NH NH - Maura Murray, 21, Haverhill, 9 Feb 2004 - # 3

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  • #101
It wasn't until two days ago that I was even asked to speak for the family. I haven't lied or hidden information, I haven't really even posted since then until last night. That being said, let's move on and find her.
 
  • #102
armywife210 said:
It wasn't until two days ago that I was even asked to speak for the family. I haven't lied or hidden information, I haven't really even posted since then until last night. That being said, let's move on and find her.
I take your word for it. Thanks for clearing that up.
 
  • #103
How about, if and when Maura wants to "re-surface", and/or contact her family or initiate contact in any way shape for form, we will then give Maura the choice if she wants to return home or not and if she wants "anything" to do with "her loved" ones.

Remember it is what Maura wants it is of no concern to anyone else.

I would be very surprised if anyone in the general public "just happens" to locate Maura.

I wonder if she had a Passport..........in the USA alone it would be akin to locating one gold nugget out of 300 million nuggets spread across the whole country.

Again, I have no doubt that Maura is of the school of thought: Out of site, out of mind when it comes to her "loved ones". They are part of her old life, and are not in her new life.......she left them behind.

So with no evidence as to where Maura may be or has been, with no new leads, with no evidence that Maura is a victim of foul play, where exactly are people going to look to "find her", especially if she does not want to be found and is taking measure to ensure that end is realized.

It is "rare" to actually find a "voluntary" missing person, they have left and started a new life..........and do not want to be found. Even the Runaway Bride, was not found, and her picture was 'all over" the TV. She had changed her look, she called LE. No one found her..........

So the chances of "finding Maura" without her wanting to be found, are slim to none.
 
  • #104
CyberLaw said:
How about, if and when Maura wants to "re-surface", and/or contact her family or initiate contact in any way shape for form, we will then give Maura the choice if she wants to return home or not and if she wants "anything" to do with "her loved" ones.

Remember it is what Maura wants, not what her family wants which is important here.

I would be very surprised if anyone in the general public "just happens" to locate Maura.

I wonder if she had a Passport..........in the USA alone it would be akin to locating one gold nugget out of 300 million nuggets spread across the whole country.

Again, I have no doubt that Maura is of the school of thought: Out of site, out of mind when it comes to her "loved ones". They are part of her old life, and are not in her new life.......
You are absolutely right as to it being her choice and hers alone. It is also why I am no longer pursuing the willful leaving side of this case. I don't want to find her or cause her to be found if she left willfully as that would violate her privacy. I will still look in on this thread but I am moving along unless or until something indicates foul play. Thanks for reminding us that it's her choice to make.

You have demonstrated some keen insight in many parts of this case and I look forward to reading your posts on other cases as well.
 
  • #105
I dont think that anyone will argue with that. However, lets keep in mind that the "facts" about her ditching her family and boyfriend are speculation. The "facts" about her packing up her room are speculation. "facts" about her drinking that day are speculation. With 280 dollars in an account, any amount of emergency money you take out to bring on a little trip would seem to be draining it. Many of the "facts" that have been stated are purely speculation by some and have no cooberation. Let's not make this out to be one big "fact". We would all love to find that to be true, but this theory is no more proven than foul play.
 
  • #106
docwho3 said:
One extra little point: The Mauramurray.com website lists her stats this way:

I suppose that means she was 22 when she disappeared in case anyone wondered.
Maura's birthday is May 4, 1982. At the time of her disappearance she was 21, just short of her 22nd birthday. Most likely when the particular missing fliers were made it was after her 22nd bday.
 
  • #107
armywife210 said:
Maura's birthday is May 4, 1982. At the time of her disappearance she was 21, just short of her 22nd birthday. Most likely when the particular missing fliers were made it was after her 22nd bday.
Could be or maybe someone just rounded up the age a few days. Either way its nice to know. I think what threw me was that many missing person sites have an "age at time of disappearance" so I got used to reading the age as that stat.
 
  • #108
I don't want to get into some big ol brawl here, I just dont want to discount this as a runaway when we have no facts to cooberate it. We have atleast just as many facts to cooberate an abduction.
 
  • #109
armywife210 said:
I dont think that anyone will argue with that. However, lets keep in mind that the "facts" about her ditching her family and boyfriend are speculation. The "facts" about her packing up her room are speculation. "facts" about her drinking that day are speculation. With 280 dollars in an account, any amount of emergency money you take out to bring on a little trip would seem to be draining it. Many of the "facts" that have been stated are purely speculation by some and have no cooberation. Let's not make this out to be one big "fact". We would all love to find that to be true, but this theory is no more proven than foul play.

