To both Jade and Paul. This is hard, really hard and everyone is frustrated. I really think many of the negative comments on news media are examples of that frustration. Jade, Paul is in a weird position of knowing more than we do and not being able to say it all and also seeing misinformation that can muddy things and potentially make them worse. To us Abby is a missing child who we didn't know before she went missing, to Paul she's a real person and I'm sure someone he cared about and is worried about in ways that no one can understand, not even those of us who have been through similar things. I didn't get anger, I just got that he was frustrated with the PI who was looking for his 15 mins of fame and appearing to use the disappearance of someone Paul cared about to achieve that 15 mins. Like Paul said, that whole map analysis the PI did was laughable. Unless people had put their full address and phone number, it couldn't possibly be for anyone to know where to go if they can get away. The PI made a lot of wrong statements and it's maddening to have no means to correct them. So please, don't take anything personally, if there was tone I don't believe it was directed to you.
Paul, realize we don't know Abby, but we do care. I applaud your tireless efforts, and your "out of the box" ways of helping. I really do believe the way things have been done with social media will change how other missing children cases will be handled. But also realize that we should explore all possibilities, painful as they may be even if all those conversations do is keep this thread at the top of these forums. I do understand how hard it can be to be close to something and read things that are wrong and be able to do nothing about them. The rumors that people start are so upsetting and I especially love when media uses "experts" to state their personal opinions. Fact is, his opinion is only his personal opinion, expert or not and not much more valid than anyone else's opinion on what happened that day. But that's my opinion! At any rate, bear with us all who are bumbling through the dark and inadvertently bound to step on toes from time to time. What it all comes down to is finding this child, not anyone's ego (and this statement goes to me as well as anyone).
And also for the rest of us, it's always good to remember family as well as the victim may be reading these forums. Until Paul came I really didn't think about that much, and now that he's been active on the board it's made me more mindful of what and how I post and I believe that's a good thing.