Yes, it's a very bad area. That doesn't prevent someone the right to parent their child if they can, nor does it make a parent unable to have visits.
When my son first came to me as an infant at the age of 3 weeks as a foster child. He had court ordered unsupervised visitation in NORTH PHILADELPHIA. Off and on for the next two and a half years with his birth mom who was already known to be a neglectful parent. On these visits she continued to be neglectful. The judge knew it. I was told " we're giving her enough rope to hang herself" All at the expense of the child, the child I loved and the child that called me mom. I was sick with fear every time. I knew the scum she called friends and ran with. There wasn't a darn thing I could do about it. But lawyer up and fight like hell.
This could have EASILY happened to my son, and it would have been court approved.
But Dad was her legal parent and had standing. He should have returned home, demand mom hand her over, if she didn't.... lawyered up and fought for her.
Key words (IMHO) "court ordered"
many were quick to lay out theories that the visit/living with AD was court ordered
yet NO one, not even BL , has ever said that
the simple and logical answer here was "easiest way out" for the moment
no more TY...maybe money problems....loving Aunt but out of work, single mom to 3...happy to watch her but needs money....
out of town job...hey...thinks to self...isn't it about time AD stepped up to the plate?? It's "her turn"??
I think much of this was done the easiest way...overlook known facts...whistle in the wind...it will be "ok"...maybe AD can "learn to be a mom"..."her turn"
and maybe..that midlife crisis of "it's my turn"...my turn to move west..to be with a new woman...to leave this whole mess, big mortgage, boatload of kids, single mom sister, big daddy role behind
jump in a beemer and go....new life....new world....justify, rationalize, "it's all about me"
Isn't it telling that NO one ever says what Shaynia said?? I have never even heard her sweet little voice or seen a video of her
no neighbors are talking...no family friends....what about her new friends in kindergarden?? did she tell them she was leaving? or going away for a visit?
has anyone ever said where Shaynia preferred to LIVE?
visits with the bio mom...supervised....or short visits...but ?? this was kind of an "adios for now" from what I see
BL should clarify the flow of nonsense..."told her to call me every night">> and then 5 weeks later you come roaring back saying "just wanted to give AD a chance"??
"it's all about ME"