I;d make sure that they GOT in and then leave. (I'm one of those oldies who enjoys my privacy and don't need to be tucked in, lol). I think Nancy feels or felt the same). jmoI would go in. Not necessarily tuck my mom in. I think she would have given me a funny look!! I think it is what works for each family/situation. I don't think your dropping the ball. When you think about it, sadly, there are a lot of elders who have no one. Those are the ones who have passed by themselves and are not found for days or even weeks.