GUILTY NJ - Amy Giordano, 25, Hightstown, 8 June 2007

[BethInAK]

I feel sad for this young mother. It's obvious something was going on in her mind. Maybe she felt it better to leave her child rather than do something to harm him in her deteriorated mental capacity? I sure hope they find her. I hope she hasn't harmed herself. That would be such a tragedy for this baby.

I think she's dead. And not at her own hand.

edited to add : but I hope I'm wrong....

 

[Dena]

So just a few days before she bought a big box of diapers, this was obviously not planned.

As a smoker - there is no way I would leave my house without cigarettes, and without a purse you obviously can't buy any. For a smoker, it's like being without your medicine, and you go a little crazy.

Now if something bad did happen to mom, who did it?

My initial thinking is that it HAD to be someone close to her, and someone who LOVED this child. Someone went through the trouble to keep him unharmed, bathe him, and drop him off somewhere.
We could also be looking at suicide with the mom.

This sad story has turned even more sad.

 

[Kymistry35]

Didn't I read somewhere that she has another child? Where is that one at?

 

[Spazkat9696]

I wonder if John Vincent is a clue as to what happend to the mom or where she is? Seeing as how that's not the baby's name maybe it's the name of whom ever made her leave her baby From what I have read I don't think she just left him I think it was forced. Maybe she had met someone who killed her and abandond the baby with that note. Sh may have used that name because to keep him from knowing who she and her son really were. Sort of a protective thing until she really got to know him. I think if the baby's dad had done it he would have just kept the baby and said the mom ran off and from what it seems no one would have been the wiser.

 

[opme]

I wonder if John Vincent is a clue as to what happend to the mom or where she is? Seeing as how that's not the baby's name maybe it's the name of whom ever made her leave her baby From what I have read I don't think she just left him I think it was forced. Maybe she had met someone who killed her and abandond the baby with that note. Sh may have used that name because to keep him from knowing who she and her son really were. Sort of a protective thing until she really got to know him. I think if the baby's dad had done it he would have just kept the baby and said the mom ran off and from what it seems no one would have been the wiser.

I would be more inclined to believe the mother was on the run and deliberately left the baby so he could be taken care of or theperson who possibly harmed her has a emotional interest in this child. No one who either randomly or who is only casually aquainted with the mom would go to the trouble of leaving this child in with a note. They would have also harmed the child or just left him in the apartment. I wonder if the mother wasnta witness to a crime or had borrowed money from the wrong people or was somehow now a target for criminal folks.. maybe she thought she would be better running without the baby in tow as he would if he had proper care and if they caught up with her at least he would be safe..?
Its that or someone who knew them both and cared for this baby had something to do with her disappearance. Otherwise it wouldnt make sense for them to got these lengths to ensure his safety .. they just wouldnt care enough to bother.

 

[comfort80]

doesnt she have any family anywhere?

 

[froggierintexas]

http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070616/NEWS/706160371/1006/NEWS

According to this article, the baby was on medication for a skin condition yet whoever left him at the hospital failed to bring the medicine. Wouldn't a mom bring the medicine with the kid if she was concerned enough to leave him at a hospital rather than have him be tested again? The presc. bottle was found in her apt.

That really makes me think foul play.

 

[opme]

http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070616/NEWS/706160371/1006/NEWS

According to this article, the baby was on medication for a skin condition yet whoever left him at the hospital failed to bring the medicine. Wouldn't a mom bring the medicine with the kid if she was concerned enough to leave him at a hospital rather than have him be tested again? The presc. bottle was found in her apt.

That really makes me think foul play.

Agreed, I missed that the medicine was required now.. i assumed that it was from a previous instance.. but that being said it makes it more suspicious that this was someone other than the mother...could also explain why the little guy was so upset when he was found..

