OT: This is a very light hearted and silly analogy, but in a way it may be a parallel in a way.
DD#2 just came in to tell me that she had asked DD#1 to use the bathroom downstairs as she wanted to take a shower and did not wish to do so in an odorous environment. DD#1 did not listen and did not oblige, and did not take DD#2's feelings into account. So now DD#2 is complaining to me. I have to tell DD#1 to get the Glade spray to ameliorate the situation. DD#1 tells me she had lit a candle, which is somewhat helpful, but not as effective.
Neither one wanted to be inconvenienced. Neither one respected the other's POV. Both thought they were entitled to use the bathroom for their specific needs. One protested. The other didn't listen. One needed me to mediate this ridiculous situation (mind you they are 23 and 21). Now there is an awareness of the other's POV and hopefully this won't be an issue again, however I doubt it.
I post this not to diminish the seriousness of the topic at hand. I post this as an example of how not listening with consideration of another can cause a problem, however minor and ridiculous as this one is. I hope you all were able to smile and relate in some way to the burden of being a parent today.