she might have had a vested interest in making sure she at least got something out of the house being sold. As controlling as he was, she probably wasn't aware of the entire financial situation. She definitely wasn't aware of the danger she was in, nor was her family.

I truly think at this time she just wanted to leave with the children and nothing else mattered anymore. He knew it...and put a stop to it.

IMO anyway.

It's all so sad because had he just gone along with the divorce, he could have had his athletic life back. Yeah, he would have been paying child support (how does THAT work for Canadian residents?), but he would have been free to do what he wanted. If he's the killer ( ) and he's tried and convicted...he'll be lucky to run around prison grounds for a few minutes each day.

 

[petra]

Caro thank you for joining us and I hope you stay with us! I am sorry that this had to happen in you own neighborhood, so horrible to have this happen to such a lovely young mom.

Ditto. Welcome Caro. Sorry to 'meet'under such tragic circumstances.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

With two BMWs or whatever kind of cars they had, I betcha it's going to come out that they -- rather "he" -- had massive debt, too.

 

[swimmom]

I had another thought on the questions regarding the money that had been taken out of the house. although 55K is a lot of money to most people, depending upon the lifestyle you are living...you can blow through that. If Brad were doing well and making $150K per year, (an earlier post said his position could fetch upwards of $100K) that would be a lot. However, this is a beautiful subdivision, like many beautiful subdivisions in Cary. I can tell you...having been to lesser ones than Lochmere...there is a pressure to keep your home beautiful, and "keep up with the neighborhood". Nearly everyone one I that I have been in looks like it was professionally decorated (at least to my hodge podge home), and there are very specific rules about everything from your garbage can to what can go in your driveway. This helps keep the neighborhood looking beautiful. The flip side is...what do you do when you can no longer afford to keep up the look? The BMW SUV is not cheap, healthclub memberships, vacations (even travel back and forth to Canada)...all not cheap. Perhaps Brad was also concerned that people would think he wasn't able to keep up the image. IF he also had a "friend" on the side...he may have been spending extra money on her, places away and who knows what else. Cary is not a cheap place to live, but it is beautiful and affords a certain lifestyle that would be difficult to walk away from. Financial stress and the embarassment of not being able to "keep up" might have been knawing at him as well.

 

[petra]

http://www.wral.com/

Link for the PC

The little label next to the video changes fom 'watch' to 'watch live' when it is time!

Thanks for the link, MF.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Maura - Do you have the line to the press conference?

Thank you in advance.

Sorry, I just saw your post... did you see MoonFlwr's post with the link?
A few posts below yours...

I'll be watching with you, online!

 

[christine2448]

Sorry, I just saw your post... did you see MoonFlwr's post with the link?
A few posts below yours...

I'll be watching with you, online!

Just getting in the office..what's up? PC? Can y'all update us that aren't able to get tv/video?

 

[PrayersForMaura]

certainly!

 

[stillblv]

http://www.wral.com/

Link for the PC

The little label next to the video changes fom 'watch' to 'watch live' when it is time!

Thank you so much MoonFlowr!

TGIF!

 

[christine2448]

I have come out of hiding to commend all the great posters here. Your intelligence and compassion regarding this case (and I'm sure other cases) are both informative and heartwarming.

I have learned so much on these boards and this tragedy happened, literally, in my backyard.

I was out early last Saturday morning just before 7 am and this area was blanketed in a fog that was ever so slowly dissipating. It was patchy in some areas and thick as pea soup in others. I passed the Java Jive thinking to stop in for a cup of tea but decided against it and continued on home. It wasn't until Sunday morning when I noticed an inordinate amount of people walking through our trails and the flyers tacked to every available surface that I even knew that someone in our community was missing. Because of my work I couldn't be part of the search on Monday through the lake trails, parks and greenway that I love to walk in. I feel that I have done nothing as a good neighbor except mourn with the community and tie a huge white bow around the stately oak in my front yard...

My thoughts and prayers go out to Nancy's family and friends...

Welcome, and welcome to all those I have missed in these fast moving threads.

(((((((((((((((((((((((Caro)))))))))))))))))))))
You are and have done something! Prayers...keep on praying.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

new posts on the blog for Nancy:

Details of public Memorial on their way

I wanted to assure all of you who were so invested in the search for Nancy that a public Memorial service is planned imminently. Details will be released a bit later today, if I don't get a chance to blast an email, please check back here. They will also be released to the media, but I may have more specific information.

I know many of the volunteers are disappointed not to be part of the vigil tonight. Your efforts on behalf of Nancy and the family are not at all forgotten...and we all look forward to seeing you at the Memorial. I met so many amazing people on Saturday and Sunday.

http://nancycooper.blogspot.com/

 

[belimom]

First post - I finally got approved...! Whiile waiting, I read every single post and am very impressed with this board. Thanks for letting me be here!

What I've been wanting to say since the beginning that struck me as odd (before it became more apparent that she really didn't go jogging): if my husband went jogging at 7am, I would have no idea what he was wearing. I'd either be asleep on a Sat morn, or taking care of one of the children. I may have glanced at him and said 'have a nice run', but I would not have paid much attention to what he had on. I never remember what he's wearing anyway - only the kids because I dress them. BC gave way too many details about her outfit, and too many details often mean you're trying to convince someone of something that's not true.

Another thing: we have two small children, and if I were gone that long on a Saturday, my husband would be like, "Okay - I need a break. Where IS she?!?" And he's a very involved father and helps daily with our kids, but on a Saturday that was his day off, he would've been anxious for me to get back to help out with the kids.

Car seats: why were they inside? Had he removed them to clean out the car to remove evidence? One was a booster but the other had to be installed (which isn't fun), so why were they not in the car? Extremely odd.

As for the organizing that her friend was going to help her with: not all SAHMs are good housekeepers. I was not when I was a SAHM - just not my thing, especially when caring for small children. Even if she was a good housekeeper on a daily basis, alot of folks to help others "declutter" and organize toys, outgrown clothes, etc. I've had friends come over and help with stuff like that, so I didn't find that claim unusual.

Okay, hope I didn't say too much for my first post... just eager to share my thoughts with someone besides my husband (who doesn't get into stuff like this)...!