 

[reb]

oh, great. so i guess the next time, a poor desperate mother will just kill her child, if she cannot take care of them?? so now on top of all her other troubles, she will have legal troubles. that's just perfect. nice society we live in... we are anti-sex ed, we are anti-abortion, planned parenthood clinics constantly having their funds cut down to nothing by our stupid inept government, (and they are targets for religious idiots with bombs!).. wages for unskilled labor have stagnated while the cost of everything skyrockets... meanwhile if someone DOES have a kid they can no longer care for, they get charged for abandoning them at a hospital.

question: can people still legally leave a baby on a church doorstep without being charged with abandonment? whatever happened to that? what are their other options? i imagine that if they try to give up legal custody with social services or an adoption agency, they will probably be sucked into some long, drawn-out beareaucratic nightmare of counselling, endless paperwork, as they try to convince the parent to keep the child against their wishes. it's possible that sometimes people just can't take it anymore... thay are on shaky ground to begin with, and then their circumstances change for the worse... then what the heck are they supposed to do? it's no wonder people end up abusing and killing their children. i'm not saying that is a legitimate excuse... i'm saying, no wonder it leads to this, if there are no other options!!! i think if a parent themselves decides they can't handle it, we should BELIEVE THEM! and for god's sake, help the parent find a better home for the kid without CHARGING THEM like a criminal. i understand why people shouldn't just abandon their kids- and why i's a crime, but if we are going to have these laws, we need to have BETTER OPTIONS easily available for parents to give up their kids... how about we bring back orphanages for starters. AND offer free, easy sterilization for ANYONE who wants it! of course if we would stop spending so much money trying to democracize the entire world.. we might have a little more funds to do these things.

 

[Spazkat9696]

Agreed, I missed that the medicine was required now.. i assumed that it was from a previous instance.. but that being said it makes it more suspicious that this was someone other than the mother...could also explain why the little guy was so upset when he was found..

It was just rash cream. If you have state funded health ins (medicaid) you can get anything even desitin free on RX if thats what it was. I heard the baby's dad hasn't been seen or heard from since she went missing.

 

[froggierintexas]

This is from the article link I posted above

'That's the crux -- why have very strong medication like that and take the child and not take the medication? There were two bottles in the fridge',

I wasn't aware that you keep rash cream in the fridge, but then I guess it's possible that this very strong medication was diaper cream. Although, I don't think they would refer to it as strong. Can you post a link to the story you refer to where it is said to be just rash cream?

If it was just diaper cream, I can see not bringing it, if it was for a more serious rash as I read earlier, I would think a mother would leave it with the child. My point being, I don't think this mother left that baby there. I think she met with foul play at the hands of a lover. Seems to be theme nowadays.

 

[Filly]

It was just rash cream. If you have state funded health ins (medicaid) you can get anything even desitin free on RX if thats what it was. I heard the baby's dad hasn't been seen or heard from since she went missing.

I'm fairly close to there so our news has been covering it. They say the dad who is a computer analyst is MIA. By the looks of this poor girls apartment I highly doubt she left her baby in a parking lot. As someone mentioned she left without her smokes. The note was crudely written as well. This baby was taken care of and the apartment had all kind of toys and baby stuff. I'm wondering why it took so long to find her purse and why the cops didn't find it? They were making it seem as if she was in big legal trouble though I thought. No matter what it's sad. I just don't see her leaving that baby in a lot though where he could get hit by a car.

 

[mysteriew]

I'm a smoker too. And I wouldn't leave the house without my cigs. Esp if I was contemplating suicide! In times of stress, you have to have them.

I read something somewhere- sorry, don't have the link- that the father was paying the rent on the apartment she lived in. I too read that the father was missing. And I also read that he just quit showing up at work. And his wife and family did not call his work to inquire about him or report him missing.

The note that was found with the baby- if the father was responsible and made the mother write the note, could that have been mom's way of asking for help in the note? Or the father's attempt to "get rid of the boy" without killing him or calling attention to the mother being missing? If he changed the name of the child, then it would take longer to id him. Giving someone more time to leave the country.

 

[mysteriew]

Police: Abandoned Toddler's Mother Involved With Married Man
http://www.nbc10.com/news/13541901/detail.html

Police: Toddler's missing father not a 'missing person'
http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070620/NEWS/70620053

Police aren't saying what the father "is", but they say he isn't missing.

 

[Dena]

I can't wrap my brain around this one... what is going on???
That little boy, his eyes, there is no way this mother would abandon him. He looks like such a happy little baby.

 

[Glow]

A MySpace page created in 2006 that appears to belong to Giordano — that has been updated by someone since her disappearance — also indicates her age as 27.