ArmyWife - so she cleaned out her checking account completely? Did she have any other accounts that she left any money in?
 
  • #110
Taking a fresh perspective on this.

Some things ARE speculation, like what her complete intent was - did she intend to run away for just a week, or for the rest of her life. What isn't speculation is whether she cleaned out her room - she did or she didn't, it's one or the other and her family and the police know which answer is correct. Yes or no. There's no speculation to it.

Looking at this, it seems more and more certain that she intended to leave forever, but that's only my perspective.

What is more important than what her intent was - whether it was to leave for just a week and then suddenly come back, or whether it was to start a new life elsewhere, is did she meet with foul play in that first couple days? Did she survive beyond the couple days after she wrecked the car into the snowbank and left with just a few things in a backpack?

That seems like that's the focus that everyone needs to be looking at, and put aside the different ways we view her intent.

I know several on the board believe an adult should have no responsibility to at least let their family know that they're leaving for good and don't ever want to be contacted again, but I don't feel that way. In the case of severe abuse, where the parents can be charged with a crime and imprisoned for their treatment of a family member, then okay. You can leave and don't say bye.

Otherwise, if you just leave and never let anyone know where you went, they waste their whole lives searching for you. That's just a stupid, unfair and cruel waste.
 
  • #111
KatherineQ said:
ArmyWife - so she cleaned out her checking account completely? Did she have any other accounts that she left any money in?
She didn't clean it out completely, no. There was no other account that anyone has ever known of. She was a full time student, she paid her own way. Her dad was helping her find new transportation but beyond that she took care of herself. She worked part time, but I cannot fathom it being much more than enough to pay for necessities.
After her boyfriend graduated from WP in 2002, he paid for every single trip for her to come see him. Before he graduated, his parents paid for every trip for her to come to Ohio with him to see them. She had no money, she was a poor college student like most other college students are.
I was in precisely the same situation before my husband and I were married. I was in Northern MN, he was stationed down here at Ft Sill. He paid for everthing because I was a poor college student.
She was frugal with her money because she didn't have much of it. However, I can see why she took 280 dollars (again she didnt completely clean it out, though she didn't have much more) with her for emergency purposes. She could always put it back in when she returned. She had a couple of credit cards as well. That was it.
 
  • #112
KatherineQ said:
. . .I know several on the board believe an adult should have no responsibility to at least let their family know that they're leaving for good and don't ever want to be contacted again, but I don't feel that way. In the case of severe abuse, where the parents can be charged with a crime and imprisoned for their treatment of a family member, then okay. You can leave and don't say bye.

Otherwise, if you just leave and never let anyone know where you went, they waste their whole lives searching for you. That's just a stupid, unfair and cruel waste.
I agree with parts of what you said but I also believe an adult has the legal right to willfully leave. However, I wish we could get a law passed requiring them to fill out a paper at the local police office or sherrifs office so that once they left police could produce the paper and save everyone including L.E. so much wasted time and money.
 
  • #113
KatherineQ said:
Taking a fresh perspective on this.

Some things ARE speculation, like what her complete intent was - did she intend to run away for just a week, or for the rest of her life. What isn't speculation is whether she cleaned out her room - she did or she didn't, it's one or the other and her family and the police know which answer is correct. Yes or no. There's no speculation to it.

except for had she packed her belongings, or not unpacked them from Christmas Break. She had only been back a couple of weeks, both of those weekends were extremely busy for her. If it were me, I would just take things out as I was using them until I had time to completely unpack. Her boyfriends mom stated that often times she just unpacked as she needed things. If she took with her what was unpacked, what exactly had she packed? Those closest to her have stated that it didn't look packed to them.

Looking at this, it seems more and more certain that she intended to leave forever, but that's only my perspective.

That's the problem with so many speculating and stating it as truth if they don't know her habits. I am not saying that to be mean, but it is just fact.



What is more important than what her intent was - whether it was to leave for just a week and then suddenly come back, or whether it was to start a new life elsewhere, is did she meet with foul play in that first couple days? Did she survive beyond the couple days after she wrecked the car into the snowbank and left with just a few things in a backpack?

That seems like that's the focus that everyone needs to be looking at, and put aside the different ways we view her intent.

