I have so far avoided getting into any sort of real discussion concerning the
Docwho3 said:
work of L.E. in this case because I do not want to upset any of Maura's family (and I am sure that even these case discussions must be hard enough on them if they read them) but I think that one thing should have quietly been said to them by a good and close friend (and not in a forum) a long time back and that is:Even though L.E. are professionals they are still human and ranting at them in the press and publically jumping to always place everything they say and do in a sinister light certainly hurts their (the family's) relationship with L.E. and those are the very people that are needed to help solve the case. That holds true whether or not family is right or L.E. is right. It seems obvious to me just reading the news accounts that there were problems early on in the relationship.
Any problems with L.E. should be saved to be dealt with after the investigation is done. I do not know if it is possible to repair that relationship after all that has gone on but I think it might be possible.
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Dear Doc,
One advantage that I have over most websleuthers is personal contact with many, many parties connected with Maura: family and friends. I am not related to Maura and although I am very connected to her case honestly believe that I am objective about it. I do confess to being emotionally attached to it.
There is no doubt that your assessment "ranting at them (LE) in the press and publically jumping to always place everything they say and do in a sinister light certainly hurts their (the family's) relationship with L.E." is true and from my understanding, no-one would agree with you more than Fred Murray who has been the most outspoken and critical of LE.
However, Doc, consider for a moment that your lovely wife is missing; that there is a certain situation that would not even have you suspecting that she is missing (Maura was at college and Dad did not talk to her daily - in fact he had just left her the day before she went missing). When the police discover your wife is missing and they know for a certainty that it is her, not you driving
your car; they wait 24 hours to notify you; they wait at least 36 ours to do any type of search for her; they *immediately* tell you upon your arrival (you are 5 hours away) that she was suicidal because she had alcohol, aspirin and tylenol pm in her car (while I do not take alcohol with me on any trip, I always have aspirin and some sort of sleep aide, as well as numerous other over-the-counter medicines; I believe this is typical of most women - their purses usually have an assortment of pills EVEN when they are not traveling - even combined with the alcohol, I can find no young woman who believes this is proof of suicidal tendencies). Because they find no "evidence" of a struggle, they tell you she left on her own and that because she is 21 she has the "right to go missing". End of investigation on Wednesday, February 11. (Until the Murray's refused to let the investigation end. And they did so initially in a very tactful manner through the media. As a result of the media, another search was done on Thurs., Feburary 19 along with the subsequent searches. I agree with the family that had they not kept the pressure on the final search for Maura would have been 2/11.)
Again, no one disputes Maura's right to voluntarily go missing. But is that the way you would want your wife's missing to be dismissed? Would you go quietly into the night when you learn that as promised the LE never even checked the bus station? It is so easy for any of us to be critical of others. But, we will never know how we might react in the same circumstances.
I know for certainty that Fred Murray insisted for a consideral period of time that EVERYONE in the family, those involved in the search and those who spoke to the media to report NH LE as being great guys with insufficient resources. (I haven't the time to look up the new articles, but if you do, I would suggest at least the Caledonian Record to confirm this). Privately, he like all of the people involved, were struggling that they could get no help from NH LE. And he eventually vented his anger and frustration with the only people that could help and would not - the LE. Perhaps not wise, but in my opinion, most understandable and perhaps under his emotional duress, unavoidable.
Should not LE take into consideration the emotional/mental state of mind of the citizens they need to help? Do they not have any responsibility to work in a professional manner while understanding the human emotion and fear involved in having a daughter literally vanish from the face of the earth?
Now as to your statement, "
Any problems with L.E. should be saved to be dealt with after the investigation is done." That was the entire problem: NH LE was not doing an investigation and would not accept help from other agencies, most notably the FBI. (I am aware of news articles stating the NH invited the FBI. However, to appease Mr. Murray, they asked them only to interrogate friends at UMass and in Maura's hometown. They were never asked to be involved in the investigation at NH. I could give you a list of assistance that they were denied, including the use of a special MA SP computer case data base)
As to mending the relationship, everyone should recognize that it takes both sides to accomplish any reconcilation.
Hopefully, NH LE is very busy behind the scenes working on Maura's case. The family has not been contacted by LE for more months than I can recoundt. It would seem to me that they could legally solve the case IF she is a runaway. I cannot imagine any law being broken if they announced that Maura had been located, alive and well, but did not want her location revealed. What a feather in their cap and such vindication in the case.
I agree with you that there are 3 possible basic explanations to Maura's case:
1. She succumbed to the elements.
2. She was harmed by someone.
3. She voluntarily ran away.
I pray each day that # 3 is the correct explanation, but I just cannot buy that with the motivation and fortitude she had already displayed in her young life combined by all accounts of her strong love for her family that she would choose to run away. (I will leave the boyfriend out of it, but to me, one strong consideration that is difficult to reconcile is that she got fed up with not only her family, but also her boyfriend or vice-a-versa. With them almost a continent apart, it would have been most easy for her to turn her back on one without turning her back on both. Leaving her boyfriend would be easy; he is in the army and gets very little leave to come calling. All she had to do was throw away his letters, not answer his emails or his phone calls. To leave her family, all she had to do was move in with the boyfriend and arrange to start her pre-arranged job in OK sooner than summer. Turning her back on her family or perhaps just those who she had "had it with" would be easy. Each of these scenarios would be much simpler and easier than running away. Sadly, to me, this leaves me to believe that #1 or #2 are more likely explanations of Maura's missing)
(I will be unable to repond to posts for several days)
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