This is exactly how I feel! It's hard for me to buy the "he kept her drugged so he could control her" line of thought. I feel like SHE probably controlled HIM but good and, as Shamrock says, he was besotted with her. A large part of me relates to ANS - she wanted to be high all the time and would do anything to stay that way and she had a monster tolerance and an endless supply - because I was like that once. You can only live like that for so long. And if you are a beautiful charismatic woman, it's not hard to bring people under your spell.
I'm not saying HKS is the paragon of virtue or anything - just that I "get" him and I've seen him many times before in different forms. And as for the thought that if he truly loved her, he would have helped her get clean - maybe he had tried before, I don't know. What I do know is that you can love someone so much it takes your breathe away and STILL not be able to do a single thing to get them to stop hurting themselves.
I wonder if they're going to start arresting all enablers when things go bad for the addict! It is an interesting and heartbreaking case to follow. My heart goes out to everyone involved!