And, again I ask you, CyberLaw, (for you have yet to reply) is it fair to accuse the Murray family of being the cause for Maura's missing? There is no evidence to support that Maura ran away because of her family or her boyfriend.
It is very misleading for you to state that she did because you are/were a runaway from your family.........(this is from earlier posts that were mistakenly deleted by the moderator when the new forum was established)
Well let me review the timeline here. Lets just look at the facts after the accident in her Dad's new car, that caused 10K in damage, with alcohol as a factor.
She sees him late Sunday afternoon, early Sunday evening. She has to tell him that the smashed his car, in a single car accident, with clear roads, by hitting a guardrail at around 4:a.m. to 5 a.m. Remember her family has very high expectations from her.....as she is a track star, highly accomplished person.
So let me see, that very same night at around 12:00 midnight. Maura comes back to her room and looks up directions to Vermont. She packs up her room, e-mails her professors and employers that "there has been a death in the family" and that she is expected to be gone for a week. This gives her a week's head start on the road away from everyone she knows. So of course the timing of this road trip on the very same day that she had to admit to her Father her "lack of judgement in drinking and driving". Of course I am sure that her Dad, was just thrilled. So she did not decided to leave school, on the Friday before seeing her Dad, or even the Saturday after the party. Or a week later..... It was on the very same day she had to suffer her Father's wrath. Of course again, this is a coincidence...........
Maura's sister went to WP. Did Maura choose West Point or was it expected that she was going to be a follow in her sister footstep and go to WP. But what gets me, is that she was obviously not happy with the military way of life, but then again she was expected to be an army wife. She did not want to study Chem Eng. and changed her major to a completly different field of Nursing. It seems to me, that Maura was "unsettled" in what she wanted to do with her life, which at 21 is perfectly understandable.
Also, did Maura choose UMASS. Remember her BF "helped" her choose. Again I am sure it is just a coincidence(yet again)that this was the school her Dad went to. Again, I am sure it is just another coincidene(yet again)that she choose the very same profession as her Mother.
When a child chooses to follow in their parents footsteps and their old Alma, it is very much a case of pleasing the parents, but not exactly what the child wants. Was Maura "pressured" to follow in the steps of Mom or Dad. I can see a child becoming a lawyer like Dad, but also attending the same school. Usually if that is the case.....the child is trying to "curry" favor with the parents. Trust me when I say that parents are "pleased" when their child chooses to emulate them in a way that they see as "positive" and a reflection that the child wants to be just like Mom and Dad.
Again, it is just a coincidence that the "nothing" phone call from her Sister at the security desk "had nothing" to do with Maura breaking down distraught and in tears." After all according to the sister "Maura probably just wanted to get off work". I guess it is easier to believe that your sister wanted to 'slack off" rather then you are the cause of her being distraught.
Again, I am sure that is is just a coincidence that these people just deny anything LE says and then turns to LE and ciritizes them. I am sure there was no note(according to her BF) in her dorm room, indicating problems with the relationship with her BF(who has since now become her Fiance, figure that one out). I am sure that she would not have faced "family" pressure to continue because these people seem to put "appearances" before what Maura may have wanted. Do you think her "family" would be happy if she choose not to continue in a long term relationship or would she have faced pressure form all sides(including BF Mom) to fix the relationship. Even if she wanted a clear break........I don't think so. Been there, done that. I know families feel that they can make choices and pressure you do do what they feel is "right"f or you, even if you feel differently.
So the people who claim they are "experts" on her character because they have known Maura since she was young. Hello, I knew a kid in my son's grade one class, knew him for years, A great kid, wonderful........I am defending him now....... . How a person is as a child, is not the same as when they grown up to be an adult. Growing up is the key word here.
If I had a dime for everytime I hear "He was a great kid, he would never get into trouble. I knew him from birth. I knew his family. I grew up with him. I never thought in a million years that he would get into trouble.
Remember Scott Peterson friends and relatives thought that he was the "golden boy" and look how that turned out. His old teachers said that he was a joy to teach. People "praised" his character. Old childhood friends testified how "great Scott Peterson was". I am sure in a million years Laci's family and Laci herself never thought Scott would commit this terrible, horrible crime again Laci and Connor. I am sure his childhood friends never thought that he would do this also. The "character" that he let the world see as compared to what he actually was and did are two totally different things.
So in conclusion. the timing of Maura "departure" in relation to the "interaction" with her Father is suspect. The claim of "we have known Maura since she was a child, is irrelevant. Unless Maura told these people, her innermost thought, feeling, secrets, aspirations, relationship toubles, how she feels about her BF and family, they don't know Maura as an adult.
Funny how people change once they grow up.................
Again, happy people don't ditch their families and runaway from them.
Happy people don't tell their BF one thing, all the while planning and actually in the process of leaving and not looking back.
I hope the BF does not actually plan on marrying Maura, he does not even know at this point if she may be married to another person.....or living with another person. Or dating.......or in a relationship..........
She left him behind......without telling him that she was planning to be gone for at least a week. That would be a week's head start...............
I am sure it is soooooo much easier for her family to "think" that they had nothing to do with Maura's final decision to run away. I am sure they deny there was ever any trouble.............of course they will. Would you expect anything different........denying is a coping mechanism.......
I am sure they want and feel they are blameless in all of this. It is all the fault of LE for not finding Maura.
I am sure the intent was not to make Maura flee. They had no idea. But sometimes a person says: Enough is enough........and they reach the final straw, the last straw........and a decision(which they have thought about, but not acted on) is put into place. They experience that one final factor, that gave them a push. Sometimes the person feels they need a reason, however small to put their long thought about plan into place.
You don't pack up a dorm room with the intention of returning to school. You don't leave a note for your BF indicating "problems" in the relationship if you feel that you can talk to him and work them out. You don't lie to your professors that you need a week off and then pack up your dorm room. You don't leave and not tell anyone where you are going and when you are going to be back if you intended to do same.
Like I said again: Please show me a newspaper article(recent) in which her Father states: I hope and pray my daughter is alive and living someplace else. Show me an article where any of her immediate family says this. Helena Murray is not an immediate relative.
When did the BF propose to Maura in the last two years. I must have missed that............but yet again "another spin" put forth by this family.
No one would know the whole story until they actually speak to Maura. There are always two sides to every story. Unfortunately, we get the "sanitized" version put forth by her family and BF. The self serving version...........
If I recall correctly in the early days, I can't remember whom, but there was information that Maura was depressed. Often depression in a young adult is anger turned inwards............often depressed young adults will abuse and use alcohol.
If you have any other question, please feel free to ask. If I can answer them, I will. But remember I don't have a crystal ball..............