I know several on the board believe an adult should have no responsibility to at least let their family know that they're leaving for good and don't ever want to be contacted again, but I don't feel that way. In the case of severe abuse, where the parents can be charged with a crime and imprisoned for their treatment of a family member, then okay. You can leave and don't say bye.

There is no abuse. There is no controlling factor coming from any of them.

Otherwise, if you just leave and never let anyone know where you went, they waste their whole lives searching for you. That's just a stupid, unfair and cruel waste.
And I completely agree with you. And I point out that this sort of behavior is in no way, shape, or form within her personality. She wrote to her grandma every week. She couldn't wait to be married to her boyfriend and have his children. She looked forward to being an Army Wife. Even at West Point there was no shady behavior.
I cannot tell you how badly I broke down when I was in school. It is just really stressful, especially when you are as serious about your grades as she was (and no her grades weren't falling) and the love of your life is in another state!.
Look at her father's face in his pictures. He has lost massive amounts of weight. He searches actively for his daughter. You can see the pain and agony. Maura loved her father completely. How could anyone say that she would cause that much pain? And her boyfriend.... he is not dominating at all. No one can even fathom what he is going through, two years after the love of his life disappeared. She loved people, she cared so deeply about everyone. She would never cause that kind of pain. She was free to make her own choices, she didn't need to run to do that.
 
  • #114
armywife210 said:
. . . The "facts" about her packing up her room are speculation. . .
Actually that was not speculation in the post. It was based on a news report quote made by one of the N.H. state police. You might think he was speculating but as far as I know you would yourself be speculating on that.

armywife210 said:
. . ."facts" about her drinking that day are speculation. . .
I don't remember whether she was actually seen drinking but alcohol was involved in that it was with her when she had her wreck, according to News reports. Also I seem to remember reading that a cup of alcohol beverage was found at the scene of the accident but I would need to reread the reports to state that here as an absolute fact tonight. Also I believe one news report said one of the witnesses said she appeared to have been drinking. That does not make it a fact but neither is it rank speculation for someone here to post about drinking based on such a report.

armywife210 said:
. . .With 280 dollars in an account, any amount of emergency money you take out to bring on a little trip would seem to be draining it. . .
If you have a certain amount in an account and you remove nearly all that money it is not unreasonable to say the account was nearly "drained" or "emptied". The fact that you interpret that to mean she only needed some money for her trip does not change the facts that the account was basically emptied.

armywife210 said:
. . .Many of the "facts" that have been stated are purely speculation by some and have no cooberation. . .
When someone posts links to news reports citing the source for what they say, that does not make their post speculation. It is in fact an example of using the best most verifiable sources of info we have available.
 
  • #115
that were unfortunately lost when they were being merged/moved on this website.

1. That Maura had not one but TWO accidents within a relatively short period of time-and even if she didn't hit the windshield in either case, the whiplash action caused by a violent stop(s) and/or airbag deployment could cause some brain trauma-especially in someone who is 5'5" or less. Even if Atwood stated Maura seemed lucid at first glance, there is still a good possibility that she suffered a cumulative brain trauma akin to a concussion. The cracked windshield is one of the main reasons I continue to be thoroughly ticked off at the local LE for not immediately searching for her since the cracked windshield in and of itself is evidence that this person may have been seriously injured!

2. That if Maura had truly intended to "disappear" WHY would she contact an establishment that day about the availability of rooms-another lead that the Murray family themselves discovered and that LE TOTALLY missed?

3. The call to Bill Rausch-which he swears was Maura sounding scared-or possibly disoriented. I have never seen a reasonable explanation as to why this call could not be traced to a certain area-I mean, how many cell towers are there in that part of NH?

Finally-if what Cyberlaw states in post about this not being a criminal case-then WHY will LE and the courts NOT give Fred Murray the info they are withholding? If there is no crime, then they should be more than happy to give him their info so he can continue to investigate at his own expense. The fact that the info is being withheld is telling in that no matter how hard LE is pushing the "runaway" theory to the public, in private there must be something more...especially since Maura's effects were returned to her family and then requested back by LE FIVE MONTHS LATER for "forensic testing", which at that point would have been totally useless considering by that time how many people had handled them.

Bottom line-it just doesn't add up to a runaway scenario in my book!
 
  • #116
can some one help me out here pls. i read the threads on her today and do not recall seeing anything about Maura being upset about her mom being ill. were her mom and dad together two yrs ago? was here mom sick then? thanks
 
  • #117
did maura take "time out" for herself before? why would she feeel the need after just coming back from winter break- the second week of school to do so?

during winter break was she taking classes, working, was she home with family?

did maura live in a dorm- single room or have roomate?

what were the financial arrangements for school? did she get money from parents?
 