Vanderbeck said the discovery of the almost full pack of cigarettes worries him the most, because Giordano would chain-smoke when she visited his SlowDown Cafe, located on the street-level of his building.

“Someone who is addicted to cigarettes doesn’t go far from that,” he said.

Police also are looking for the man they believe to be the boy’s father, Rosario “Roy” Digirolamo. Vanderbeck said Digirolamo -- who often visited mother and son and drove them to doctor’s appointments -- was the lease-holder and paid the $850 monthly rent on the apartment for Giordano, who did not work.

Vanderbeck last saw him on June 8, when he stopped by to pay the June rent. It was a few days late, but he had called to let Vanderbeck know he wouldn’t be able to come by until then.

“He was very responsible,”said Vanderbeck, who said he only interacted with him in a business context. “He had a serious demeanor.”

Digirolamo, a computer analyst for Conair in Hightstown, last showed up for work on June 11. Neither his wife nor other family members have called the company to ask about his whereabouts, Conair Vice President John Mayorek told the Times on Monday: “We don’t know what’s going on. He was a very good employee.”

http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070619/NEWS/70619034

So two questions:

Who updated her MySpace account?

What did Digirolamo say (or leave in a note) that made his wife not need to call his work looking for him?

 

[BethInAK]

I can't wrap my brain around this one... what is going on???
That little boy, his eyes, there is no way this mother would abandon him. He looks like such a happy little baby.

I think she was killed by the boyfriend and he dumped the kid.

 

[mysteriew]

snip....Authorities also said that they are searching for the father of the baby as part of their investigation.

Management at an East Windsor ShopRite confirmed Wednesday that Amy Girodano, the mother of abandoned baby Michael Digirolamo, was captured on surveillance camera buying baby formula and diapers on Thursday June 7 at 7:30 p.m.
http://cbs3.com/topstories/local_story_172173517.html

New Twist in Abandoned Toddler Case
Police said Digirolamo's wife had no idea that he had a three-year relationship with Giordano or that the couple also had a son.

Digirolamo went to work at Conair in East Windsor on June 11. He has not been seen since. He did speak to his father, who lives in Brooklyn, on June 12. Details of that conversation have not been released.

Police also sealed Giordano's apartment in case they eventually find evidence that a crime has been committed.

Police said she talked to her 6-year-old son, who lives with his father in Brooklyn, on June 8. Police said she did not sound distressed.
http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?section=local&id=5410094

 

[OneLostGrl]

oh, great. so i guess the next time, a poor desperate mother will just kill her child, if she cannot take care of them?? so now on top of all her other troubles, she will have legal troubles. that's just perfect. nice society we live in... we are anti-sex ed, we are anti-abortion, planned parenthood clinics constantly having their funds cut down to nothing by our stupid inept government, (and they are targets for religious idiots with bombs!).. wages for unskilled labor have stagnated while the cost of everything skyrockets... meanwhile if someone DOES have a kid they can no longer care for, they get charged for abandoning them at a hospital.

question: can people still legally leave a baby on a church doorstep without being charged with abandonment? whatever happened to that? what are their other options? i imagine that if they try to give up legal custody with social services or an adoption agency, they will probably be sucked into some long, drawn-out beareaucratic nightmare of counselling, endless paperwork, as they try to convince the parent to keep the child against their wishes. it's possible that sometimes people just can't take it anymore... thay are on shaky ground to begin with, and then their circumstances change for the worse... then what the heck are they supposed to do? it's no wonder people end up abusing and killing their children. i'm not saying that is a legitimate excuse... i'm saying, no wonder it leads to this, if there are no other options!!! i think if a parent themselves decides they can't handle it, we should BELIEVE THEM! and for god's sake, help the parent find a better home for the kid without CHARGING THEM like a criminal. i understand why people shouldn't just abandon their kids- and why i's a crime, but if we are going to have these laws, we need to have BETTER OPTIONS easily available for parents to give up their kids... how about we bring back orphanages for starters. AND offer free, easy sterilization for ANYONE who wants it! of course if we would stop spending so much money trying to democracize the entire world.. we might have a little more funds to do these things.

Excellent post, reb!!

 

[petra]

Bumping for Amy. Hoping she is safe and gets the help she needs.