  • #118
The only piece of evidence I have read to date that even implies a possible foul play outcome is
. . .Vaughn wrote. “Release of the records could jeopardize the investigation and lead to, among other things, destruction of evidence, intimidation of witnesses and loss of communications with entities providing confidential information.” . .
Note: I added the bolding.

Above that it had also said
. . .“(The state) maintain(s) that release of the records could result in the destruction of evidence, chilling and intimidation of witnesses and the revelation of the scope and nature of the investigation,” Vaughn wrote. . . .
http://www.unionleader.com/article.aspx?headline=Dad+denied+access+to+records+on+daughter&articleId=aa79b4ba-1064-48d3-83ec-4d23727040df
 
  • #119
docwho3 said:
Actually that was not speculation in the post. It was based on a news report quote made by one of the N.H. state police. You might think he was speculating but as far as I know you would yourself be speculating on that.
Well we all know that a complete stranger would have more of an idea about her habits than anyone else. To me, that is speculation on anyones part. And I certainly dont think that was ever stated to anyone as fact, but as how it appeared to the officer.

I don't remember whether she was actually seen drinking but alcohol was involved in that it was with her when she had her wreck, according to News reports. Also I seem to remember reading that a cup of alcohol beverage was found at the scene of the accident but I would need to reread the reports to state that here as an absolute fact tonight. Also I believe one news report said one of the witnesses said she appeared to have been drinking. That does not make it a fact but neither is it rank speculation for someone here to post about drinking based on such a report.

She was not seen drinking alcohol at all that day. She had a box of wine that was busted open at the scene. The impact could have just as easily done that.

If you have a certain amount in an account and you remove nearly all that money it is not unreasonable to say the account was nearly "drained" or "emptied". The fact that you interpret that to mean she only needed some money for her trip does not change the facts that the account was basically emptied.

I, myself, carry cash on me every time I go anywhere as a safe gaurd. Why not close it out if you aren't returning? Coverup, a big coverup.

When someone posts links to news reports citing the source for what they say, that does not make their post speculation. It is in fact an example of using the best most verifiable sources of info we have available.
Media... it most certainly doesn't make it gospel though, and most of it IS speculation on someones part. You can quote an officer as having said that it appeared anyway he thinks it appeared, but that doesn't make it fact.
 
  • #120
gatetrekker44 said:
that were unfortunately lost when they were being merged/moved on this website.

1. That Maura had not one but TWO accidents within a relatively short period of time-and even if she didn't hit the windshield in either case, the whiplash action caused by a violent stop(s) and/or airbag deployment could cause some brain trauma-especially in someone who is 5'5" or less. Even if Atwood stated Maura seemed lucid at first glance, there is still a good possibility that she suffered a cumulative brain trauma akin to a concussion. The cracked windshield is one of the main reasons I continue to be thoroughly ticked off at the local LE for not immediately searching for her since the cracked windshield in and of itself is evidence that this person may have been seriously injured!

Quite possible.

2. That if Maura had truly intended to "disappear" WHY would she contact an establishment that day about the availability of rooms-another lead that the Murray family themselves discovered and that LE TOTALLY missed?

Here here.

3. The call to Bill Rausch-which he swears was Maura sounding scared-or possibly disoriented. I have never seen a reasonable explanation as to why this call could not be traced to a certain area-I mean, how many cell towers are there in that part of NH?

The call to CPT Rausch (then LT Rausch) was not made from a cell phone, but from the same kind of phone card that his mother had given her a couple of months prior. They could not adequately trace that call to a particular place because they did not have the number and pin on the particular card in which the call was made with.

Finally-if what Cyberlaw states in post about this not being a criminal case-then WHY will LE and the courts NOT give Fred Murray the info they are withholding? If there is no crime, then they should be more than happy to give him their info so he can continue to investigate at his own expense. The fact that the info is being withheld is telling in that no matter how hard LE is pushing the "runaway" theory to the public, in private there must be something more...especially since Maura's effects were returned to her family and then requested back by LE FIVE MONTHS LATER for "forensic testing", which at that point would have been totally useless considering by that time how many people had handled them.

Good point.

Bottom line-it just doesn't add up to a runaway scenario in my book!
You have good points!
 
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